I noticed spending time with family this Christmas, that my mind seemed to operate in two modes. One mode was the comparing, judgemental mind. The one that was talking to me, saying "we should not be disagreeing with each other at the dinner table, this is terrible" or "I wish I had a beautiful home like my sisters". Then, sometimes, my mind would go into what I now call "living mode", where I just was. Where I would watch my relatives with appreciation and gratitude and not overthink everything, in the conventional sense of thinking. That space got quite creative and fun and was able to ride the "less agreeable" aspects of family time without undue drama. My judging brain, however, never seemed to get enough of itself. Left to its own devices, it could still be sitting here judging my sister's house or my son's comments. Turns out this two brain model has some validity in both science and philosophy. The left brain interpreter is always looking to parse life out, make up a story about our experience, judge it, compare to other (also made up) stories. And we are noticing that the mind can also be another place, some call it "right brain" where it just is. operating seemingly effortlessly, relying on intuition and a sense of knowing. Some call that brain "flow" or "why" brain. I know I am in that space when the stress goes away. Where I am not questioning everything I think or do or say. Where I am not then judging everyone else.
Perhaps these are the two metaphorical wolfs in the grandmother's tale. While the concept of New Year's resolutions really triggers my "it isn't good enough" left brain interpreter, I do notice an intention to feed the wolf of being and not thinking. Of seeing how it is to move in the world knowing I don't have to overthink everything, in the conventional sense of overthinking. Switching mindsets is what "The Work" does. It allows me to see that these thoughts I think I rely on to live my life are inaccurate and untrue and then helps me find the truth. Living out of that space is so much easier. Please join Ian and I as we explore the paradigm of the two minds and do the work to set ourselves straight!
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