**Our events are held every last Saturday of the month. If you have coronavirus symptoms, please stay at home, protect others, and please don't attend an event. Thank you.**
**There are no strangers here; only friends you haven't yet met - William Butler Yeats**
Are you a divorced/widowed/single lady, currently childless (not by choice) or childfree (by choice or separated from your children or for whatever reason), aged around 30 to 60, discerning and seeking new, platonic, long lasting friends and companions, to enjoy the best of London and the world?
Perhaps your children have flown the nest or for whatever reason you feel an affinity to this Group, please feel free to join. This is an inclusive and non-judgemental Club open to all ladies seeking to meet other like-minded women.
Do you need an injection of fun, laughter, adventure and happiness in your life after the end of a marriage, relationship or bereavement?
Do you enjoy eating in fine restaurants (in an affordable manner), travelling in affordable 5 star luxury or hosting/attending sumptuous dinner parties full of fun, laughter, music and dancing?
Are you interested in learning savvy new ways to make your reduced post-divorce income stretch a little bit more?
If so, this might be the Club for you.
Why I Started this Group
I started this Group in February 2018, just under three years, after the unexpected end of my long marriage in April 2015.
As I continued to rebuild my life in a positive manner, most books and articles tell us to seek comfort and joy in our children.
But what about ladies like me who are childless (not by choice) or childfree, and find ourselves in our 40s, divorced, widowed or single, and completely alone, in a coupled-up/family focused world, having been part of a close twosome that was supposed to last forever?
How do we fill our evenings and weekends when friends are married, with families and doing their own thing?
What do we do when the social invitations have dried up because they tend to revolve around friends' children, who deem it fit to only invite those with children or couples who feel uncomfortable inviting the sole single lady?
What do we do when good friends are scattered around the world or we've simply lost contact or drifted away?
How do we make new female friends in our 30s, 40s or 50s when the traditional ways of making lasting friendships in school, university and new jobs, are a distance past?
How do we make new friends when we cannot meet new people at the school gate, children's sleepovers, children's parties, PTA meetings, school fairs, school trips, school fundraising events and all the new avenues open to parents?
How do we embrace our changed circumstances and still make a fulfilling, happy life for ourselves, full of genuine, platonic friendships and fun, without embarking on new and perhaps unsuitable romantic relationships?
Even if we choose to have new romantic relationships or even go on to have children, how do we avoid the mistakes of the past, by ensuring we still maintain genuine, close platonic, fun friendships, outside of our new twosome or family life?
My Aims for this Group
This Group is about moving on from the pain and hurt of divorce or loss, and concentrating our energies in a positive, constructive and optimistic manner.
It is about bringing together likeminded ladies who have a taste for the finer things in life, but we accept that for some of us, our financial circumstances have been vastly reduced by divorce. However, we have learnt to be savvy and clever with money - let's explore cheaper ways of dining in the finest Michelin restaurants, 5 star luxury travel, sumptuous dinner parties and continuing to enjoy all the finest things in life, in an affordable manner.
It is about accepting that being single and childless might not be the life plan but it is the life we currently have, taking control and embracing a positive Plan B.
This Group is about saying a big fat NO to spending countless weekends completely alone - let's start with monthly activities and take these new friendships, offline, into the real world.
It is about finding genuine female friends to go out to dinner to that new Michelin restaurant on a Saturday night, hosting or attending dinner parties, exploring that trendy new cocktail bar, going to theatre, cinema, opera, West End musical, without feeling like a Billy no mates.
Let’s find a travel buddy to go on exotic holidays, without being the odd one out in a world full of couples and families.
We’ve all had enough traumas in our lives and do not want a Group with a long list of rules. However, if these prove necessary, they will be added.
Please be respectful, supportive, non-judgmental and considerate of everyone.
Some of our ladies join the Club at the most vulnerable and fragile periods of their lives. Please provide support and friendship but refrain from advising on legal or financial aspects of ongoing divorce proceedings, especially if such advice may be considered inappropriate or even illegal.
If you RSVP for an event, please attend or cancel as soon as possible to enable someone else to attend.
Please take personal responsibility for your own safety.
This isn't really the type of Club to join and never attend events. None active members will be removed from time to time, at the organiser's discretion.