What we're about

We are a group of gay/bi men interested in intimacy and connection with other men.

We organise different kinds of activities to have fun, make connections, make friends, have relationships, develop intimacy skills and a sense of community.

Please see our Youtube Film (http://www.lovingmen.org/wilm.html) to find out more about our events!

Upcoming events (5)

Black Lives Matter Heart Circle

Online event

Please come and join us for this specially themed heart circle. Our hosts will be holding a heart centred space for us to reflect on the impact that the global Black Lives Matter movement has had on us personally and within our communities. Here is some information on the facilitators, Tom, Pavan and Wayne that they asked us to share with you: Tom Higgins is a psychotherapist and has spent over 20 years working in NHS mental health services, supporting people to overcome the psychological impact of trauma and of oppression. He has a deep interest in exploring Power, Privilege and Position in all aspects of life. Dr Pavan Joshi is an NHS consultant psychiatrist and a fellow of the Royal College of Psychiatrists. He has about 20 years of experience addressing his patients' needs for varying, and often complicated mental health issues. He has keen interest in recognising the relational effects of different intersectional identities including LGBTQ+, physical wellbeing, emigration and culture. Wayne Mertins-Brown is a Counsellor and Group-work Facilitator. He has spent many years working within charitable organisations, focussed on the mental wellbeing and sexual health of those who identify within the LGBTQ+ family. In particular, he has developed a specialism in counselling Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic (BAME), gay asylum seekers. To date, he has found this work to be the most impactful of his career. As well as being a trustee with 'Rainbow International LGBT Activist Solidarity Fund', Wayne is a practicing Nichiren Buddhist. The structure for the evening is to meet briefly as a whole group to arrive together and explain the process, and then, split into smaller groups for 90 minutes so that several heart circles can run concurrently. There will be a facilitator in each smaller group. We'll then have a tea break with opportunities to chat with others, and come together for a final 30 minutes to share in the whole group. Guidelines for a Loving Men Heart Circle The idea of the Heart Circle is to have a space to share from the heart with others. When it's your turn to speak you will have space to share whatever is going on for you. We suggest not thinking too much about what you are going to say before your turn, as this distracts from listening to others. It'’s better to be spontaneous when it's your turn, perhaps by starting with a couple of deep breaths to centre yourself and ask yourself the question: what is going on for me in my heart right now? As mentioned above, confidentiality is very important in a Heart Circle. Please don't repeat what others share in the heart circle outside of the heart circle. It's also a tradition not to address others directly. It's not a conversation. It's a sharing space, for each of us to share what is going on in our heart in turn. Sometimes people have feelings in a heart circle, tears or anger. That's OK. It's part of the process. If you resonate with what someone is saying - it speaks to you or moves you - you can 'sparkle' by using your hand to silently indicate this. As with all group work, the more you put in, the more you are likely to get out. Using Zoom adds a slight inhibiting effect, compared to being in each other's company. It's not so easy to read each other's subtle cues. So it's good to compensate for this a little, by speaking directly, acknowledging what others are saying and taking initiative within the session. Click here to book via Outsavvy https://www.outsavvy.com/event/4991/loving-men-heart-circle-black-lives-matter-tickets Our Heart Circles are provided on a Pay As You Can basis. You will receive a joining email with links to the Zoom room and a password.

Growing Up Gay: The adult maturing process for gay/bi men with Walt Odets

In this online workshop Tim will be talking with author and psychotherapist Walt Odets about his groundbreaking book Out of the Shadows. Drawing on a lifetime's work as a clinical psychologist in California, Walt uses Erik Erikson's 8 stages of life and the stories of his patients as well as those of his own deep relationships with other gay/bi men to illuminate the choices we make at different stages of life. The evening will include activities to reflect on your own developmental journey and time for group discussion. We'll focus on the adult stages of development proposed by Erikson, which address themes of Intimacy vs Isolation, Productivity vs Stagnation and Integrity vs Despair. Join us for a deep dive into a humane conversation about human development through a gay/bi lens. 'Odets's warm and lyrical voice, his inspiring picture of how imaginative gay life can be, has sent me queuing for the couch.' Evening Standard 'A gay man could read this book as if his life depended on it - and perhaps it does' Andrew Holleran, author of Dancer from the Dance Click here to book via Outsavvy https://www.outsavvy.com/event/4992/growing-up-gay-the-adult-maturing-process-for-gaybi-men-tickets Earlybird tickets £15 + booking fee (available until 18 October) Standard tickets £20 + booking fee

Yoga For Men - Feel Good Fridays With Tom

The Bridge


Yoga For Gay, Bi & Queer Men comes to London on Feel Good Fridays,[masked] at the 5th Floor Studio, The Bridge with Tom Cowan. Community - regular drop in class for gay, bi & queer men of all ages to come together and feel part of a growing community. Acceptance - space to share with other men which is free of judgement, shaming and blaming. Embodied - simple, easy to follow movements that help the body move, easing pain and restrictions leaving the body feeling lighter and freer. Digital detox - An opportunity to switch off the phone, leave work behind and meet friendly, open men in the room who are here for the same reasons as you. Meditation - techniques and micro practices that you can take home and use to relieve tension, stress and anxiety. Supportive - learn the basics of yoga in a supportive environment where there is no way to get anything wrong. Do it your way! Playful - Join a fun & playful group of men who want to connect with each other. Accessible - Each class is taught to the men in the room so beginners are welcome. The yoga will offer different stages where you can find the place that best suits you. Understanding - A teacher with many years experience of working with male anatomy, who understands it can take time for the body to change and so there is no pressure to be anything other than as your are! Connection - Opportunities to meet other men in partner postures, coming into contact in a way that is comfortable for you. It's your body so you decide how to meet others in the practice. Respect - A respect from everyone in the class of your boundaries. All classes are clothed and consent is always paramount when we come into closer contact. Safety - A safe and held space with Tom who has many years experience teaching yoga, offering bodywork and facilitating groups for gay, bi and queer men. We welcome gay and bi men, and gender non-binary people, from all walks of life who want to develop their capacity to connect with other men. We particularly encourage participation from black and ethnic minority men, HIV positive and negative men, young and older men, trans men and disabled men (who are able to sit, kneel and stand). Mats & blocks provided. Wear comfy, stretchy clothes. Bring a blanket if you like a cosy relaxation to finish. The 5th Floor Studio at The Bridge is a ten minute walk from London Bridge Underground station. You're welcome to arrive from 1815 to settle in before we begin. Book in advance to guarantee your place! https://www.outsavvy.com/event/2851/loving-men-yoga-for-men-tickets £15 My website www.tomcowan.info

Yoga For Men - Feel Good Fridays With Andy

The Bridge

Join experienced yoga, bodywork and mindfulness teacher Andy Butterfield in a monthly class designed to release tension and pain, improve breathing, strength and flexibility and the capacity to handle stress better. Connect with your tribe and let your body and your being know it matters. Yoga will be gently challenging, whatever level you’re at. Options will be given and the class is open to anyone. All equipment is provided but you might want to bring a towel and a bottle of water. Places are limited so please book in advance here: https://www.outsavvy.com/event/3492/loving-men-yoga-for-men-with-andy-feel-good-fridays-london-tickets £15

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Yoga For Men - Feel Good Fridays - With Andy

The Bridge


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