{"id":11211,"date":"2022-06-14T06:15:00","date_gmt":"2022-06-14T10:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/?p=11211"},"modified":"2023-06-27T18:47:56","modified_gmt":"2023-06-27T22:47:56","slug":"recording-the-power-of-authentic-friendships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/recording-the-power-of-authentic-friendships\/","title":{"rendered":"Recording: The Power of Authentic Friendships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Close friendships take time, energy, and a healthy dose of vulnerability, all of which can be in short supply. In this Meetup Live event, we\u2019re bringing in a clinical psychologist and friendship researcher for a discussion about why platonic connections are so important and how we can navigate the complexities of adult friendships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Watch Dr. Miriam Kirmayer for a lesson on building a robust and rewarding social circle. You\u2019ll <a href=\"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/tips-for-making-friends-as-an-adult-during-lonely-times\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">learn to make new friends<\/a>, deepen friendships you\u2019ve already formed, and find connections who make your life more enjoyable. Hear tangible tips for getting past the awkward phase of getting to know someone by being your authentic self.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Recording: The Power of Authentic Friendships\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9cMyeMBFeaw?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-main-takeaways-on-adult-friendships\">Main Takeaways on Adult Friendships: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>The name of my blog with <em>Psychology Today<\/em> is called <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/casual-close\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">From Casual to Close<\/a> and it&#8217;s all about how we move from casual acquaintances to close friends because it is such a challenge for so many of us. The success here is really tied to our ability and willingness to tolerate discomfort because it is really awkward and uncomfortable. The more we can accept that discomfort and acknowledge it the better able we are to move through that. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>There&#8217;s interesting research showing that we can actually quantify how many hours it takes to build a friendship. It takes about 50&nbsp;hours to move to a casual friendship, 100&nbsp;hours to move to a closer friendship, and about 200&nbsp;hours to move to a best friend. We really do need to put in the time, and a lot of people hope and expect that friendships will just happen. That happens sometimes, but more often than not we need to both spend time together, have that consistency in frequency, and be intentional with what we&#8217;re doing in our time together and how we&#8217;re connecting. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>First and foremost, we really want to acknowledge that making friends can be uncomfortable and can bring a lot of anxiety. You need to know you are not alone in feeling this. When we feel anxious, we tend to judge ourselves for that and it has the effect of making us feel even more isolated, and when we feel isolated, we tend to isolate ourselves. It&#8217;s a vicious cycle where we are feeling increasingly anxious and disconnected. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-top-q-a-questions-resources\">Top Q&amp;A Questions &amp; Resources: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><strong>How do you move from a friendship that may have started as a virtual friendship into an in-person friendship?<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>I think we want to be mindful of the fact that there are different levels to connecting. There are different stages or phases, and for some people connecting on the phone, or through a Zoom call feels much more personal than texting. So I think we can use that to our advantage by thinking about how can to take this friendship to the next level. Eventually, getting to a place where having that in-person moment of connection doesn&#8217;t feel like a huge jump.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Do you have any tips for retirement age, Folks who are making friendships in your community without a partner?<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>The most important thing to emphasize is that you can. You can still do this because there can be a lot of challenges for people depending on the reason why they&#8217;re showing up to a situation without a partner. Sometimes we&#8217;re dealing with grief and loss, and sometimes we just feel like an outsider because the people around us are showing up as a pair, but that doesn&#8217;t take away from our ability to forge meaningful connections. Sometimes putting yourself in a situation where you are flying solo, so to speak, is really helpful because there&#8217;s more momentum that pushes you to connect with the people who are there. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>What type of impact does your friendship have on how long you live?<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>Our friendships are one of the most important predictors of how healthy we are, and how long we live. When we have a healthy social network, we&#8217;re less likely to suffer from chronic health conditions. It boosts our immune system, our cognitive functioning, and our mental health, all of which are essential for longevity. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Resources:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.miriamkirmayer.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Dr. Miriam&#8217;s website<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/miriamkirmayer\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Instagram<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/view.flodesk.com\/pages\/616b1e17ce1180e9a55d5247\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Dr. Miriam\u2019s newsletter<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"post-excerpt\"><p>Watch this Meetup Live with Dr. Miriam Kirmayer for a lesson on building a robust and rewarding social circle.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":45,"featured_media":11230,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[127],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - 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