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The First Stage of Single - Single is Simple...and Simple is Good.

When you entered "that" relationship - you didn't do it thinking that you'd be single again... So when your marriage or long term relationship did finally end, whether by your decision or not, it hurts. The longer the relationship was, the more it can hurt.

For some, you never saw it coming. It caught you totally by surprise. Perhaps an illness snuck up on your loved one. Perhaps your loved one left without saying goodbye. Either way it sucks the wind out of you and you feel like every breath is a chore.

For others of us, becoming single again was an obvious conclusion to an unhappy relationship... never the less, we're always surprised that it still hurts when it finally happens.

Over the next few weeks, we're going to explore the different "Stages of Single" and share the best tips and advise those of us who are a little further down the path have to offer. We'll remind you to keep breathing, and share with you the silver lining in what seems to be a very dark cloud.

This is Stage One - Single is Simple... and simple is good.

(daaayyuummm that feels like a dark conversation... but worry not - we'll find something totally morbid and horrible to laugh about as always.)  Lol.

See you all at the next one!

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  • Karen

    The first meeting is always a bit hard... Carl did a great job facilitating.

    1 · Yesterday

    • steve k.

      Understood. You will feel increasingly comfy, promise...;-)

      Yesterday

    • Carl P.

      Thanks for coming Karen, I hope we'll see you again.

      5h ago

  • Victor Sutton S.

    Carl was an excellent host, who established a fun and relaxing atmosphere. It's nice to know there's a group of other people like myself, who are willing to engage with other new singles👍🏽

    2 · Yesterday

    • Carl P.

      That's great Victor - thank you. But, just an fyi, you posted in the comment section - not the review section. I think you have to do it from a computer under the main menu. Thanks again! We enjoyed having you! :)

      Yesterday

  • Victor Sutton S.

    This was my first MeetUp and was pleasantly surprised 👍🏽

    2 · 2 days ago

    • Carl P.

      Glad you enjoyed! (Care to leave a formal review on meetup? - Thanks!) :)

      Yesterday

  • Carl P.

    That was an awesome meetup! Thanks everyone!

    2 · Yesterday

  • Carl P.

    Ok. Noone was interested in buffet so we're calling it a night. Thanks everyone for coming!

    2 days ago

    • steve k.

      Was excellent as always. Thank you Carl.

      1 · 2 days ago

    • Dan R.

      What happened to the sight can't get any information!

      Yesterday

  • steve k.

    Buzzing out of work and on way, hope to still get most of your sage advice!

    2 days ago

  • Carl P.

    We're going to end the discussion portion of our meetup at 6:45 so that we have 15 minutes after to meet & greet with everyone... instead of getting the lights turned out on us. lol.

    ALSO, who would be interested in getting dinner afterward at the Peppermill Buffet?

    1 · 3 days ago

    • Carl P.

      I'm thinking we'll be there between 7:15-7:30.

      3 days ago

    • Renni

      Harrah's buffet has 50% off price for locals. You need to get their card at their service desk. The chocolate brownies are demonic! They also have some spots to charge a hybrid car.

      2 days ago

  • Carl P.

    Quick question for the group: Have you found that when one door (like a relationship) has closed - that another has opened? Usually a better one, even if that means single life?

    November 30

    • Simon

      There is always other doors out there. That is why I'm always the optimist and that's also why I get hurt a lot. But getting hurt is also part of life and living. If you didn't feel the pain you wouldn't know you were still alive inside. Other doors are like other opportunities - they aren't necessarily better or worse than the door you just closed - but they are different - so for good or bad they are new experiences to be had

      2 · 6 days ago

    • Theta C.

      There are many doors that have opened up after that one closed, but only because I started looking for a door that would move me from that unhappy spot to a more comfortable one. I just love meeting people and making friends, love to talk and laugh, learning and experiencing new things all the time.

      1 · 3 days ago

  • Simon

    Stage One - organize a party with friends to celebrate being newly single. I had a "newly single party" each time I got a divorce, usually planned for either the day after the divorce was finalized or very close to it. Has anyone else had a party to celebrate being either newly single or just celebrating being single?

    3 · November 22

    • Fran

      Yeah, I moved 600 miles away to the Tahoe area where I knew no one 15 years ago, lol. It wasn't exactly a party, but it was therapeutic.

      3 days ago

    • Fran

      and still is therapeutic for that matter.

      1 · 3 days ago

  • Theta C.

    Good girl, Heidi, you should always be proud of yourself; don't forget to look in the mirror often and remind yourself, that because you are your best friend, you will always treat yourself to whatever you know you deserve in life.

    2 · November 29

  • Theta C.

    I have had to learn that when I was born, I was born single; it has always been up to me to know who I was and where I was going. When I chose to not be single and became a wife and then a mother and then single again, I had to learn all over again who I was and where I was going; I learned to be strong and regained some of my self-confidence - life is good, but only as good as we make it, knowing that we truly are always single. We think our own thoughts, speak our own words, feel our own feelings, act out our own acts. I have much Trust in God, but when I go to bed at night, just before I drift off into LaLa Land, I recharge my batteries, feel my own strengths and thank God for His Trust in ME

    1 · November 29

  • Trish

    Well, since I was left practically destitute out in the middle of nowhere (Smith Valley), I was scared to death! No money, no job or place to get a job, it was the end of my son's Junior year in high school, my daughter was pregnant and unmarried.....to say it was a challenging year is an understatement!!! The only bright spot that year was the birth of my granddaughter. God was with us and our needs were met.

    2 · November 27

    • steve k.

      Omg!!

      November 27

    • steve k.

      Was just listening to the song, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. No wonder you're such a super person, Trish...:-)

      2 · November 27

  • Trish

    This is seriously the MOST fun group ever!!! Looking forward to more adventures with this group! You guys are the best!!!!

    5 · November 21

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