Are you a bit kinky? Curious? Questioning? Sexually adventurous? A newbie? Poly? Asexual? An event organiser? A tantra guru? A raging degenerate? A rigger or bunny? Something else, but happy that we are all a little bit different? Welcome!
If you want to meet like-minded people and make new friends from the kink, fetish, BDSM and alternative communities, then you're in the right place.
This is a group for consenting adults (only) to advertise and find events which are aimed at those of us who want to explore, look outside the box or want try everything and then keep the best.
If you are an event organiser and would like to post in the group, drop us a line. We're delighted to offer you access to the platform and will just ask you to review and agree to abide by the MeetUp rules for groups like this.
To members: please feel free to post (no unsolicited copy/paste DMs, please: this is a diverse group and it's rarely appreciated), and remember: - Be kind - Be safe - Be legal - Explore - Connect - and finally, follow the MeetUp community guidelines
- NO NUDITY or porn in posts. Seriously: MeetUp closes groups that ignore this rule.
- Some events will be free, some charged by the venue (usually quizzes :) ) and some will be ticketed. In all cases, it's appreciated if you can buy something from the venue to help us maintain access to great spaces.
- We are always interested in hearing about accessible venues. Please do drop us a DM if there is somewhere you think we need to check out.
- TKL events will be in vanilla venues and have a vanilla dress code unless clearly stated. Other organisers will state their participation rules and safety considerations in their events.
Notes on Consent and Risk
Whilst most of our events are in vanilla venues, and aimed at connection rather than play, consent is still important and being good at navigating consent and being risk aware is still valuable if you plan on playing with any of the people you meet.
You must have consent if you are going to do something that you could reasonably expect to require consent. If that means a little extra work for you as you look at things from another person's perspective then good: you're trying to understand other people. Crack on!
There are different ways of viewing consent, but if in doubt, we would suggest a great start is that ONLY ENTHUSIASTIC, INFORMED CONSENT COUNTS.
Yes, it's complicated, because some people like to play with CNC, or go non-verbal in some situations etc., but consent is not only about shouting 'YES, yes, YES!' from the rooftops. Here are some useful links if you would like to explore....