This group is for women who are looking for other women for friendships and a social life. Some of the major events will take place in members' homes so people who wish to join must be up front with their identity. There are a few rules for the safety and contentment of all members:
1) A full face photo must appear on your profile when you ask to join. Please don't post a photo of more than one person unless it is obvious that the second person can't be you. (i.e. you can post a photo with a man or a child as long as we can see your face clearly enough to identify you.)
2) All prospective members should be over the age of 45 but we have made exceptions, upon request. Our ages vary widely ( 40's to 80's.) If someone else's age is going to bother you, you probably won't be satisfied with this group. If you are young enough to have small kids needing your attention, you are not going to be satisfied at all by this group because small children are never invited to our meetups. However, you can bring adult or teen age children from time to time.
3) Occasionally, you will be expected to host an event or find someone to host in your place. All you have to do is pick a place and a time and be there to greet the participants when the time arrives. It has proven too difficult to make a master list of hostess months.
4) There is a master list of group members who choose to add their full name, address, phone numbers and birthday. It is not a requirement but if you would like to be on that list and receive a copy so that you can contact people apart from the group, please send your information to Anne Jasper. That list is updated accordingly. We do not celebrate everyone's birthday but some of the people get to know one another well enough so that they want to celebrate on the side.
5) Participation: There are plenty of events posted on the calendar on random days and times so there is no reason why new members shouldn't be able to find something they can attend fairly soon after joining. Please do not sign up for everything and then not show up. It inconveniences other people who are waiting for everyone to arrive and it's really rude. No more than two "no-shows" will be tolerated. The best way to avoid being charged with a "no show" is to change your RSVP the second you know you can't attend or ask someone who is going to let the host know you won't be there.
5) New members should try to get out and participate as soon as possible so that we know you are a real live person who belongs in our group. Although new members who are unknown to the group have less time, everyone should try to participate in at least one event every 90 days unless there is a valid reason -- i.e., extended travel or illness. We aren't looking for a long list of names; we are looking for people who actually want to be part of an active social group. That is not to say everyone is required to attend every event. Still, the schedule is varied enough so that there is no reason anyone who was honest about their intent to participate can't find some way to show up now and then. If I note that you haven't participated in 90 days, I will send out a message and ask if you are still interested in the group. If I get no answer, I will remove your name from the roster. If you join and decide the group isn't for you after all, and that can happen, you may choose to update your group profile settings to leave the group. No harm done.
6) About hosting: Everyone is required to host something or find an agreeable substitute. You don't have to wait for me to ask you to host. If you see something you would like to have friends to attend, just post it. However, if I have to start assigning hostesses, I'll send out a message about 6 weeks ahead of your time so that you can let me know what you want to host at least a few weeks in advance. It doesn't have to be anything spectacular. Lunch, dinner, a walk in the park, a lawn game at the public beach access, miniature golf, a movie -- any activity that can be done as a group is fine. You MUST attend whatever you post. If at least 3 people besides yourself do not sign up to participate, it will be your option to either cancel or go forward with the event. Some things can't be done without a certain number of people and nobody likes to go out alone. On the other hand, if only one person signs up to go and you are OK with that, leave it on the calendar and go with whoever signed up. If you elect to cancel, you must wait until 48 hours/2 days prior to the event because some of the people in the group wait until they are positive they won't have other obligations before they decide to attend. If you must re-schedule something due to bad weather or some other circumstance, you must let all the people who were coming know in plenty of time to update their plans. If you need to post something on the same day or time that another event is already posted, please let's talk first. Finally, I don't like a lot of swapping around dates for events. It gets too confusing. So, if you post something, be sure you can be there to host.
7) Most of the time, our spouses, boyfriends, etc. don't really want to go hang out with a bunch of women. But, once in awhile a husband/male friend or two will attend a concert or play, go to the movies, or go out to dinner with the gals. That is perfectly OK with the following exception: If you host an event that you wish to be for ladies only, say so in the headline. (i.e. Lunch with the ladies, ladies night out, etc.) That will be the signal that no men are to be invited. If you want to bring a male guest to any event not specifically designated for ladies only, add +1 to your RSVP and make a comment beneath the posted information saying you will be bringing a male guest. Very simple. I do, however, want the number of heads counted at an event to jibe so you must add guests to your RSVP whether they are male or female.
8) A monthly game night has been the cornerstone of the group. Guests usually bring a snack or supper item to share depending on what the hostess would like to do. Guests should always read the event details so they will know what is expected. The gals have been great about taking turns hosting game nights. Although some love it, nobody is ever required to take on the task of hosting a game night. Usually there are 10 or 12 people, sometimes more because everyone is always invited on game night. If you want to host, please speak up. If you don't want to host, please don't feel pressured. You will always be welcome. Although Friday night seems to suit most of the members, it is not cast in stone. Anyone who wishes to host a game gets to choose the day and time. A dish or snack to pass is a common contribution to game nights. Any simple game that anyone can learn to play in less than 5 minutes is acceptable. The goal is toward a social night without a lot of skill involved. LCR is the game we play most. We usually play for quarters.
9) Beginning in December 2016, dues will be collected. The rate will be either $3 per person, every six months. A notice will be sent out to all members and it will be their responsibility to find a mutually agreeable way to turn in their dues. The only thing the money will ever be used for is to pay the meetup subscription. If there is money left over, we will collect less the next time the subscription comes due. Currently, it's due in December and June. I don't forsee any changes in the due dates.
10) Everyone picks up their own tab at restaurants, theatres, etc. Now and then members may be asked to kick in a few bucks or bring a prize for specific games. A holiday wine exchange has been popular and everyone brings a bottle of wine. This is not an expensive group, all things considered.
Please, please, please tell your friends to join the group and help fill our calendar with fun things to do!
Hopefully, all the Seaside Ladies hopefuls have read this information before deciding to join and there won't be any misunderstandings when it's time to participate and/or host an event.