What we're about
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This Meetup Group is for Kiwi childless-by-circumstance women. Those circumstances might include infertility, not meeting the right partner in time (or yet), your partner not wanting (more children) and so many other ways that we can end up not being mothers when that wasn't the plan!
One of the things about not having children when most of your peers do can be that your social circle dwindles or dries up completely. This can leave you feeling very left out of 'normal' life - which in turn can make dealing with the unexpected situation you find yourself in even tricker on some days!
If you're childfree (ie: childless-by-choice) you're welcome to join us, but you'll find that most of us are childless-by-circumstance which means that we wanted to have children (or are still hoping to one day) but:
• we didn't (or haven't yet) met the right partner
• we've got infertility issues
• we've come to the end of fertility treatments
• becoming a voluntary single-mother isn't right for us
• we've got partners who don't want children (or more children)
• we've got genetic or medical conditions that mean we've chosen not to have children
• we're ineligible as adoptive parents
• adoption isn't right for us
You may have heard about this group through an article in Sunday in December 2014. You can read the article here (http://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/life/64056913/Jody-Day-has-accepted-being-childless-in-a-motherhood-mad-world) - we got the front cover! It's an interview with me (Jody) about how I started GW and the philosophy behind it.
There are so many reasons why a woman doesn't have children, and this is one group where no-one will mouth well-meaning platitudes at you! Or even talk about it because it's the ONLY place that you won't have to explain how complicated and loaded childlessness can be in our culture right now!
Gateway Women also hosts a private online community (http://www.gateway-women.com/community) over on G+ which you're also very welcome to join. Sometimes members get to know each other there and then progress to meeting each other face-to-face via Meetup.
Any member is able to 'suggest' a meetup and it will then be approved by one of the organisers and will go live. So don't wait for something happening in your town - suggest one!
Gateway Women can be any age with the majority of us are from our late-30s to late-50s. Some of us have partners, some of us are single, some of us are divorced, some of us don't fit any of those categories and that's fine too. Heterosexual, bi and gay members welcome.
Gateway Women are a band of very diverse women, but we all share the feeling of 'not fitting in' to a culture that doesn't seem to have a place for us.
You're not weird. You're not alone. You're a Gateway Woman.
And this is your Tribe. Welcome!
Founder of Gateway Women & Author of "Rocking the Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfiling Life Without Children" (http://www.gateway-women.com/book)