What we're about

Welcome to Non-Scene Gay Guys. We are this area's only gay social activity group for gay guys who don't fit common gay stereotypes, and who meet away from the gay scene. We meet and socialize away from gay bars, building new friendships through our events. Our group is open to adult males aged 21 years and up, and the only criteria to join are having good intentions and a desire to hang out with other gay guys outside of the popular gay scene. Our small-scale events allow members to get to know one another. Our group is for creating and building new platonic friendships, not finding dates or hookups. We meet once or twice per month at restaurants and non-gay bars, as well as private residences. We are inclusive, so you can sit with us, and we want you to, of course.

All of the events are in within the D.C. city limits or the main areas of Northern Virginia (Alexandria, Arlington, Fairfax, and Loudon). However, we are inclusive of guys in Maryland who want to attend. They are welcome to attend, and some already do. We do not consider Maryland to be "too far" to attend our events.

We in Non-Scene Gay Guys define ourselves based on our whole selves, not just our orientation. We are inclusive, racially and ethnically diverse, and open-minded, with interests ranging from rock music to sports. Our favorite teams are the Nats and the Caps. We hale from all across the country, from different lines of work, and from varying socio-economic backgrounds. Importantly, we’re most interested in what you are like, not what you do.

We value different journeys, and while most of us are out, there is no requirement or pressure to be out or come out. We have created an inclusive and safe space for gay men. We hold no political or ideological positions and are only about fun without gay clichés or stereotypes. Our principles are self-respect, self-love, and self-acceptance. We also like to have fun!

We hope to get to know you, so your attendance at events is important to us becoming friends. Guys who don’t attend any events for three months or guys who just attend once or twice will be removed. Guys need to attend regularly to occasionally, as it’s important to maintain an active and stable group.

If this sounds like the group for you, we hope you will request to join. If an account seems fake (a so-called 'catfish'), we may decline the application. Should this happen to you, simply email 90s2000srock@gmail.com to let us know, along with a way to verify you such as a link to your Facebook or Linkedin profile. Thanks for checking us out! We hope to be able to hang out with you at our next event.

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Saturday Afternoon Non-Scene Potluck

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7 PM, Friday, Jan. 4 Happy Hour

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Happy Hour Away from the Gay Scene

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