Imagine this: your entire reality has been warped and distorted. You have been mercilessly violated, manipulated, lied to, ridiculed, demeaned, and tricked into believing that you are imagining things. The person you thought you knew and the life you thought you were building have been shattered into a million little fragments. Your sense of self has been eroded, diminished. You were idealized, devalued, then shoved off the pedestal. Perhaps you were even replaced and discarded multiple times, only to be lured back into an abuse cycle even more torturous than before. Maybe you were relentlessly stalked, harassed, and bullied to stay with your abuser. This was no ordinary relationship: this was a set-up for covert and insidious murder of your psyche and sense of safety in the world.
This is what narcissistic abuse looks like.
Psychological violence by malignant narcissists can include verbal and emotional abuse, toxic projection, stonewalling, sabotage, smear campaigns, and a plethora of other forms of coercion and control. This is imposed by someone who lacks empathy, demonstrates an excessive sense of entitlement, and engages in interpersonal exploitation to meet their own needs at the expense of the rights of others. The aftermath of narcissistic abuse can include depression, anxiety, hypervigilance, a pervasive sense of toxic shame, emotional flashbacks that regress the victim back to the abusive incidents, and overwhelming feelings of helplessness and worthlessness. When we are in the midst of an ongoing abuse cycle, it can be difficult to pinpoint exactly what we are experiencing because abusers are able to twist and turn reality to suit their own needs, engage in intense love-bombing after abusive incidents, and convince their victims that they are the ones who are the abusers.
And whether the narcissist in your life is your boss or manager, the owner of a company where you work, your friend, a family member or parent, your spouse, someone in a romantic relationship with you, etc. chances are you’re in need of support and healing.
This is not therapy, and I’m not a therapist. And this is not a 12-step program. We don’t discuss politics, religion, or current events. This is a supportive group with a focus on healing. We explore all topics of narcissist abuse. We meet weekly, watch videos with a new or different topic, and discuss them and support each other.
Everyone is welcome in this group, regardless of your race, ethnicity, religion (or lack thereof), sexual orientation, class, or gender. And we welcome LGBT. But you must be at least 18 years old (some of the videos we watch contain cursing).
This group is free to join and free to belong. I do accept donations (in cash only) but strictly voluntary to cover group fees—any donations you make don’t go into my pocket.