• How to Speak so People "Get You"

    Twin Oaks Branch, Austin Public Library

    I'll be the first to say it... It hurts to be misunderstood It hurts even more if you really mean well or were just trying to explain your point of view and the person becomes defensive and it becomes a weird verbal sparring/debate rather than a healthy exchange of feelings, stories, opinions, and ideas. This meetup will focus on 2 parts of misunderstandings... 1) Handling your emotional state when these situations come up and a better way to think about things 2) How to ask questions and deliver your thoughts and opinions in a way that promotes a healthy conversation and exchange of ideas. There's the myth not to talk about politics, religion, or money. And I understand why this is a decent recommendation... when someone doesn't have the skill set to navigate these topics that typically have a lot of self-identity and emotions packed into them. Now, for the sake of the meetup, we won't be talking about highly sensitive adrenaline/cortisol spiking topics, but... We will practice skills to manage our reaction to the people in life who are less than open to alternate points of view. Here's what we'll cover through brief explanation and a handful of dynamic/engaging exercises... - Rapporting - playing with body language and our words to watch what enhances and takes away from our rapport with others - Replacing "but" with "and" -- why the word "but" programs people for defensiveness and what happens when we change the discussion - The "Yes ... and ..." method for greater agreement even on topics of apparent conflict -- this technique is used both in improv and by Tony Robbins when he's helping people change unhelpful limiting beliefs - The audit process from Chris Voss's "Never Split the Difference" -- this simple technique will change the way you approach tough conversations I am excited to meet you all there and expect it will be a great evening!

  • From Strangers to Friends (in 10 Minutes or Less)

    Old Quarry Branch, Austin Public Library

    Have you ever been at a meetup, networking event, function or even out "in the wild" (a.k.a. all of the world outside of our living place) and wanted to get to know someone better? We probably all have at one point or another. Some of us may have even written off this idea saying, "I'm not a people person. I'm better at [insert something you are incredibly talented at]" Now, it doesn't have to be that way... I spent 23 years confused at how the heck friendships--and relationships in general--happened. It took me about 7 years, lots of reading, and conversations with (conservatively) 20,000 strangers to figure out the fundamentals of friendship/relationship building and I believe we can learn the key components of it (And Practice it!) in about 2 hours. In this meetup we will go over: -A few simple games to get in a social state of mind and know more about each other -What's been going on with you and what you'd like more help with around communication (ideally it fits with the Meetup topic) -The "Friendship Formula" from "The Like Switch" by Jack Schaeffer -The first 5 minutes... from getting a conversation started to a comfortable back and forth... talking about things you find interesting -How to end the conversation and set up a 2nd meeting with someone on the spot and exchange contact information (if you want to) - (Time permitting) - How to spot someone interested in speaking with you from across the room without a word ever leaving your mouth (yep, not even kidding...) What we'll discuss and practice has led to a much more fulfilling life for me in work, family, friendship, and romance... and most importantly, I've seen similar results in the people I've helped with this so far.

  • Small talk to Real talk (FAST)

    Little Woodrows

    To be blunt, small talk sucks! But it doesn’t have to! I spent years thinking “why in the hell do people do this?? Can’t we just get real with each other?? Am I doing something wrong??” Then I found a way... Let’s make this first meet up about meeting people, sharing our intrigue about communication and what gets us going and excited and... Play a few simple games that will sharpen your own innate ability to connect with someone (even someone you might normally not connect with) quickly! Come in with curiosity and a spirit to be open to new ideas, and I think we’ll have a blast!