June 5, 2014
The technical answer is "many loves", but to me, it's a choice to be free to define love on your own terms. Being open to love & not limiting yourself to what society defines that a relationship should (or shouldn't) be. Polyamory is not just about sex, but about deeper connection to other people. It is also something that requires deep introspection. Polyamory means having to be uncomfortably honest with yourself and those that you love.
To talk with people with experience in polyamory. To gain perspective on the benefits as well as the challenges my wife & I will face on our new journey together. Plus the opportunity to join a community that understands what we're going through without judging us.
No. Right now it's just me & my wife. But we are very open to having new possibilities (together or separately).
Yes. We have a six year old.
In a perfect world, my wife & I would find an attractive polyamorous couple to add to our family dynamic for work and play. In addition, she would have a boyfriend to play with, & I would have a girlfriend. We'd have our own tribe of like minded individuals, who are open to being free, & willing to be a part of our family. I realize that it's a lot more complicated in the real world. People are going to have different feelings about many things. People are going to have a lot of growing pains in being honest about how they feel. Jealousy, envy, sadness, and loneliness (to name a few). But the flip side to that is the joy, happiness, excitement, & laughter to be shared with many others. So to answer the question, what would my ideal poly relationship look like? Me getting to compersion. Getting to a place where I'm genuinely happy for my partner's joy in experiencing other people. I'm not there now, but I truly want to be. That's the goal I'm striving for.
My wife & I have recently decided to open our marriage to exploring relationships with other people. We've been together over 20 years, & now we are curious about polyamory. We'd love to learn as much as we can within this group.