A few years ago, Marblehead Bonhomie was created for the purpose of fostering friendship among kind and intelligent people in the Marblehead area. Being newcomers to the area, my husband and I learned that is was not as easy as we’d hoped to become part of a community that places great value on folks having grown up here and even coming from several generations in town. My husband is content to be less social but I greatly miss the easy and lively friendships with other couples nearby who are smart and compassionate, who read good books, value inclusiveness, good humor and conversation, who care about the world outside their own personal universe. We came to realize that finding those sort of friends as newcomers in our town, without any historical ties, would take a little effort. The original group agenda was overly ambitious, too many activities and too little participation by others. This time let’s keep it simple: maybe just start with a couples picnic at sunset on the beach or meet for cocktails or dinner at a restaurant. I say “couples” for 2 reasons: 1) at our age (I’m nearly mid-60’s and my husband late 70’s) it is especially hard to meet other couples and; 2) somehow no matter how many times one reiterates THIS IS NOT A GROUP TO MEET SINGLES, there often seems to be that underlying agenda unless the emphasis is on couples. “Singles” groups just feel different. Many social groups are about meeting other singles so if that is what you are looking for in a group, best to join one that has that as its mission. The basic ethos of Bonhomie (translated: "genial company") is of kindness, mutual respect, cultural diversity and the simple enjoyment of nice activities shared with others. The members should have no agenda beyond that—no “selling” services or products, no mean stuff. We can see how it evolves and what kind of activities are of interest to members. We look forward to meeting you!
***please do not be offended if you get a notification stating you have been removed from the group! It has been a couple of years since the original group was active and the group as described above may actually not still be what you want (eg since emphasis is on couples). Since the member list is very out of date please read description and if you are still on list and don’t see it as a fit, please remove yourself. If you do want to participate as described, let’s start afresh. If you are interested in joining the group as it has been “re-tooled”, feel free to join. Warm regards, Jamie & Howard