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New Year, Same You but Stronger, more Strategic and Sustained!

From: Akwese
Sent on: Sunday, January 6, 2019 8:12 AM

Hello Phenomenal Women of Purpose & Power,

I'm sure you've heard it said before, "New Year, New You."  Well, I'd like to offer an alternative spin to this common phrase.

So often in life, we look to the beginning of a new year to reflect on what needs to change and how we can reinvent ourselves. Change is a vital part of all our lives and reinventing is great, however, one thing I’ve noticed is that when January 1st appears you see people flocking to the gym to meet their new weight loss goals, rushing to the store to load up on veggies for a new diet, or donating boxes of clothing to charity because they've started a new minimalistic lifestyle.  While in general all these behaviors may be admirable, the challenge I see too often is sustainability. Go to that same gym where you were once waiting an hour to use the treadmill at and it now looks like a ghost town in March. That friend whose Instagram account was full of fruits and veggies is now full of pizza and burgers come June.

I, too, know how this goes because I’ve been there, many times. I set high goals, have some success, but then I can’t sustain them. Once I "fall off", it becomes a downward cycle into unhelpful thoughts such as "Why even bother if I've already failed?"  One thing that has helped me be successful with setting, maintaining and finding contentment in my goals and progress towards them has been in changing the way I look at the beginning of a year.  Instead of excitingly exclaiming "New Year, New Me” while looking for the hottest diets or life hack overhauls, I say, “New Year, Same Me but more Strong, Strategic and Sustained.”  What do I mean by this?

Well, sometimes we can be so quick to rid ourselves of all the challenges of the year prior that we forget the valuable lessons learned along the way. Without the struggles we wouldn't have grown or gained wisdom to be able to handle whatever the coming year has for us. Therefore, how I like to orient myself at the beginning of the year is to root in my being and character, things that don't change but are always parts of me. I do this by asking myself a couple key questions…

First, I reflect on What's been working? It’s important that I identify all the things that went well and ways in which I supported my own success. Then I ask myself How can I do more of it? in the coming year.  By looking for ways to continue to build upon my previous success and intentionally focus on core values displayed in them, I empower myself by leveraging what has already been done.

Next, I like to explore Where have I been challenged/hurt/broken down? As a follow up to this question, it’s important to ask What lessons did I learn? from those moments/situations/experiences that I want to carry with me and What baggage or fears did it birth that I'd like to leave behind? as they no longer serve me since I’ve learned from them.

Once you've sat with these, I invite you to look at it all and thank yourself for all the ways in which you've experienced joy, love and peace from the "good times" and from the "bad times" via the valuable insight and wisdom you gained into how to better recognize, radiate and receive that same joy, love and peace.

From there, it makes it easier to fully believe that there is nothing wrong with you or in need of fixing but that you are continually evolving and growing with each experience. From this place we can say to ourselves, in this new year, how can I, in all my brilliance and beauty, take what I’ve learned and apply it to be stronger, more strategic and sustained in all that I do?

I hope this has provided some food for thought. Know that I am sending all of you so much love as you reflect and plan ahead!

Before I go, I'd LOVE to have your input on how best to utilize this group. If you still haven't filled out our Meetup Insight Survey please do so now. It only takes three minutes but allows us to know how best to serve and support you this year. Thanks in advance!

 

Warmly,

Akwese

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Ps. To help you out with your reflection and soaking in all the Strength, Strategy and Sustainability that you’ll exhibit in the coming year, I thought I'd pass along a little booklet I like to use to make note of where I’ve been and am going each year. You can download it here for free.

 

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