What we're about
Come, learn, play, and grow with us!
Our members plan and host events centered around understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality, relationship styles, kink, gender and orientation. We are heteros, gays, trans, bi's, monos, polys, fence sitters, and lovers of every age. Our ideal world looks a lot like the movie, "Short Bus." If this speaks to you, then: Please read this entire page and the following documents. Then come back and complete your application.
• Levels Demystified
• Care, Consent, and Confidentiality
We require applicants to fill out an application (your profile), which is reviewed by real live people so please answer the questions thoroughly and thoughtfully. We actually read your answers carefully and may decline applications based on inadequate answers. Your answers will be visible only to members of the group.
Couples must complete separate profiles and applications. Please reference each other. Because we are a real community; we request a recognizable picture of you on your profile. Please know that due to the fact that it's always been safer for men to be out as sexual beings, we get far more applications from single heterosexual men than we do single hetero women, therefore we have to be very selective about the former. Men, we're sorry, but unless you are gay, bi (not just "I've wondered about being with a man before" kind of bi), trans, or are joining with a woman, you may be rejected or placed on the waitlist. Please don't let that stop you from applying if you know you have a lot to offer the group. _________________________________________________________________________
What is Sex Positivity?
Sex positivity is a social movement and philosophy which regards all consensual expressions of sexuality as healthy, encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation, places an emphasis on informed consent and advocates sex education and risk-aware sex. Sex-positivity makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual expression, orientation or identification, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference. _________________________________________________________________________
What does our group do?
SexPositive East Bay is a real community of open-minded, alive, and awake people (members and volunteers). We provide a chance to explore, learn, and grow in a safe, welcoming, and consensual environment. We believe that sexual energy is a powerful tool for transformation, healing, solidifying relationships, and building community, and we develop that energy by sharing ideas and experiences in real world and virtual settings (Secret Facebook Groups, Reddit, and other Social media.) Our real world events include classes, discussion groups, workshops, socials, parties, festivals, and more. They range from member hosted events (in homes, parks, restaurants, etc.), outings together where we might go watch burlesque shows, sex-positive theater, Hump Fest, or visit a dungeon or club together, to signature events (facilitated events like our snuggles, couple/triads massages, and parties including our Sizzle or Blaze events) that are created by SexPositive East Bay and inspired by SexPositive LA and Portland and are led by its core volunteers. We strive to keep events low cost (enough to cover expenses) and free when possible, but we sometimes do fundraisers, which cost a little more. _________________________________________________________________________
What is an Orientation?
Anyone can attend any Level 1 event that interests them, meaning you can invite friends and loved ones, however, if you wish to attend Level 2 or higher events you must attend an Orientation and pay your annual dues. Orientation is a full-evening of activity that introduces our ideas and mission, explains how our group and events work, and includes some fun interactive exercises. These occur on the first Sunday of every month and sometimes in the middle of the month.
Events are coded Level 1 through 4. Again, please go onto the page called Levels Demystified to learn all about our system. But in a nutshell, Level 1 is Social/Educational (workshops, classes, outings to wine bars, burlesque shows, plays, etc.) Level 2 is Sensual (snuggle parties, group massage, sensation play: touch that is nurturing and affectionate) Level 3 is Sexy (more arousing, teasing, exciting!) Level 4 is Sexual (please note: we do not list these events on Meetup.com due to their rules!) ______________________________________________________________________
How Do I participate at Events?
At events you are expected be respectful of the boundaries of others and of the event, to take care of yourself, and honor your boundaries and agreements. Beyond that, anything else is up to you. You will never be expected to do anything you don't want to, or to interact with anyone you don’t wish to. But we do expect you to contribute as an active participant through positive social interaction. Sex-positivity is about authentic, respectful, open communication, and being honest about your desires. We look forward to seeing you at an event soon! Love, Gabriella & the SPEB team