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Learn about TRUST and get a new GAMEPLAN

Sept 1's meetup was an open discussion for letting people give opinions that might help, this meetup is for SOLUTIONS.

We will be learning strategies from "Speed of Trust" by Steven MR Covey.


Come ready to take notes and get some tools you can use right away to begin trusting others again. 

Trust isn't just a platitude, it's also a SKILL that can be learned, improved upon, and mastered.

Come join us for some new simple strategies that can get us back on track and meet some new people who are also on that journey!

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  • A former member
    A former member

    I thought this was one of the best topics yet. Steve's artwork put it over the top.

    4 · September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Steve, this was another great meeting. Thank you, and all the others who contributed insightful questions, thoughts and answers, for helping my crystallize my thoughts on this very important matter!

    1 · September 30, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Thank you Christine! More to come soon. I'm happy so many people can use the information.

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Excellent

    1 · September 30, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Thanks Chris. Join us again soon!

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Great Seminar..Steve Rocked it this time..Right on Target..Feedback from me & others!

    4 · September 30, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Thanks, Franky! And also thank you for helping with the greeting and assisting me.

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Kudos to Steve for taking time to discuss this important topic.

    1 · September 29, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Thanks Brandy. Good seeing you again!

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    This meetup and the content/presentation/speaker were great! I learned some things, met some nice people and had a great time! I will definitely go back again.

    1 · September 29, 2013

    • Steve Z

      You're definitely welcome to join us. Thank you for contributing to the conversation and good luck studying that book Speed of Trust for work. It's really a game changer.

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    It was great and I thought Steve did a fine job.

    1 · September 29, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Thanks Beverly. Come join us again soon!

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Steve's presentation gave me confirmation of my current type of trust and information on where to begin to reach a style that will allow me to better my relationships.

    1 · September 29, 2013

    • Steve Z

      You're on the right path, Dana! Thank you for coming and helping with the handouts.

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Steve did a great job!

    1 · September 29, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Thank you Doshia. My pleasure. Stay tuned for more.

      September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Steve! Your presentation was very helpful...confirmed what I knew I had to do....forgive...its very hard to do right now. the trust I have is my instincts...though, I feel I set myself...so, no more dating or looking for a while...thanks for great info...

    1 · September 29, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Hey Carol, thank you for the feedback! It's great to know where our opportunities for improvement are, and we are always here to support you and talk in the meantime while you work on it. Keep joining us. :)

      1 · September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I am so glad I have a place to go & meet with friends & discuss personal topics & no pressure about hooking up because we are actually a truely authentic group of people & we do not have to worry about playing any stupid games! Uu..Rah

    1 · September 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    My first meet up with the NDDD team was tonight. I really enjoyed meeting everyone and would like to say thanks to Steve for the insight on building Trust! The group was very friendly and sincere. Tony thanks for the invite and I must say you do your job very well.

    1 · September 29, 2013

  • Steve Z

    This is TONIGHT!! If you would like to meet some new people, please come as early as 6pm and have some pizza or a salad. Please bring a pen and paper for notes. We will start PROMPTLY at 7pm, so please make sure you're on time or early. We will be finished at 9pm, but there's usually a group that goes and has an after meeting get together. See you there!

    September 29, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I might not be able to make this either. If I can't can someone use my paid for RSVP?

    September 18, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Cindy, I am going to be able to make it after all.

      1 · September 23, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Change of plans. Cant make this one

      September 29, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Is trusting women more than men part of human nature?

    Researchers from Columbia University & the University of Alberta studied sense of security and risk-taking (gambling and investing money) of subjects greeted by male or female experimenters. If a female patted a participant on the shoulder, they'd risk more money than if she shook hands or just talked to them - - or if a man did the patting. The researchers believe this comes from the way that mothers use touch to reassure their babies.

    Here's a link to the article (Association for Psychological Science); scroll down for the link to the journal abstract:

    http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/05/100511173819.htm

    September 28, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Hi, I'm new to the group. What does the $10 per person cover, and what is the duration of this meeting? Sundays are usually bad for me, but I am thinking about attending.

    September 28, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Hi Ram, of course you're welcome to join us anytime. We do things on other nights besides Sundays, but our meetups are most frequently on Sundays. $10 covers you to attend. We have real problems with people RSVPing and not showing up, and this helps us make sure people are serious about attending. I'm also a speaker and dating coach, and I do private coaching as well as events that cost $2,000- 5,000 per person. That's not happening with our group, but if everyone chips in a few dollars it helps that sting less. Thanks for asking!

      September 28, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I am curious, is trust and respect the same to a man? Can you have one without the other? The reason I ask is because I understand that if men had to chose between love and respect they would chose respect, and even more so respect is the same as love to them. So can you be respected if you can't/won't/aren't be trusted?

    September 23, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      To me respect(aside from the inherent respect I feel for all living beings) is situational: I can respect someone's superior leadership skills, for example, but not their judgment of time or artistic knowledge - nor would I automatically trust or love them. When I do trust someone, however, I have to at least respect one aspect of their personality: their trustworthiness. As far as love is concerned, to me, it can cross all boundaries. As I've posted on here before, the love of a husband for his wife with advanced dementia or the love of a mother for her baby - even one incapable of ever recognizing her or returning such love- is not rational, it just is... as it should be.

      3 · September 24, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      I agree that respect and trust are different and can be mutual but are not always so. I think feelings of love are related but can develop in the absence of total mutual trust and respect or misplaced trust and respect. In the context of a man and woman falling in love, in a perfect world, love would develop only where there is mutual trust and respect for each other. And further that this mutual trust and respect has been well confirmed over a period of time. Its not always that way but at least that seems more like the formula I am looking for to not make some of the choices I have in the past.

      1 · September 28, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Trust is letting go of needing to know all the details before you open your heart. Trust is held by the bond - - not by the promise to keep it. It's held by the relationship that exists between people... and ultimately risking heartbreak.

    From an internet blog:
    A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father asked his little daughter, ‘Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.’ The little girl said, ‘No, Daddy. You hold my hand.’ ‘What’s the difference?’ asked the puzzled father. ‘There’s a big difference,’ replied the little girl. ‘If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.’

    Hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours...

    3 · September 23, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Hmmmmmm.....love it, but here is a twist. I took the enneagraminstitute.com test. Turns out my personality type struggles with trust because we don't trust ourselves but rather look to others. The more we look outside ourselves, the more insecure we become. That being said, I think I have to figure out how to be the daughter and the Dad. I have to hold my own hand before I can truly trust someone else with a healthy trust not a twisted "I need you to be trustworthy to fix my insecurity" kind of trust . Sounds weird, I know. But without that test, I never would have figured that out.

      September 23, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      That's the ideal that we strive for, of course, but the only part we're in charge of is whose hand we hold. Amy: trust is always about, and arises within, ourselves. I believe we each have that helpless little boy or girl deep inside us - - as long as we continue to view the world through their frightened eyes we're unable to grow. The Jerry Maguire movie quote 'You complete me!' actually describes a doomed relationship! Until we have healed the wounds of our imperfect (and sometimes severely dysfunctional) childhood, we have little to offer in return for the all demands and expectations we project onto our partner. Healthy relationships require two relatively healthy individuals. In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king. Until we improve our own vision, we'll continue settling for myopic mates.

      September 24, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Food for thought:

    “To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” George MacDonald

    “The inability to open up to hope is what blocks trust, and blocked trust is the reason for blighted dreams.” Elizabeth Gilbert

    “It is impossible to go through life without trust: that is to be imprisoned in the worst cell of all, oneself.” Graham Greene

    “You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough.” Frank H. Crane

    “It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust.” Dr. Samuel Johnson

    “It is more shameful to distrust one's friends than to be deceived by them.” François Duc De La Rochefoucauld

    2 · September 23, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Yippee! Not scheduled to work Sunday! Should be there on time!

    September 23, 2013

  • Steve Z

    This meetup is THIS SUNDAY!! Please check your calendar and JOIN US if you're available. This is one of the foundational reasons why people are either not dating or barely dipping their toes into the dating pool. See you there!

    September 23, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Steve..I applaud you on your journey & the fact that you are sharing it to help others..That is what I call sharing the love..Your Amazing..Franky.

      2 · September 23, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    "It is an equal failing to trust everybody, and to trust nobody" - Author Unknown. "It is impossible to go through life without trust: that is to be imprisoned in the worst cell of all, oneself" - Graham Greene.

    2 · September 18, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    working this Sunday 3 - 8...hope to get different hours the 29th...if I am late, how late is too late?

    September 16, 2013

    • Steve Z

      We always go past 9 or 9:30 with the after group and then there's the folks that go to Denny's or somesuch. It's really never too late. :)

      September 18, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I used to live life to its fullest, then i got married and lived it around my kids while he was living it with other women and shut me and his kids out...i was a "Donna Reed" playing house and living in blind trust...now i want to learn how to trust with my eyes open...is that an oxymoron?

    September 16, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Cindy...I'm new at this and really pushing me outside of my comfort zone and I have raunchy hearing too...I am making myself go....need to figure out how to trust ....we can sit together if it helps....see you there...k?

    September 15, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Steve,

    You said it will be mainly just you am I correct? I really do want to attend, but am scared that I may not get it and make a fool of myself like I did last time. Will you please advise? My hearing is so bad and yes, it is very embarrassing at times. Is there a way we can possibly make this work? Please advise.

    September 15, 2013

    • Steve Z

      I'll send you an email...

      September 15, 2013

  • Steve Z

    "You can't talk your way out of a problem you have BEHAVED yourself into" Trust has a different language than most regular speech...it's action on words. One of the biggest Trust issues is that people tend to attack the person and not the behavior, which causes most of us to say whatever it takes to avoid the attack. Later when we don't live up to the words that were spoken... see the cycle?? Feel free to discuss below...

    1 · September 9, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Trust walks hand in hand with respect. Integrity enhances both. We build trust with respect to ourselves first, then to others.

      Integrity of who we are follows, testifying of our trustworthiness.

      Actions..speaking louder..than words.

      Accountability to our actions enhance the integrity of trust.

      As we admit when our actions don't follow through with our words, accountability restores trust, builds respect & enhances integrity.

      2 · September 11, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I just landed a job with flexible hours, so i am hoping to still commit to this meeting...need to re-establish trust big time!

    1 · September 6, 2013

    • Steve Z

      Congrats on the job!

      September 9, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Hi Steve,

    Will this be a one person session or will it be all talking at the same time at different tables. i would love to attend, however, I am not good when there is alot of background noise. Please advise.

    1 · September 7, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thanks. I am absolutely gone when multiple people are talking. It is too hard on all of us and I do not want to say something stupid in case I did nto hear it right. I did that last time.

      1 · September 8, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Again, thanks to all of you who have reached out to care and who have taken the time to make this work for me. True friend, true trust. Big time smiles.

      2 · September 9, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I would love to do this.. But will not have the cash until Friday... Do I may be out of luck by then if its already full..

    September 3, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      The words every girl wants to hear "I'll save you". ;)

      5 · September 3, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Oh thank you so much Steve . I'll put it on my calendar right now.. & the funds will be there Friday.

      1 · September 3, 2013

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