My son is getting married in September.
The cost to the bride's family is the largest expense. The cost to
my family is inching close to five figures. My guess is that with
all the gifts that will be given the total may be in the neighborhood
of $100,000. In recent months my son and his prospective bride paid
for two different plane fares to destination weddings. These fancy
weddings seem to be a cultural norm.
Am I crazy or does this seem to be a
bit much to others on our group? Yes this is a special day for two
wonderful young people. There is a quaint echo of the old potlatch
tradition with some American Indian tribes, be extremely generous to
other people in the feast that you host and the gifts that you give
and whoever is more extravagant is deemed to be the winner and thus
more worthy of prestige and status. ????
We are a group that questions more than
other groups do. Should we be questioning this institution? I will shortly leave to for a taste testing to select dishes that will be used for a
People feel a need to practice these
things to make sure that they are getting it right. So we will
practice eating the various dishes to make sure that real practice
hits just the right note.