What we're about

This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. It’s difficult to create good friendships and really get to know people when you’re single and in your 30’s & 40's, especially if you’re new to town or work from home. We hope to create fun, easy going events that help facilitate making friends and getting to know each other better. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen;) it’s for people who are genuinely trying to make real life connections.

We have game nights, trivia nights, holiday parties, BBQ’s, weekend brunches, lunches, happy hours, and dinners, float trips, picnics, festivals and special events, volunteer events, and short hikes and outings. We try to make the activities not very strenuous so we can actually chat and get to know each other.

Housekeeping Notes: We’re trying to create a tight-knit group of people who actually attend the events.

  • Please only RSVP to events you are 100% sure you will attend. If you’re not 100% sure you are going, just interested, please select the star button at the top of the event page to favorite an event. You’ll get event reminders for your favorited events and it won’t throw off the RSVP count. If you do decide to attend then please RSVP.
  • If you no show to events you will be removed from the group.
  • If you haven’t attended in awhile then you may be removed from the group.
  • If you will be late to an event please message the event host. Some events you cannot be late for.
  • Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating.) You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
  • Most events you can bring adult guests to. If you wish to bring a pet, a child or someone under 21 please ask the event host.
  • To help pay the group’s subscription fee I ask for a $2-3 donation for each event you attend. You can contribute on meetup or pay me at the event.

If you are on either side of your 30’s & 40's (mature, over 28 or youthful, under 52) then you are welcome to join. The age limits are just to keep everyone in a relatable life stage.

Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify me immediately. We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group. Thank you!!!

Upcoming events (4+)

Singles Game Night! 🎲♟🃏

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You got game? Come meet new people and have a fun Saturday night out!

This month's game night will be at Traveling Taphouse again. This is also where we do monthly trivia. They have a ton of outdoor covered seating with heaters, food, and a bar.

If you own board or card games you don't mind sharing for the evening then please bring them so we have a lot of game options. If you plan to bring games can you please list them in the comment section below? That way we know who is bringing what. I'll bring hand sanitizer for everyone to use prior.

COVID Safety:
We'll follow Oregon guidelines. The outdoor mask mandate is being lifted so masks are now not required. As a group we are requiring vaccination as we are unable to social distance at the tables. Thank you!

Please keep your RSVP updated so I know how many seats to grab. The RSVP change cut off time is one hour before the event start time. If you have to cancel last minute please send me a message or leave a comment so I don't count you as a no show. After 2 no shows you will be removed and banned from the group. Thanks!

Single's 4th of July BBQ 🎉🍔🌭🧨 (for active members only)

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This event is only open to members who have attended at least two (2) of our events in the past year. This event is not open to new members or non-active members. When you RSVP I will check your event history to confirm. If you do not meet the criteria you will be removed from the list. Active members are allowed to bring up to two guests.

The day before the event I will send out an email with my home address. If you don't receive it or if you registered late please send me a message or email me at [masked]. I will not be posting my address on the event page.

4th of July is one of our biggest parties of the year and we're excited to be back in action this year! I'm hosting this year's event at my house for a good old fashion Independence Day BBQ.

I will supply hamburgers/impossible burgers and hot dogs for everyone. Bring a side dish or drinks to share if you are able to. We usually end up with a ton of extra food so bringing something isn't mandatory.

I have a large backyard and have lots of yard games for people to play. Once it gets dark you can do legal fireworks in the street if they're allowed this year (please cleanup afterward.) If it's dark enough I can also throw on the movie Independence Day using my projector. My neighborhood goes a little crazy with illegal fireworks and puts on quite a show which goes great with the movie. Due to noise restrictions and out of respect for my neighbors we will need to wrap up around 10pm.

My general house location is near Parker Baseball Field at 7175 SE Harney St. Portland Oregon United States 97206. There is a empty lot for parking by my house, but please ride share if you plan on drinking.

A donation of a couple dollars is appreciated to help cover the event costs. I'm also looking for volunteers to help out. I need someone or a couple someone's to run the grill and help with set up, clean up, and general hosting. Let me know if you are willing to help! Thank you!

Singles Mississippi Bar Crawl 🍹🍺🍸🍷 (Dating Event)

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Looking to meet someone? Alcohol can help with that! As we drink our way down Mississippi maybe you'll gain the liquid courage to not go home alone! 😉 This event is not a "just looking for friends" event if you get my drift... Come if your looking for a life partner or a one night partner or something in-between!

We will meet at Prost Marketplace at 7:30pm to get some much needed food in our bellies to soak up the alcohol before moving on. The group may need to break up depending on the space in the bars. We may not stop at all the bars if they are too crowded. The list below is just all the bars along the route. We will end and all meet up again at Psychic Bar. Please use the Meetup app to follow us in the Comments sections below in case you get left behind somewhere.

The list of bars moving South:
- Prost!
- The Rambler
- Interurban
- Traveling Taphouse
- Moloko
- Bar Bar
- Crow Bar
- Stormbreaker Brewing (it's a block down Beech St)
- Psychic Bar

Do not drink and drive! You do NOT have to drink at every bar and I encourage everyone to be judicious about their drinking as no wants to hook up with a sloppy drunk that can't close the deal... 😜 Feel free to get a mocktail, soda, or water to stay on your feet and make it to the end.

This event is meant to encourage "romantic connections" so please be brave, but respectful. If you ask someone out and they say no or decline then respect their answer and don't pursue them anymore.

We have a zero harassment policy so if someone is bothering you after you've turned them down please let me know immediately and I will ask the them to leave.

Also please be honest about what you are looking for. If you just want a hook up then be upfront about that and allow the other person to make an informed decision. I don't want any hard feelings between our members because someone was dishonest and ghosted. We're all older adults, this isn't junior high, so please treat each other with respect and don't bring drama into our group! Thank you!

Michelle Wolf @ Helium Comedy Club

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Michelle Wolf is coming to Helium Comedy Club! This is not a drill. I don't know about you, but I could certainly use a good laugh.

If you'd like to go as a group and sit together...

  • Buy a reserved ticket (not general admission) for the 7/12 @ 7:15 show at https://portland.heliumcomedy.com/events/58830 They're $50 + fees.
  • Drop your order number in a comment below. (Your order number will be 7 digits and in the subject line of your confirmation email.) Then before the show, I'll let Helium Comedy Club know all the order numbers for our group so they seat us together. (I chatted with someone there and as long as they have this 24 hours in advance, they'll seat us as a group.)

This show will likely sell out, so please don't wait to get your ticket if you want to go.

I've set the time to 6:30, since Helium's website says we should show up 30-45 minutes before the show time to be seated. And then we can chat and get dinner or a drink beforehand too.


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