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This is for the party poopers, complainers, cyber harassers, people who don't have a photo on their profile... Ajajajjj! (The rest of you can just delete it.) Thanks!

From: Nanda D.
Sent on: Monday, June 18, 2012 10:46 AM

Dear Hungarian Meetup Members,

I’m only planning to send this announcement out once, so please pay attention and if any of the parts apply to you, take it to heart and fix what you can, it is much appreciated. I'm typing this on a break from work, so I won't beat around the bush, and if it offends you, it is probably your proverbial shirt and you need to put it on... (Hungarian saying. If you don't get it, don't worry about it.)

1. There are a few people in our group who can’t seem to understand that we are not a politics and religion discussion group. I’m constantly getting complaints from other members about this. If you are the type of person who cannot live without discussing the above on a daily basis, you are in luck: there are dozens of meetup groups in the LA area that are about your field of interest. Please run a search on by subject and you will find them. Join them and satisfy your craving among your fellows and let’s keep this group about Hungarian language and culture.

2. Unfortunately, I am constantly dealing with people who are not computer savvy... If you see a link in an email and you try to click on it but nothing comes up, please do not email me, do this instead: highlight the link and copy and paste it in a new browser window. Or just go to and you will see all the news right there. You can RSVP and comment right there. Having to explain this one by one once a week is getting a bit tiring, soif you could keep this email and refer to it when you are in trouble that would help me out greatly. Also, if you receive an email and it’s in English only, hopefully you understand that I did not have time to type it in Hungarian (as I don’t have the right keyboard and inserting the accent marks takes me too long). We live in the US, hopefully we all speak English… When you come to an event, you will hear all the Hungarian you ever wanted. You will probably have to ask us to switch back to English… So just deal with it in writing, please. Also, those of you who are not so email savvy, please always look at the sender. If it says [address removed] and you reply to it, I will NOT receive it. If it says [address removed], I will receive it and reply to you – after I’ve replied to my work emails and personal emails. If you expect an instant response, you will be disappointed. This is my hobby, but not my life.

3. We have a few party poopers in our otherwise great group, who have something negative to say about everything and to everyone. I’ve been trying to deal with it by not being around those people much, but when I get complaints after each event from a bunch of people about how unpleasant it was sitting next to you and listening to your whining, watching you huff and puff, or hearing your anecdotes about the series of great injustices your life seems to be, we have a problem. (On a similar note, if you constantly complain about the way the events are organized and ran, the number of people who show up, the kind of people who come, the food, the mood, and anything else, please feel free to do better. I can always use some help in organizing. Same goes for photos uploaded, emails sent out, signs put out during events and the like – you are welcome to help with those. Thanks!) Now, if you feel inclined to cyber harrass anyone (and yes, this includes sending emails to ask them to “hang out” – this is NOT a dating group!), take note of the same, because you ARE making other members feel uncomfortable. I’m not going to let a few people ruin a good thing for everyone else. Please adjust your attitude if it needs to be adjusted, before I have to ask you to leave the group.

4. This one is a small issue and should be easy to fix. If you don’t have a photo posted in your profile, please post one. At the end of the month I’m going to remove all “ghost” profiles. We would all like to know who to look for at events and without a clear face photo, we have no chance of recognizing you at an event. We also have events that take place in someone’s home. I’m getting ready to host one… And you can be sure that if you posted no face picture, you are not coming anywhere near my house! Enough said. (If we have tagged you in a picture before because you’ve attended an event, you are fine. This is for those who neither come to events, nor bother to post a picture and an intro.)

5. Last but not least: I run this group for free. (Not really, I pay a monthly fee for the “privilege” to deal with the above issues… But it is free as in I don’t get paid to do this.) So if you think that I’m kidding when I say that I will no longer put up with the above issues, you are in for a surprise. This is a hobby for me and for the core members of the group who constantly come to the events. We get together because we enjoy each other’s company. It’s something I/we would like to keep as fun as possible, so in light of that, I will remove you from the group in a heartbeat if you try to ruin it for us, because honestly, I’d rather have fewer members who actually enjoy this group and make it enjoyable for the rest of us than more people but more trouble too...

Now, if it doesn’t apply to you, don't worry about it, just delete it and go and have yourself a wonderful day, while I reply to the whining that’s sure to come from the exact people I’m talking about above. Jajjjjj!!! (Seriously though, this applies to a small portion of the group, so if you are not one of them, don't sweat it. Just know that if you have been harassed/annoyed by any of the above people/issues, I'm on top of it...)


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