What we're about
THIS IS NOT A DATING GROUP, BUT A PLACE TO MEET NEW PEOPLE CASUALLY, WHO HAPPEN TO HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON. Because it's not a dating group, there is no pressure, just an opportunity to meet new people, relax, and have fun. You must be 21 or older to join. This group is restricted to members in Long Island, and nearby parts of Queens. If your profile says that you are from New York, or some other place that's not in Long Island or Queens, you will automatically be denied membership.
We will meet monthly (sometimes more) for mostly food, but often for drinks, and other types of events. There will be a $5/year membership fee to join, which will cover the cost of bookings, materials, and other things. Members must pay their dues within 180 days of joining. Other costs will be listed page for individual events. Members must attend at least 2 meetups a year. IF YOU ARE ATTENDING A MEETUP, YOU MUST HAVE YOUR DUES PAID FOR OR YOU WILL BE REMOVED FROM THE EVENT. You can pay using Meetup's WePay system (super safe) OR you can PayPal me, use Venmo, OR you can pay the $5 when you attend an event (please email me privately). DUES ARE NON-REFUNDABLE, DESPITE WHETHER YOU VOLUNTARILY LEAVE A GROUP OR ARE REMOVED FROM ONE BY A LEADER.
No "flaking" allowed on an event; if you are a no show TWICE, you are out of the group. If you need to cancel for an event, please notify us ASAP; if you do so 0-8 hours before the event, you will be considered as "flaking" and it will count as one of your no shows. If you are a no show to an event and there is another event that you are listed as going to during that week or even that month, you will be automatically removed from that other event as well or put on the bottom waitlist. In the case that you are attending a joint meetup with my group and are scheduled to seat with that other group, but do not show the night of that event, then you will be removed from the next meetup or put at the bottom of the waitlist. Additionally, you are not always guaranteed a spot an event; events fill up quickly and preference is usually given to those members that attend regularly and don't cancel. More so, if specifically stated that there is no flaking on an event, then a member may be removed from the group; this is particularly true when the host has worked hard to get seating for 15 or more. Hard Policy: If you are new to the group, flaking signifies your lack of interest in really being a part of this group. NEW MEMBERS that have NEVER ATTENDED, will automatically be thrown out from the group if they are a NO SHOW to an event. NO REFUNDS FOR DUES for anyone who is dismissed from this group or leaves on their own terms. New Meetup Site Policy: Because of the way the new meetup site is designed, we can no longer put in for no-shows the way we used to. Therefore, your name will be announced on the comment section as "no show" so that it's easier to keep track of.
NO DOUBLE-DIPPING. This means that you have signed up for two ore more events that run at the exact same time. This is against the policies of meetup.com. If you have done so, you will be automatically removed from the event for our group. If this happens more than once, you will be removed from the group and reported to meetup.com and other penalties will incur. If you are removed for this reason, THERE IS NO REFUND ON YOUR MEMBER DUES.
NO HARASSMENT OF ANY KIND IS ALLOWED. You are NOT allowed to contact members using their Meetup email unless they give you permission. If a member gives you their number, please be respectful toward them and DO NOT HARASS THEM. We've lost many member already because of MISCONDUCT; let's try to avoid that in the future. In terms of the the comments on events, please do not say things to make people uncomfortable; general concerns about meetups are fine, but do not push an issue on the comments page that could be handled privately. If you have a concern that doesn't involve the meetup directly, please email La privately and she will deal with the situation. If you are being HARASSED by any member, you must let La know right away.
NO ICEBREAKERS. Part of the fun of this group is that you meet people naturally; ice breakers ruin it. Anyone who suggests or attempts to create an ice breaker activity will be immediately removed from the group.
NO ASKING FOR SEPARATE CHECKS. This is the job of the leader or the event organizer. As a rule, we try to get them, but it is not a guarantee, which is why you must bring CASH with you to events (to make it easier when we have one check for the group). If you ask for separate checks, then you will be removed from the group.
Failure to follow these rules will result in your immediate removal.
Please note: the leader of this group is married, but we hope that doesn't deter you from joining; she met her husband at a meetup and would like to give those who are not married the opportunity to meet others in a comfortable, more natural environment, like she did.