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Welcome to Starting Over!

Divorce is one of the most stressful events that can happen to a human being. In our culture we rush to put a lid on emotions and the natural process that needs to happen to move forward successfully and freely. But you can't skip emotional steps! Just burying the feelings will not help us to learn from our experience, live authentically, or move forward with real freedom. We are a peer-led support group for men and women who are in any stage of separation, divorce or post-divorce. Our caring facilitators have all been through the divorce/breakup process in their own lives, but they also hold the scientific background to support us through such an overwhelming experience.

Some of the topics we go through are:
-Recognizing what's happening to me
​-Dealing with loss
-The road to finding help
-Facing my anger
-Facing my depression
-Facing my loneliness
​-Forgiveness
-Financial Survival
-Children Care
-New Relationships
-Moving On

We meet weekly to help each other navigate the emotional roller coaster we all experience while going through this difficult time in our lives. We also share our personal experiences on getting through the legal process as this can seem quite overwhelming when life as you know it has been turned upside-down. At our meetings we provide positive support in a NON-JUDGMENTAL setting where each member has a chance to discuss the evening's topic or any issue that is relevant to his/her situation. While divorce is an end of a marriage, it also provides the opportunity for starting over and rebuilding the life you want.

Social activities are open to members who regularly attend support meetings. We meet every week in the area of Leiden/The Hague. We request 5 euros at the end of each meeting (as you are able) to help defray meetup costs, these funds also go toward providing free or low-cost group events approximately twice per year. One is usually a holiday brunch at a restaurant. Please note - Starting Over is first and foremost a support group, not a dating group. Bring only your concerns, questions, open minds and warm hearts! Welcome!

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Infertility: the stress of not conceiving in a world of families (FREE)

(FREE WEBINAR - Registration necessary at: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/infertility-not-conceiving-in-a-world-of-families-free-tickets-110140005722) A webinar on the psychological side of infertility Infertility is a heavy burden that hits one out of ten people and comes with a load of frustration, pain, grief, shame, isolation. Being able to conceive is still, nowadays, considered a requirement to be “woman” and “man”; as a consequence, infertile individuals and couples come to doubt their whole identity when confronted with this diagnosis. However, being infertile today doesn’t imply the impossibility of having a child anymore. Assisted Reproductive Techniques have been improved, and there is renewed support (educative and psychological) for the infertile patient, including a strong focus on helping these patients lower their stress, improve their sense of control and find new meaning. In our webinar we will focus on the ways men and women (differently or samely) cope when they are faced with infertility, what are the phases the couple goes through when faced with the inability to conceive and how we can help them to find more helpful and healthy ways to cope with the stress and the grif of such a life event. Speaker: Benedetta La Rosa Benedetta is a psychologist, graduated in Clinical Neuropsychology from Leiden University and passionate about therapy in all its forms. More details: www.antiloneliness.com

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