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Would you like to better connect with others in social settings? Or maybe just better communicate with your kids? What if you knew how to handle that difficult person at work? Or knew how to politely but firmly say 'no thank you' without worrying about hurting the person‘s feelings? And the grand Pooh Bah – what if you had a way to not let anyone push your buttons? If you remained calm and collected in stressful situations and never let your emotions get the best of you?

Each of the situations can be addressed successfully by using emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the art and science of effectively using emotions in your personal and professional lives. There are four major components to emotional intelligence:

Self-awareness - knowing what you’re feeling and why you are feeling it, and how you are showing up to others (for example, realizing you are afraid of rejection instead of just shutting down and avoiding the situation)

Self management - navigating challenging emotions for positive outcomes (talking yourself through that fear of rejection and forging ahead)

Social awareness - recognizing others emotions (reading verbal and nonverbal cues to know if someone is on board with what you are saying or not)

Relationship management - using social awareness to manage interactions effectively (modifying your approach so others remain open to and not triggered by your words or actions)

This group is intended to create a safe space for adults to have meaningful conversations about life. If talking about the E word (emotion) makes you uncomfortable, consider this: neuroscience has proven a direct relationship between emotions and behavior, and it shows that all our decisions all have an emotional root. Since we make about 60,000 decisions every day, would you like to understand how to your emotions are playing a role in your life?

While we have no specific age requirements to join our group, most of our members are in their 40's and 50's. Anyone with a positive outlook and a healthy interest in personal growth is encouraged to join us. Please join us if you are interested in learning how to better connect with yourself and others and navigate your personal and professional lives.

Special Note: To maximize quality group participation, the event size is generally limited to 15. Because there is often a wait list for our events, we request a 48 hour notice if you discover you cannot attend - whether you are on the attending or wait list. This gives those on the wait list a chance to join us. Canceling in less than 48 hours will result in a No Show. Each member gets three No Shows or three opportunities to keep their membership in a twelve month period. And because we usually have people on the wait list, we don't accept drop ins on the day of the meetup, even if there is space. That would be unfair to those who took the time to RSVP and join the wait list. Thank you for understanding and respecting our policy.

We hope you'll join us and look forward to seeing you at an event soon!

Dawn

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Why Men are like Waffles and Women are like Spaghetti

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Women, ever wonder why a man seems to ignore you sometimes? Or why he doesn't want to ‘talk about it’? And why does he resist emotional intimacy until after physical intimacy? Men, do you ever wish she would just leave the past in the past? Does it boggle your mind that she can talk… and talk… and TALK about the most mundane things? And why, when you ask which restaurant she wishes to go to tonight, does she give you a paragraph on restaurant choices AND a story about the last one she visited? The reasons for all of these differences has to do with our brain makeup, not deficiencies of the opposite sex. Join us and learn the fascinating neuroscience differences between the male and female brains that make us act so seemingly crazy. I will be presenting several interesting tidbits of research that will help you better understand the opposite sex and maybe even yourself. For example, you will learn why most women need foreplay and why most men need the remote, as well as many other curious facts. If you attended this topic previously, please graciously refrain from RSVPing to allow other members to attend. Please respect the Late Cancel/No Show policy and take yourself off the attending and wait lists 48 hours before this event. Thank you.

Why Men are like Waffles and Women are like Spaghetti

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Women, ever wonder why a man seems to ignore you sometimes? Or why he doesn't want to ‘talk about it’? And why does he resist emotional intimacy until after physical intimacy? Men, do you ever wish she would just leave the past in the past? Does it boggle your mind that she can talk… and talk… and TALK about the most mundane things? And why, when you ask which restaurant she wishes to go to tonight, does she give you a paragraph on restaurant choices AND a story about the last one she visited? The reasons for all of these differences has to do with our brain makeup, not deficiencies of the opposite sex. Join us and learn the fascinating neuroscience differences between the male and female brains that make us act so seemingly crazy. I will be presenting several interesting tidbits of research that will help you better understand the opposite sex and maybe even yourself. For example, you will learn why most women need foreplay and why most men need the remote, as well as many other curious facts. If you attended this topic previously, please graciously refrain from RSVPing to allow other members to attend. Please respect the Late Cancel/No Show policy and take yourself off the attending and wait lists 48 hours before this event. Thank you.

Want to know a secret?

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Would you like to know the secret to getting on the attending list for this group? Here's how the veteran members tell me they do it. Check the site periodically to see if an event has been added and look for the RSVP opening date. Mark you calendar for that date and sign up when the RSVPs open. Don't wait for the announcement email. You can wait until I announce a new meetup, which means you and all members will get an email describing the topic, and make note of the RSVP date then. Typically, the RSVPs won't be open yet since I try to set up and announce new meetups more than 2 weeks before the event date and I set the RSVP date for 2 weeks or 10 days before the event. I don't think the RSVP date is in that announcement email; meetup auto generates them when I click 'Announce Meetup'. If you are wondering why the RSVPs don't open further out, it's because in the 6+ years of running this meetup, I've learned that people have good intentions when they sign up, but if it's more than 2 weeks out, they tend to forget they've signed up and make other plans. No Shows/Late Cancels were a huge issue the first year because of that. And because I limit the size of each event to 15 to maintain the quality of the discussion, even one No Show has an impact. What impact? Someone on the wait list could have attended. Plus the restaurant is graciously reserving space for 15 people in exchange for 15 meals to be ordered. When someone doesn't cancel early enough for a wait lister to get moved up, or they just No Show, the restaurant loses out. (A related note: if you attend, please purchase something, even if it is an appetizer. These events are free to attend but if we don't hold up our end the restaurant could easily turn us away since they don't make enough money on our group. It's hard enough to find restaurants that don't charge a minimum for their rooms.) Lastly, please let me explain how I schedule meetups so we can prevent members asking at the last minute if they can attend because they see one spot open. First, we honor the wait list. If you join the wait list, you can be assured that if a spot opens more than 48 hours out, and you are at the top of the wait list, you will get moved to the attending list. Meetup automatically does this. I schedule the RSVPs to close 24 hrs before the event yet have a policy for everyone to cancel 48 hrs before if they can't attend, whether on attending or wait list. Why? Because if someone cancels two days out and RSVPs are still open, Meetup will move someone on the wait list up. Hopefully 48 hrs is enough notice for people to A) see the email notification they have been moved up and B) ensure they are still available to attend. If they aren't available, they can change their RSVP to 'Not Going' and the next person on the wait list gets moved up. If someone cancels in less than 24 hours, history has shown that most people either don't know they got moved to attending or have made other plans. Hence, the 48-hour cancellation policy. Closing the RSVPs 24 hrs before the event prevents Meetup from automatically moving someone from the wait list to attending when someone cancels less than 24 hrs out. This reduces the number of No Shows because someone got moved to attending in the last 24 hrs and didn't know or couldn't come. It also prevents people from RSVPing 24 hrs before the event and thinking they can attend because they saw a spot open. We DO honor the wait list and we usually have a wait list; it is very rare you would be able to attend after RSVPing in less than 24-48 hours. Also, if you join the wait list and we have at least 12 waiting, I will add that topic again and you get first dibs to RSVP. I will email wait listers that I've added a date but not announce the new date to the entire meetup group until after you've had a chance to RSVP, usually 24 hrs. Savvy veterans who know to check the site often might RSVP though. Thank you for reading. Dawn

Are You Mindful?

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Mindfulness is a relatively new concept for many of us, yet it has been around for several years. With its roots in Buddhist meditation, it made an appearance in mainstream America in the late 70’s and has taken the neuroscience community by storm over the last decade. What exactly is mindfulness? It is a state of being fully aware and in the moment, noticing what you experience the moment you are experiencing it without judgment. So no rehashing the past, no imagining the future. Just being comfortable with what’s happening right now. Similar to meditation, it involves being aware of your thoughts. Unlike traditional meditation, you are not required to clear your thoughts. Instead, you become intensely aware of them. But it doesn’t stop there. You also become aware of your emotions, senses, perceptions, etc. So how does this relate to being emotionally intelligent? Research shows that practicing mindfulness increases EQ competencies like compassion, empathy and stress management. It literally changes your brain so that you are slower to trigger. (Now that’s worth the price of admission right there!) It also enhances relationships because couples who practice it feel more satisfied and closer to each other. Additionally, mindfulness increases our ability to focus and stay in the present moment. How valuable is that when you are in conversation with someone interesting? Here is a link to a quiz to help you determine how mindful you are in general. Please take it and be brutally honest. I was and it showed in my score. (It wasn’t awful, but I definitely have work to do!) http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/quizzes/take_quiz/4 Please be ‘mindful’ of the late cancellation/no show policy and change your RSVP no less than 48 hours before this event if you are not planning to attend. (Even if you’re on the wait list.)

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