What we're about

This is NOT a political group. Welcome to Non-Scene Gay Guys. We are DC's and Northern Virginia's only gay male social activity group that only meets away from the gay scene. We do not meet at gay bars.

Our group is open to adult gay and bi males aged 21 years and up who have good intentions and an interest in hanging out with other gay or bi guys outside of the popular gay scene.

Our group is for creating and building new platonic friendships, not finding dates or hookups. We meet once or twice per month at restaurants, non-gay bars, and virtually.

All of the events are within the D.C. city limits or in the main areas of Northern Virginia (Alexandria, Arlington, Fairfax, and Loudon). However, we are open to guys who live in Maryland. They are welcome to attend, and some already do. We do not consider Maryland to be "too far" to attend our events. If you live in Maryland and consider DC or Northern Virginia to be "too far," we don't think this is the group for you.

We in Non-Scene Gay Guys define ourselves based on our whole selves, not just our orientation. We are diverse, racially and ethnically, with interests ranging from rock music to sports, like baseball and hockey. We come from all across the country, from different lines of work, and from varying socio-economic backgrounds. Importantly, we’re most interested in what you are like, not what you do.

While most of us are "openly gay," there is no requirement or pressure to be "out" as gay or "come out" as gay. We have created a social space for gay men, whether they are out or not. We hold no political or ideological positions and are only about fun without gay clichés or stereotypes. Our principles are self-respect, self-love, and self-acceptance. We also like to have fun!

We hope to get to know you, so your attendance at events is important to us becoming friends.

Guys who don’t attend any events for three months, or guys who just attend once or twice will be removed.

We do not expect you to attend every event, of course. However, guys need to attend occasionally to regularly, as it’s important to maintain an active and stable group.

If this sounds like the group for you, we hope you will request to join. If an account seems fake (a so-called 'catfish'), we may decline the application. Should this happen to you, simply email 90s2000srock@gmail.com to let us know, along with a way to verify you such as a link to your Facebook or Linkedin profile. Thanks for checking us out! We hope to be able to hang out with you at our next event.

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Virtual Gathering: Your Favorite Movie

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