{"id":17057,"date":"2023-08-01T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-08-01T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/?p=17057"},"modified":"2023-12-18T09:23:43","modified_gmt":"2023-12-18T14:23:43","slug":"recording-secret-to-adult-friendships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/recording-secret-to-adult-friendships\/","title":{"rendered":"Recording: The Secret to Adult Friendships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>For many adults, finding and maintaining friendships can feel more difficult than waking up for a 6:00 AM spin class. But the fact is, having an active social life is as important to your physical and mental health as regular exercise. Watch this Meetup Live recording for a live demo to help you stretch your socializing muscles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>View this Meetup Live event recording with Kat Vellos, friendship expert, connection coach, and author of&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/weshouldgettogether.com\/book\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships<\/a>&nbsp;for a workshop that will help you make new friends and keep existing ones. You will learn how to spot the friendships that are right in front of you\u2014and take steps to help your relationships blossom. Get inspired research that proves rekindling old friendships is easier than you think. Learn to avoid the most common mistakes for new friendships so your outreach makes an impact.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Recording: The Secret to Adult Friendships\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Timestamps: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kicking off a new friendship (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=7\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">0:07<\/a>)\n<ul>\n<li>Outreach example (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=63\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">1:03<\/a>)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Activity 1 (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=180\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">3:00<\/a>)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Rekindling an old friendship (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=626\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">10:26<\/a>)\n<ul>\n<li>Outreach example (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=788\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">13:08<\/a>)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Activity 2 (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=876\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">14:36<\/a>)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>7 Biggest mistakes &amp; 7 Friendship fertilizers (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=1283\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">21:23<\/a>)\n<ul>\n<li>7 biggest mistakes (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=1332\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">22:12<\/a>)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>7 friendship fertilizers (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=1594\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">26:34<\/a>)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mentimeter activity (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=2060\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">34:20<\/a>)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Q&amp;A session (<a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/X1kdY-ZTYb8?t=2338\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">38:58<\/a>)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Top Q&amp;A Questions and Resources: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><strong>How can you avoid sounding too professional in your outreach so it doesn&#8217;t set the intention of becoming networking partners rather than friends?<\/strong>\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>I love this question. It is great because it considers how this person might receive it and thinks through how to frame your communication so it&#8217;s taken the right way. Whether you&#8217;re reaching out professionally or not, I believe that you should include a sentence or two for context so they know where you&#8217;re coming from. So one way you might be able to say that is: <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;Hey Caroline, It&#8217;s been quite some time since we last connected. I truly enjoyed working with you at XYZ Company back in the day. Recently, I&#8217;ve been looking to rebuild and strengthen some connections in my life, and I&#8217;ve noticed that I particularly enjoy reconnecting with former teammates. I would love to reconnect with you and have a casual conversation unrelated to work. No sales pitches or networking agendas, just a friendly chat about life. How do you feel about that? Would you be open to catching up? I hope you&#8217;re doing well, and I&#8217;m looking forward to hearing from you.&#8221; From there, the recipient can then gauge if this is something they&#8217;re interested.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>For connecting off social media, does it always start with a call, or can you suggest meeting IRL, e.g. for coffee?<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Connecting Off Social Media and No In-Person Meeting:<\/strong> When connecting from a distance, consider options like texting, phone calls, or Zoom meetings. Virtual activities like Zoom coffee chats, walking and talking over the phone, or even voice memos can add a richer dimension to your communication. Voice memos allow the recipient to hear your tone and enthusiasm, making the conversation more personal. Another fun idea is to use apps like Marco Polo, which can suggest contacts you might know, enabling you to send asynchronous video messages to each other.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Meeting In-Person Off Social Media:<\/strong> Meeting face-to-face provides an opportunity to be creative and have more fun. Instead of just grabbing coffee, think of engaging in activities that suit both of your interests. For instance, you could meet at a park and make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches together, each contributing to the ingredients. This creates a more enjoyable and memorable experience than a typical coffee shop. If it&#8217;s hot outside, consider a cool indoor location like the air-conditioned lobby of a museum. The key is to think outside the box and come up with activities that you both find exciting and accessible. This way, you can strengthen your connection and create lasting memories while enjoying each other&#8217;s company.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Remember, whatever approach you choose, being genuine and considerate in your communication will always contribute to a successful reconnection.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Resources:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Make adult friendship easier with <a href=\"https:\/\/weshouldgettogether.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Kat Vellos<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Kat&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/weshouldgettogether.com\/newsletter\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Newsletter<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Kat&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/weshouldgettogether.com\/connection-club\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Connection Club<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/weshouldgettogether.com\/book-kat\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Collab<\/a> with Kat<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/katvellos_author\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Instagram<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/lp\/meetup-plus\">Start a free trial of Meetup+, a subscription designed for sparking friendships.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"post-excerpt\"><p>Discover how to spot the friendships that are right in front of you\u2014and take steps to help your relationships blossom.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":45,"featured_media":17059,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[127],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - 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