Past Meetup

Silicon Valley Speed Dating

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Monday, Jan 14th | 5:30-10:30 | Three Age Groups

Register HERE ( for this Limited Space Event; Must Prepay to Participate

LocationSilicon Valley Capital Club (17th Floor of Knight Ridder Building) 50 West San Fernando Ave, San Jose.

What is speed dating?

The first speed dating event took place in Beverly Hills at a Pete’s Coffee in 1998!! It’s origin is Jewish…a dating system whose purpose is to encourage singles to meet a large number of new people! (SpeedDating is actually trademarked when it is all one word. Events like this one are titled Speed Dating for a reason!!)

Supporters of speed dating argue that it saves people time as most people quickly decide if they are romantically compatible or not! Men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short "dates", usually lasting from 3 to 8 minutes depending on the organization running the event. At the end of each interval, the organizer rings a bell, clinks a glass, or blows a whistle to signal the participants to move on to the next date. At the end of the event participants submit to the organizers a list of who they would like to provide their contact information to and if there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties. Contact information cannot be traded during the initial meeting, in order to reduce pressure to accept or reject a suitor to his or her face.

That’s precisely what we are going to do except we are doing it in style at the beautiful members only Capital Club and I am adding two more features…light complimentary 5-star restaurant appetizers (as long as they last) and 30 drink tickets to the first 10 people in each of the 3 age groups who prepay on line.

By the way, prepaying is the ONLY way to attend this event…unless you want to take your chances the evening of the event but I cannot make any promises that I can let you in or that you can participate in the event. You would only be filling in for no-shows as needed. That’s just the way this process works – there needs to be an even number of people and enough people in each group to make it worthwhile.

Please support this event by registering on-line if you want to see more speed dating from Singles Supper Club. I am interested in connecting singles and if this is a good way to do it, then I’m all for it!

My policy

I have the private room at the Capital Club from 5:30-10:30. We will have three different age groups organized eldest to youngest. You should arrive 30 minutes before your age group begins and no less than 15 minutes beforehand. If you aren’t there within 15 minutes of start time, I’m going to start to look for your replacement. If you show up later, I cannot assure you that I can find you a spot….and there are no refunds. Example, if your group starts at 6:00PM….arrive by 5:30-5:45, and so on and so forth. We have to start on time because of the limited time. It is your responsibility to take into consideration traffic conditions, etc.

Speed Dating Process

· Upon check-in, you will receive a name tag with a unique number on it and a speed dating form.

· Men will be seated across from women. When the bell rings, you will have 5 minutes to converse with the person directly across from you.

· When the bell rings again, men will all stand up quickly and move down one seat and start talking immediately to the person across from them.

· This process repeats until each man has met each woman in their group.

· After each five minute meeting, each person discreetly circles yes or no on their speed dating card next to the person’s unique number.

· Cards are handed in to the registration table.

· Mutual matches are identified after the event and emails are sent to everyone who participated to inform of mutual matches with contact info provided to both the men and women only with mutual matches. (within 48-72 hours)

· You are responsible for contacting your mutual match for your “second date” J

Age groups

· Group 1 - Women 56- 67 / Men 59-69 | Time Slot – 6:00-7:30 PM | Arrive 5:30-5:45 (parking is only validated after 5:30PM).

· Group 2 - Women 45- 56 / Men 48-59 | Time Slot - 7:30PM- 9:00PM |Arrive 7:00-7:15 or earlier.

· Group 3 - Women 34- 45 / Men 37- 48| Time Slot - 9:00PM – 10:30PM | Arrive 8:30-8:45 or earlier


· (If your age is not represented here and you are interested in speed dating, please email me at [masked] ([masked]). If there enough interest from a particular age group, I will consider adding it to a future speed dating event.)

Currently, I have space for 14 men and 14 women per group. If a group sells out, I can start to form a waiting list for a second set of 14 men and women but must have a minimum of 10 per gender in that age group for it to be worth it for any of you. I will cancel the group if we do not reach 10 per gender through advanced ticket sales. So,I encourage you to be in that first group of 14 if you are truly interested in participating in this particular event. (Capping it at 14 people per gender adds up to 70 minutes based upon 5 minute “dates”)

Pricing and Registration:

$30 early bird by 1/5/13 Register HERE (; $35 advanced pricing by 1/13/13 (link will be provided shortly) Be sure to register for the correct group for your age. If you want to be in more than one group, please register for both separately as long as you fit in both – since there is overlap. Please stick to your age groups out of respect for others. No refunds after 1/10/13 – no exceptions. If you want to take your chances at the door to fill in gaps for no shows, please bring $40 cash. You may not come into the private room to watch unless you pay and there is nowhere else to go in the club unless you are a member. If you arrive early, you may check in and mix with others until your group session begins. Please do not arrive earlier than 5:30.

Parking and Validating

Park at 50 West San Fernando in the underground parking garage (enter on West San Fernando). Take your ticket with you. Go up first elevator to lobby. Then second elevator to the 17th floor. Have your ticket validated by the concierge on the 17th floor. Your parking will be fully validated if you arrive at 5:30PM or later.


Capital Club is a members only business club. They have a strict dress code. No blue jeans, flip flops, baseball caps, short sleeve men’s shirts, athletic shoes. Appropriate retire is business casual or cocktail attire. Remember, you are having a minimum of 10 first dates! So dress to impress!!

How to prepare

Stay tuned for tips on what to say and what to avoid saying and advice on how to dress to impress from several relationship experts.


Who want to participate in their age group and help for one or both of the other time slots – Register and pay on-line for your time slot and I will give you $10 cash back at the event. When you register on-line, please forward your registration email to [masked] and let me know you are interested in volunteering. Volunteers are accepted on a first to register and contact me basis. I only need 2-4 volunteers. If you don’t receive a response from me, that means I have enough volunteers. Volunteers will check guests in, make name tags, hand out speed dating forms, collect speed dating forms, and explain the event to guests. Dress for the occasion and be friendly and someone I can count on to show up on time. Shifts are assigned based upon what is needed.

Free drink tickets/No host cash bar:

There will be a no host cash only bar in our private room. Drinks range between $7-$12. If you want a free drink ticket, hurry to register on-line. If you are one of the first 10 in your age category, I will send you an email before the event letting you know that you made the cut. Upon check-in, you will receive your drink ticket. Otherwise, bring cash to buy drinks at our private no-host cash bar – there is no ATM close by.

Dining before the event

Your parking will be validated (free) only if you park after 5:30PM in the 50 West San Fernando underground parking. If you park there earlier, there will be a fee. Having said this, for those in the 2 later time slots, I would recommend parking in the garage and then heading over to the Grill on the Alley (restaurant in the Fairmont) for their Happy Hour menu which lasts until 7PM!). E&O Trading Company is also close by. Google “Restaurants near the Knight Ridder Building in San Jose” to obtain a full list of restaurant options.


Laura Lane |[masked] | [masked] This is a private event; please do not call the Capital Club regarding details for this event.

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