Re: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!

From: Rick
Sent on: Saturday, December 22, 2012 10:55 PM
Being a newcomer (June) to the area, I can't say where to meet.  I can suggest some characteristics that make for good/bad mixers.

  • Loud music big environments tend to be bad for mixers.   People can't communicate or meet new people.  Great for cruising and encouraging people to drink, but not talking.
  • An activity (ies) allows for awkward periods with no conversation to go by (seeing something, doing something in common).
  • Movies are people sitting quietly looking at a wall and not communicating.
  • People have lousy memories.  As corny as it sounds, name tags are appreciated.
  • Some structure helps.  Greeters, formal activities, etc.  People don't feel left out, unwelcome or strange when they come in if they don't know anyone.  
  • Everyone should be encouraged to mix away from their friends.  The purpose is to meet new people, not to form cliques.  Structure can help here.
  • There are great "sources" of activities in books of "new games" or in activities for ice breaking.
  • Activities (such as trips) also can create the common bond.
  • Someone should "scout out" any activity beforehand and provide clear instructions—where to park, how to identify the location, etc.  Information should be provided such as who the audience is for—men, women, singles, couples, is there a cost, etc., etc. People are nervous when they don't know what to expect.


Cheers,

Rick



From: Patrick <[address removed]>
Reply-To: <[address removed]>
Date: Saturday, December 22,[masked]:48 PM
To: <[address removed]>
Subject: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!

Who all would be interested in having rotating friday or saturday night mixers?

And if we did, where should they be? I proposed one at another gay socials site,

wondering if everyone here has a good idea for one?

cheers!





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