What we're about

Clinical Sex and Relationship Therapist Sue McGarvie (Sex with Sue.com)and her husband Blaik Spratt started this group called the Ducklings out of local sex and relationship workshops over the last few years.

We are the Ducklings, a safe community of people who are sexy, sassy, flirty and fun.

Our members are awesome people who enjoy getting together to safely flirt, have fun, and expand our knowledge of all things sexy. We do not allow aggression or drama, and no mean people need apply as being kind is a basic value in our group.

While we’re not a dating group, a surprising number of love matches have met at our events. Nor are we a swinger’s group, though some of us are non-monogamous.

We’re a community of people who are not afraid to dip a toe into something new because we’re not alone. It’s way more fun, and far safer, as a community.

Duckling events are designed to be both sexy and fun. We have toured the private dungeon of the city’s best-known Dominatrix and visited a sex club after hours. We’ve taken salsa and polka lessons, learned how to throw an axe (dressed as Vikings to make it more fun), and held a pool party with volunteers providing pedicures and massages. And we love themed parties with costumes!

Our members are half couples (some married more than 30 years) and singles (gay, straight, or “its’ complicated”). We’re primarily over 25 but under 65, with most between 35 and 45. We are firmly in the middle between quiet and gentle, and crazy and wild.

We have grown to over 3,500 people on our e-mail list and are closing in on 2,000 members on “Meetups” alone. We pre-screen to make sure new members share our values.

Given that our events are safe, the best way to discover if you’ll fit in is to come to a general event. You’ll meet lots of people, and as Ducklings are so friendly, they’re happy to answer questions from newbies.

If you are nervous, arrive 30 minutes early. We’ll be there to welcome [M1] , and will give you a task to help you fit in until you acclimatize. Ducklings love to help so you won’t be the only one.

Please join us for guided, pressure-free, sensuous outings. Referrals and friends are welcome, but they need to agree with our philosophy.

Being a Duckling enhances relationships, increases intimacy and builds community.

Wouldn’t you like to be a Duckling, too?

Ducklings are cool! We think a community of like-minded friends for whom kindness matters is important. We think mean people suck. Our first year of adventures included hoedowns, sexuality courses, epic Halloween and Octoberfest parties, burlesque, adult laser tag, wine tours, fantasies and cheesecake, a brothel tour (what!), a clothing optional picnic among so much more. There may be other things on your bucket list that we do in a safe, respectful, and taking-the-high-road-kind-of-way.

Our activities range from PG to slightly out of your comfort zone. And you get to pick the activities (using our rating system -see below) that work for you. Although we do have some workshops (and we know the best speakers in the country) we aim to have more fun making friends and talking about it than just promoting sex as a series of lectures. We are NOT a sex club. Let us repeat that. We are not a swingers club or a place for random hookups. Ick. Guys just looking to score need not apply here. (And we can’t believe we have to write this but inappropriate photos or randomly soliciting our female members will get you removed and blocked permanently!) We have a zero tolerance for sexually hustling women off the Duckling meet up site! Let us repeat we are NOT a dating site.

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