What we're about

Originally, this group was called, "Adventures in Language," but after our first meeting, I realized I needed to reshape it a bit to make it clearer what the group's about. Sorry for the length of this, but all this is brand new and original, and I think an explanation will help.

My name is Gracen Lynch, creator of "The Language Box Perspective," and I am offering talks about how it works, and why. It is the most fun I've had and the most powerful practice in language I have ever found. I uncovered the centerpiece by accident in 2011, and have been using it ever since. It is the only set of tools of which I am aware, that allow me, with my form of autism, to interact significantly and healthily with the world around me, a world built to function and support a neurotypically dominant form of language which I still find difficult, but used to find completely unworkable.

My form of autism (it used to be called Aspergers) was not even recognized until the 90s. I was born in the 60s. Therefore, for me, there was no hope of diagnosing it early. As a consequence, I was misdiagnosed for 30 years, including heavy meds, hospitalizations, and ECTs. Not understanding the autism interfered with every aspect of my life, not the least of which were: accurate medical diagnoses, trauma care that didn't make everything worse, and all forms of relationship. In 2011, my doctor took me off of the meds and my life fell apart.

I would not be diagnosed ASD for 6 more years. During that time, I looked to the world for coping tools because I was still frightened and traumatized living in a world that processed reality so differently than I do. I found nothing that spoke to my situation. As I had worked very hard throughout my life with my faith, my recovery journey from addiction, my therapy, and my medical care, I felt all of them had failed me at once. With nowhere to turn and no one to guide me, I decided to take a long shot. I would look to my own approach to what I faced to see if something in the way I was framing my problem was getting in the way of solving it.

It was a simple idea.

I shaped a new set of tools which I came to call "Suggestions" and, having some experience with certain twelve step programs, I guided my research into how my own language worked using those as a general template. As a result, completely by accident, I had the sudden experience of knowing that though my understanding of language changed through time, the APPROACH I used to build that understanding, did not. I call this, the Language Box Experience, because for the first time I got to see that I had been living my entire life inside a "box" of language. Language turned out not to be the prison I had thought it was. All I had to do was see the door, and walk out into reality.

It was a revelation that changed my life. From then on, I found I could stand in language with others - their paradigms, their roles, their norms, their expectations - but never get lost again, or, more accurately, to never lose MYSELF again. I could finally sort out being my own person, my priorities, my needs, my goals, and my purpose. I'd never had those before. I began to find some peace with myself and with the world around me. Life started becoming something beautiful instead of what it had been - endlessly painful and frightening, a bizarre place I could never escape, yet never join. I began to feel free to define myself and my voice.

This is not a mystical thing. It's not therapy or recovery. It isn't religion. It isn't psychology. All it really is, is an entirely new way to look at one's own relationship with language. Based on the idea that I cannot solve a problem without identifying first, LBP tools often go very quickly and immediately to any language problem I have found, and allow me to take responsiblity for myself, set clearer and fairer boundaries, sort out emotional charge, and see through illusions that come up quite commonly in the neurotypical world. But most of all, this work has led me to see how incredibly beautiful each human being is. Each of us has our unique way of language, and each of us a unique perspective to offer the world.

I hold BS degrees in mathematics and English (1987) as well as computer science (2005) from SUNY Brockport. I have been a writer, blogger, and vlogger for the past 35 years. My form of autism, the best I can describe it, makes me see everything in reality as one continuous piece of music. To me, everything is music, and I have been a pianist for more than 50 years now. I am also a member of Mensa. I was invited to that the same week I was diagnosed with autism. I use all of this to practice and develop my work. I have found that when a person, any person, apparently, has a problem in life to which they can see no solution, my tools offer an entirely different way to look at what it is, and, with work and practice, build a way out of it.

The purpose in our meetup is for me to share these tools so that anyone who wishes can see, perhaps for the first time, that they have been living in a very small language house, maybe a cocoon even, and begin to know that it is time for them to emerge into adult language users, beautiful and miraculous human beings more powered and prepared to share their particular blessing with the world. Our world is not hopeless, because we, as human beings, have just begun. I am honored to share this with you. All are welcome.

Peace, Gracen

Upcoming events (5+)

Adventuring 101

439 Monroe Ave

This is a slight change, as we will be shifting to 3rd Thursday from 7 to 9, rather than previously thought. Time to open the door to our language "houses," and explore another side to what it means to be a human being. Simple tools, Q & A, fun exercises. I might suggest bringing a notebook and something to write with. Light refreshments. Hope to see you all there. First meeting was fun.

Adventuring 101

439 Monroe Ave

This is a slight change, as we will be shifting to 3rd Thursday from 7 to 9, rather than previously thought. Time to open the door to our language "houses," and explore another side to what it means to be a human being. Simple tools, Q & A, fun exercises. I might suggest bringing a notebook and something to write with. Light refreshments. Hope to see you all there. First meeting was fun.

Adventuring 101

439 Monroe Ave

This is a slight change, as we will be shifting to 3rd Thursday from 7 to 9, rather than previously thought. Time to open the door to our language "houses," and explore another side to what it means to be a human being. Simple tools, Q & A, fun exercises. I might suggest bringing a notebook and something to write with. Light refreshments. Hope to see you all there. First meeting was fun.

Adventuring 101

439 Monroe Ave

This is a slight change, as we will be shifting to 3rd Thursday from 7 to 9, rather than previously thought. Time to open the door to our language "houses," and explore another side to what it means to be a human being. Simple tools, Q & A, fun exercises. I might suggest bringing a notebook and something to write with. Light refreshments. Hope to see you all there. First meeting was fun.

Past events (1)

Introductory Talk, followed by Q & A

439 Monroe Ave

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