You’ve tried everything, and nothing works? Perhaps you’ve been trying the wrong things, or you wouldn’t still be suffering. I tried them all, and they didn’t work for me, either. So I drank and took drugs because I wanted to be someone else―someone who didn’t have social anxiety. I couldn’t hold down a job because I felt inadequate and worthless. I couldn’t talk to people because I had nothing to offer. I lied and made up stories because my reality was too depressing. I had no value, no self–esteem. I’ve been where you are now, and I’m telling you, your fears and perceptions are false and irrational.
These behaviors are easily addressed, but nothing will happen if you don’t commit. I’ve spent my life researching methods and programs. Now that I’ve overcome my SA, I refuse to sit back and watch you suffer without assisting in your recovery. I don’t want anyone to endure the turmoil that social anxiety brings. I felt miserable and worthless for much of my life. I’m now a Ph.D. and published in over 40 countries. I have self-esteem and the respect of my colleagues. I can enjoy life to the fullest.
Half of the LGBT Community suffer from some form of social anxiety! You don’t have to be one of them. You are looking into this group because you have a problem. Now all you have to do is join us and show up to a meeting so we can begin to fix it.
Here’s a riddle for you. What comes between joining GMSAW and showing up for a meeting? Answer: excuses. ”I’m too tired. It’s too far. I have a headache. Nothing ever works, anyway.” I challenge you to come up with an excuse I haven’t used.
Now consider this. What if the next meeting is the one that holds the key to your emotional survival? But you miss out because you don’t show up. The only thing worse than missed opportunity is the regret that lingers because you didn’t take advantage of the possibility. I know how difficult it can be to attend a meeting. I’ve been there, I endured SA for years. I beat it. And I am certainly no better than you.
You are entitled to all the universe has to offer but you have to claim it. Don’t crush the possibility of enjoying life without SA because of some irrational fears. Think about it. What do you have to lose? You’re already miserable. That’s the ‘gift’ that your social anxiety keeps on giving.
We gather at the Oakland LGBTQ Center. Our meetings are limited to a small number so that everyone has the opportunity to participate. The first step in participating is showing up.
See you there,
Robert F. Mullen, Ph.D.