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Eric A.


Simi Valley, CA
Hometown: Simi Valley

Member since:

September 18, 2011


How Long have you been exploring polyamory?

Since 1983.

Are you in a partnered relationship?

Have a wife and a girlfriend.

Is your partner also polyamorous?

Girlfriend yes, wife no.

What is your greatest challenge in the poly lifestyle?

1) Not wanting to lose my girlfriend's love to another partner. I know, it is the attitude of scarcity, a person's love is abundant and can be shared among many, but what I can think logically and rationally does not always win out over what I feel emotionally...left brain wins some battles, but the right brain wins the wars. We currently have an agreement that we share our sex lives together, that if we want another partner, then we make the decision together and we see the other person or persons together. My impression is that others have this sort of agreement, too, although I have only a limited number of anecdotes upon which I make this observation. 2) Getting out of a marriage that no longer suits me.


I have always been polyamorous. I have lived it, but in secret. We are judged daily by family, peers, co-workers, and ourselves. Recently I have let some family and some peers know. Spouse not as comfortable with it.


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