What we're about

The “Men in the Mirror” men's groups meet weekly for deep-felt conversation.

Speak openly and feel at ease with men you can really trust and count on.

  • Talk fearlessly about defeat, meaning, and rage
  • Always know what the others are feeling
  • Conquer disillusionment ― tremendously strong and joyful

The well-tuned connections and deep friendships within men's groups are the result of hard work. We go up and down through the stages of each feeling, whether we’re discussing omnipotence, doubt, guilt, loss, or conflicts in relationships. Expect the group to be receptive to your reason and passion. We have comfortable dialogues about what matters most to us. Weekly meetings to quest after our unsoiled sentiments.

  • Has it been a while since you truly felt valued somewhere?
  • Do you even know what you are entitled to in life?
  • What could the group do to really support you?

Men in the Mirror is a brotherly environment for cultivating the male soul and for helping you when you are stuck, in pain, or in a place of isolation.
Our group does not use set topics; we just come together to talk about whatever is on our minds. We discuss how to deal with situations, what we see as virtuous, or what we consider to be the right action. There is room to speak about what we feel ashamed of, are confused about, or are afraid of. And at other times, we can cheer a member's accomplishments or honour his fortitude.

So: if you care to talk to other men and investigate their views on how to live life the right way, then meet with us for a talk. Join us for unvarnished conversation and exchanges of consolation. You can expect a comfortable, confidential, and judgement-free environment.

Being reinless is strangely comforting.

―Men in the Mirror

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  • See the documentary
  • We have a group that meets in person in New Westminster and a group that meets via Skype. The former group is open to new members, the latter is not.
  • There is a membership fee of $30 per year, which is payable by eTransfer, PayPal, or in cash. However, you are welcome to check us out a few times before committing to any payments.
  • You are welcome to request a conversation by phone if that would help you decide whether this group is right for you. Simply write Tristan (the organizer) via meetup.com.
  • For discussions about anything related to men's work, join the Vancouver Men's Network Facebook group.
  • There are also many other men's groups in British Columbia.

Upcoming events (4+)

A council of highly supportive men

900 Carnarvon St

Meet with us in an all-male environment for unvarnished conversation. Feel welcome to have and disclose deep-rooted personal feelings.

In our men's group, we cut through bullshit and look at ourselves "in the mirror." We'll take a close look at everything in a safe atmosphere. Here, you’ll gain the perspectives of fellow men and the wisdom of the group. This is a confidential place for real support: a place to examine issues in yourself, your relationships, your work, and so on.

See also the documentary.

WHO WE ARE

We're not a forum for public issues and advocacy. We are also not a replacement for mental health support. We are just normal men—of all ages and races, with various backgrounds and ambitions, and without any shared affiliation to a religion or school of thought. Our group (usually of 6 to 8 men) has been meeting weekly, for years.

Currently, we are welcoming new men to join us.

BEING CHALLENGED

We value authenticity in others and ourselves. If someone feels you are not being genuine, forthcoming, or realistic, then you might get feedback about that (if you are open to it). It'll be a measured and caring challenge to look at things differently, or be accountable.

BEING IN A GROUP

Another element that you may come to appreciate is learning how to be part of a group, a brotherhood. How to make decisions together and notice what role you have, or how others see you. Collisions will occur, but that is okay; let's talk about them. Let's really figure things out. Our group is a safe space where we can learn to sit in conflict and not lose our voices.

Come meet our men and witness the inestimable connection we share. You can expect us to be interested in your story and to respond with curiosity; your willingness to speak will be valued. Tell us what's going on for you, what it's like to be in your situation, and what it's like to be you: a good man, possibly in a tough spot.

Come and speak the unspoken. Free yourself of private burdens by sharing them. Be you, as you really are.

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― The structure of the meeting ―

At the beginning of the evening, one of the more experienced men is selected as the host. He will determine the flow of the meeting and will also make sure that men do not interrupt one another.

The first part of the meeting is for check-ins. Every man can speak for a few minutes to disclose whatever is going on for him. At this stage, the other men only listen.

During the second part of the meeting, the host moderates various rounds of conversations. Typically, the personal subjects raised during the check-ins are looked at more closely, but new matters are welcome too. Before a man can speak, he needs to indicate to the host that he wants to jump in.

Any man is free to decline being the topic of discussion.

Men in the Mirror is a confidential group. This is the only rule and it concerns both the contents of the meeting and the identity of the men.

You need to arrive on time, and are requested to stay for the duration of the meeting.

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~ self-image ~ purpose ~ shame ~ being overwhelmed ~ accomplishments ~ the male identity ~ moral dilemmas ~ course of life ~ work ~ harassment ~ stress ~ recognition ~ ambition ~ relationships ~ loneliness ~ sex ~ family ~ health ~ discord ~ belonging ~ responsibilities ~

Members participate at the own risk.

A council of highly supportive men

900 Carnarvon St

Meet with us in an all-male environment for unvarnished conversation. Feel welcome to have and disclose deep-rooted personal feelings.

In our men's group, we cut through bullshit and look at ourselves "in the mirror." We'll take a close look at everything in a safe atmosphere. Here, you’ll gain the perspectives of fellow men and the wisdom of the group. This is a confidential place for real support: a place to examine issues in yourself, your relationships, your work, and so on.

See also the documentary.

WHO WE ARE

We're not a forum for public issues and advocacy. We are also not a replacement for mental health support. We are just normal men—of all ages and races, with various backgrounds and ambitions, and without any shared affiliation to a religion or school of thought. Our group (usually of 6 to 8 men) has been meeting weekly, for years.

Currently, we are welcoming new men to join us.

BEING CHALLENGED

We value authenticity in others and ourselves. If someone feels you are not being genuine, forthcoming, or realistic, then you might get feedback about that (if you are open to it). It'll be a measured and caring challenge to look at things differently, or be accountable.

BEING IN A GROUP

Another element that you may come to appreciate is learning how to be part of a group, a brotherhood. How to make decisions together and notice what role you have, or how others see you. Collisions will occur, but that is okay; let's talk about them. Let's really figure things out. Our group is a safe space where we can learn to sit in conflict and not lose our voices.

Come meet our men and witness the inestimable connection we share. You can expect us to be interested in your story and to respond with curiosity; your willingness to speak will be valued. Tell us what's going on for you, what it's like to be in your situation, and what it's like to be you: a good man, possibly in a tough spot.

Come and speak the unspoken. Free yourself of private burdens by sharing them. Be you, as you really are.

----------------------------------------------------------------------

― The structure of the meeting ―

At the beginning of the evening, one of the more experienced men is selected as the host. He will determine the flow of the meeting and will also make sure that men do not interrupt one another.

The first part of the meeting is for check-ins. Every man can speak for a few minutes to disclose whatever is going on for him. At this stage, the other men only listen.

During the second part of the meeting, the host moderates various rounds of conversations. Typically, the personal subjects raised during the check-ins are looked at more closely, but new matters are welcome too. Before a man can speak, he needs to indicate to the host that he wants to jump in.

Any man is free to decline being the topic of discussion.

Men in the Mirror is a confidential group. This is the only rule and it concerns both the contents of the meeting and the identity of the men.

You need to arrive on time, and are requested to stay for the duration of the meeting.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

~ self-image ~ purpose ~ shame ~ being overwhelmed ~ accomplishments ~ the male identity ~ moral dilemmas ~ course of life ~ work ~ harassment ~ stress ~ recognition ~ ambition ~ relationships ~ loneliness ~ sex ~ family ~ health ~ discord ~ belonging ~ responsibilities ~

Members participate at the own risk.

A council of highly supportive men

900 Carnarvon St

Meet with us in an all-male environment for unvarnished conversation. Feel welcome to have and disclose deep-rooted personal feelings.

In our men's group, we cut through bullshit and look at ourselves "in the mirror." We'll take a close look at everything in a safe atmosphere. Here, you’ll gain the perspectives of fellow men and the wisdom of the group. This is a confidential place for real support: a place to examine issues in yourself, your relationships, your work, and so on.

See also the documentary.

WHO WE ARE

We're not a forum for public issues and advocacy. We are also not a replacement for mental health support. We are just normal men—of all ages and races, with various backgrounds and ambitions, and without any shared affiliation to a religion or school of thought. Our group (usually of 6 to 8 men) has been meeting weekly, for years.

Currently, we are welcoming new men to join us.

BEING CHALLENGED

We value authenticity in others and ourselves. If someone feels you are not being genuine, forthcoming, or realistic, then you might get feedback about that (if you are open to it). It'll be a measured and caring challenge to look at things differently, or be accountable.

BEING IN A GROUP

Another element that you may come to appreciate is learning how to be part of a group, a brotherhood. How to make decisions together and notice what role you have, or how others see you. Collisions will occur, but that is okay; let's talk about them. Let's really figure things out. Our group is a safe space where we can learn to sit in conflict and not lose our voices.

Come meet our men and witness the inestimable connection we share. You can expect us to be interested in your story and to respond with curiosity; your willingness to speak will be valued. Tell us what's going on for you, what it's like to be in your situation, and what it's like to be you: a good man, possibly in a tough spot.

Come and speak the unspoken. Free yourself of private burdens by sharing them. Be you, as you really are.

----------------------------------------------------------------------

― The structure of the meeting ―

At the beginning of the evening, one of the more experienced men is selected as the host. He will determine the flow of the meeting and will also make sure that men do not interrupt one another.

The first part of the meeting is for check-ins. Every man can speak for a few minutes to disclose whatever is going on for him. At this stage, the other men only listen.

During the second part of the meeting, the host moderates various rounds of conversations. Typically, the personal subjects raised during the check-ins are looked at more closely, but new matters are welcome too. Before a man can speak, he needs to indicate to the host that he wants to jump in.

Any man is free to decline being the topic of discussion.

Men in the Mirror is a confidential group. This is the only rule and it concerns both the contents of the meeting and the identity of the men.

You need to arrive on time, and are requested to stay for the duration of the meeting.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

~ self-image ~ purpose ~ shame ~ being overwhelmed ~ accomplishments ~ the male identity ~ moral dilemmas ~ course of life ~ work ~ harassment ~ stress ~ recognition ~ ambition ~ relationships ~ loneliness ~ sex ~ family ~ health ~ discord ~ belonging ~ responsibilities ~

Members participate at the own risk.

Christmas Dinner

900 Carnarvon St

You are invited to enjoy a Men In the Mirror turkey dinner.

RSVP'ing for this event is required.

Past events (457)

A council of highly supportive men

900 Carnarvon St

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