{"id":5191,"date":"2021-04-05T05:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/?p=5191"},"modified":"2021-06-23T17:35:39","modified_gmt":"2021-06-23T21:35:39","slug":"recording-parenting-through-a-pandemic-mental-health-and-more","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/recording-parenting-through-a-pandemic-mental-health-and-more\/","title":{"rendered":"Recap: Parenting Through a Pandemic, Mental Health and More"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>There&#8217;s no question that the pandemic has presented new and difficult challenges for parents and families. The impacts of these changes on parents and children will be the subject of studies for years to come. In this Meetup Live event, you\u2019ll learn about the coping strategies you need to get yourself and your family through this pandemic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Check out this discussion with Dr. G (Deborah Gilboa, MD), board-certified family physician and parenting expert for <em>The Doctors<\/em> TV show and <em>The TODAY Show<\/em>. Dr. G will share strategies for parents to protect their kids and take care of themselves. Learn what mental health behaviors to look for, when you should take action, and how to make time for yourself while keeping up life\u2019s responsibilities.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Main Takeaways:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>There\u2019s a lot of pressure on parents to look at our kids and if they are happy, that means we\u2019re doing a good job and if they\u2019re not, we\u2019re doing a&nbsp; bad job. And I say to that &#8211; nonsense. That\u2019s ridiculous. If I\u2019m doing my job as a parent, then often I\u2019m causing my child\u2019s unhappiness because I\u2019m putting limits on their behaviors and limits on what they can have and what they can do.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Respectful communication from adults:<ul><li>Empathy:&nbsp; Empathy is saying, \u201cI see that you\u2019re feeling a hard feeling and it\u2019s hard for you and I care. Because I care about you.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li>Honesty (but not transparency): Don\u2019t lie to your child but not everything is their business.<br>If you\u2019re upset about something and your child says, \u201cwhat\u2019s wrong?\u201d don\u2019t say \u201cnothing, I\u2019m not upset.\u201d They can see that you\u2019re upset and it can be really confusing to watch an adult lie. You don\u2019t have to tell them what you\u2019re upset about. You can say \u201cI was having a hard time, thank you for asking.\u201d<\/li><li>Make clear boundaries<\/li><li>Model healthy behavior<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Respectful communication from kids\/teens:<ul><li>Modeling for our kids and teaching them polite words, kind language and tone, and good timing will help them get an adult to listen to them.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Personal accountability&nbsp;<ul><li>Household tasks (chores), Video of Dr. G\u2019s child: 8 year old Teaches College Students How to Do Laundry<\/li><\/ul><ul><li>Praise effort, not results<\/li><li>Boundaries<\/li><li>Empathy for frustration\/ but limiting blame&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Responsible tech use<ul><li>I want you to think about your kids technology use, the same way you think about nutrition:&nbsp;<ul><li>Content<\/li><li>Quantity<\/li><li>Behavior &#8211; does it negatively impact their behavior?<\/li><li>Personal accountability<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Resilience:<ul><li>I cannot overstate the value of treating and caring for your own mental health even if you\u2019re somebody with no diagnosed mental illness. Dealing with your own mental health will make your kids safer, more comfortable, less at-risk.&nbsp;<\/li><li>When your child comes to you with a problem:<ol><li>Ask yourself: Is my child in danger?<ul><li>If yes, fix it! If no\u2026<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Ask your child: Are you looking for\u2026<ul><li>Empathy?<\/li><li>Advice?<\/li><li>Intervention?<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ol><\/li><li>If you feel like they always want you to fix it for them, you may have to ease them towards saying \u201cokay, you know what, I hear that you want me to fix it for you but I want you to learn how to fix it when this happens when I\u2019m not around. So instead, I\u2019m going to give you a suggestion of something you can try and we\u2019ll see if this works and if not, you can come back and tell me.\u201d<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>As hard as it is to watch our kids go through this (the pandemic), there will be other times in their lives when they go through major upheaval and disruption. Teach them strategies to manage upheaval and disruption so the next time it happens, they\u2019ll handle it better than if they hadn&#8217;t been through this with us. So it\u2019s hard and many people have experienced great loss, but there is a silver lining.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"> Top Q&amp;A Questions\/Resources:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>What are some suggestions for split families where both parents have approximately 50\/50 custody?<ul><li>There\u2019s a lot of research that shows that kids understand that different homes have different rules.<br>Our kids can absolutely adapt to different schedules, structures, and routines in different settings. (It\u2019s a little harder for the preschool set, no question.)&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>I don\u2019t seem to be getting to my nearly adult kids to adopt a wholesome lifestyle of mindfulness. What can I do?<ul><li>If you have young adult kids that are outside your purview. The relationship just changes.<br>You have to be invited to give advice to your adult kids.&nbsp;If they live with you and there are certain behaviors you need from them, then you can require that as the cost of living with you.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>What if kids don\u2019t share?<ul><li>Sharing is really hard. At any age.<br>Teaching people to share is a long process. Kids have to see the advantage.<br>The best way to teach people to share is to catch them doing it, even a little bit.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>What are some ways we can teach teens the value of unplugging from devices?<ul><li>I would sit down with teens and ask to tell you, \u201cwhat\u2019s excellent about being online\u201d. Then ask, \u201cIs there anything you don\u2019t like about it?\u201d As you open up their mind to \u201cpros and cons\u201d thinking, they see that you believe that the issue has positive and negative aspects, then you can have a much more open conversation about what boundaries can be put.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>If you\u2019re interested in Dr. G\u2019s courses, use the code HALFOFF for 50% off (until April 14, 2021):<ul><li><a href=\"https:\/\/behavioryouwant.teachable.com\/p\/talking-tough-topics\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Talking Tough Topics with Your Kids<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/behavioryouwant.teachable.com\/p\/2020-back-to-school-resilience-guide-for-parents\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Pandemic Back to School Resilience Guide for Parents<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/colossal-painter-6857.ck.page\/f6fa745031\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Sign up for Dr G\u2019s newsletter here<\/a><\/li><li>Check out part I of Dr. G\u2019s Meetup live: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/recording-resilience-skills-you-need-right-now\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Resilience Skills You Need Right Now<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"post-excerpt\"><p>Dr. G shares strategies for parents to protect their kids and take care of themselves.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":45,"featured_media":5194,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[127],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - 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