What we're about
This is a social group for women who lost their mothers as children or adolescents under the age of 21.
Losing your mother or not having her fully present during childhood or adolescence is not a ‘normal’ experience and while we’ve almost certainly built up extraordinary resources going through life, what’s normal for us probably isn’t normal for the girl next door. We're different than women and girls who have had their mothers through to adulthood, so whether we know it or not we are part of a special sisterhood.
A little bit about me; I’m in my 30’s (born in North London) and I lost my mother to breast cancer when she was 42 and I was 13. A few years later I also lost my father. I work in communications and have lived and worked abroad for many years. I've enjoyed some extraordinary adventures and experiences in life and have been blessed with a few wonderful people in it! At the same time however, the loss never really goes away and there exists an indelible sense of being different.
Since Hope Edelman wrote her precedent-setting book 'Motherless Daughters – The Legacy of Loss’ in 1994, groups have sprung up all over the world but not in London – why?
The possibilities for meetings are limitless – from gatherings at home, to organising charitable events, even sharing academic or cultural pursuits. Mostly though, just meeting one another and sharing our experiences, supporting one another when we need it.
I’d like to emphasise that this is not a grief group or a therapeutic group, as we're not professional therapists, but rather a peer support group for women to meet, share friendship, experiences, resources and advice, though this could change in the future.
If any of this resounds with you please get in touch. I hope to meet once a month at first somewhere in central London or zone 2 for simple gatherings and to take it from there. I’m also looking for a co-organizer if anyone is interested..
Finally, Meetup charges annual hosting fees (normally around January for us) so membership would entail an annual fee at this time of around £10-£15 depending on the size of the group. It's unavoidable unfortunately.