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From: Don W.
Sent on: Saturday, August 31, 2013 4:03 PM
My son is getting married in September. The cost to the bride's family is the largest expense. The cost to my family is inching close to five figures. My guess is that with all the gifts that will be given the total may be in the neighborhood of $100,000. In recent months my son and his prospective bride paid for two different plane fares to destination weddings. These fancy weddings seem to be a cultural norm.
Am I crazy or does this seem to be a bit much to others on our group? Yes this is a special day for two wonderful young people. There is a quaint echo of the old potlatch tradition with some American Indian tribes, be extremely generous to other people in the feast that you host and the gifts that you give and whoever is more extravagant is deemed to be the winner and thus more worthy of prestige and status. ????
We are a group that questions more than other groups do. Should we be questioning this institution?  I will shortly leave to for a taste testing to select dishes that will be used for a "rehearsal dinner." 
People feel a need to practice these things to make sure that they are getting it right. So we will practice eating the various dishes to make sure that real practice hits just the right note.

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