This group is for meeting other men who are enduring Oneitis and Hopelessness (Which is a common affliction, especially amongst geeks, affecting many of men and women daily) from mostly past failed relationship for discussion, support, and an opportunity for "low pressure" socializing.
Now, what is Oneitis? It is a tendency which compels us to think obsessively about a person with whom our relationship has broken down. It may include feelings of hopelessness, heart ache, depression, anxiety and inability to seek out other romantic or sexual relationships. This feeling arises by obsessing about someone you loved and cared for but unfortunately that person is not happy to stay in a romantic relationship with you. If you are suffering from anything similar from your previous short or long term relationship that perhaps ended badly and you are keen on getting her back at all cost. This group is here to help you letting go of endlessly attempting to win someone over. So that you can drag yourself out of such situations.
MISSION - To visualize and create new opportunities for members.
GOAL - To equip you with knowledge to overcome emotional suffering, regain self trust and start fresh. Be more resourceful by becoming porous to new ideas, increase your self-esteem (which translates into future dating success). Thus become someone deserving of love.
Core Values and Concepts
How to be non-needy: To be truly non needy and being self reliant (Coined by Ralph Waldo Emerson) is the holy grail of having a fulfilling relationship. When you strive to be non needy, the natural consequence is you become more assertive and expressive. You develop boundaries and people start to respect you for having boundaries. You gradually start to acquire manly attributes which makes you naturally attractive.
How to protect yourself first: Protecting yourself from unwanted people and relationships is often overlooked. We fail to recognise that not everyone is decent just because they seem attractive from outside appearance. We often become victim to superficiality. Tell me what good is a person who has not been taught of kindness but is solely concerned about their vanity. You must have knowledge and self discipline to recognise those patterns in the person you wish to date.
Concept of Collective Consciousness: This idea evolved around 19th century and was studied by many including father of psychology Carl Jung. What it means is each one of us has access to universal consciousness. It means every one of us can potentially be as good as anyone in the world if not better by growing intellectually. This is relevant to all areas of life. So if you aim at becoming the person whom the opposite sex find attractive, you can transform.
Living purpose driven life: “The greatest tragedy of life is not death but a life without a purpose.” - Myles Munroe. When you represent an idea that you dream about and dedicate your life to work towards it by seeing that idea take shape and form, perhaps for the betterment of people and society, you become naturally lovable and you become someone who truly deserves love. Also it gives you a maxim in your life to operate from. You know that your passion for your work is what defines you. It is very attractive for a woman to see that her man leads a purposeful life and do not seek her for fulfilment.
Disclaimer: This Meetup is for peer support only. It is not a therapy group and does not claim to provide mental health services. Additionally, this Meetup does not claim to provide legal services or advice. The main purpose of the Meetup is to address a perceived need in the community and is not a solicitation for legal or mental health services.