{"id":6005,"date":"2021-06-01T05:15:00","date_gmt":"2021-06-01T09:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/?p=6005"},"modified":"2021-06-04T16:51:44","modified_gmt":"2021-06-04T20:51:44","slug":"recording-finding-happiness-and-fulfillment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/blog\/recording-finding-happiness-and-fulfillment\/","title":{"rendered":"Recording: Finding Happiness and Fulfillment"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Pursuing happiness in our day-to-day lives can be quite challenging, especially when there are obstacles that cause us stress and anxiety. One path toward a more pleasant existence is to look to the science of happiness.<br>Watch this Meetup Live fireside chat with psychologist Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar. He&#8217;s the co-founder of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.happinessstudies.academy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Happiness Studies Academy<\/a> and author of <a href=\"https:\/\/bit.ly\/HappierNoMatterWhat\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Happier, No Matter What: Cultivating Hope, Resilience, and Purpose in Hard Times<\/a>. Dr. Ben-Shahar discusses the optimal conditions for learning, growing, and becoming stronger in these times of uncertainty. Learn about evidence-based tools to help you thrive personally and professionally.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-4-3 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Finding Happiness and Fulfillment\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/W8S93FfQCK4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Main Takeaways on Happiness:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>(There&#8217;s no secret to happiness) <br>There are three secrets to happiness.&nbsp;The first secret to happiness is reality, the second secret to happiness is reality. The third one is reality so you know it&#8217;s about reality whether we like it or not, and we need to make the best of what is.\u2029<\/li><li>There are many predictors to happiness but what&#8217;s the number one predictor? Their answer was relationships.&nbsp;<ul><li>Resource: <a href=\"https:\/\/news.harvard.edu\/gazette\/story\/2017\/04\/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Harvard study on happiness and relationships<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>If someone in my family&#8217;s feeling down or a friend is, there&#8217;s a great deal that we can do to help &#8211; and by the way what I&#8217;m talking about now applies to our friends and it applies to us as well naturally.<br>The first thing is to listen. The next thing, we need to also talk about the body because mind and body are one.\u2029 So physical exercise.<\/li><li>Tips on dealing with pain:<ul><li>The first one, talk about it. Talk about it with others, talk about it with a professional therapist or coach, or to your best friend, express it rather than suppress it. Writing about difficult experiences can go a long way. The third way in addition to talking and writing, is crying.\u2029<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Top Q&amp;A Questions\/Resources:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Do you think being grateful has anything to do with happiness?<ul><li>Absolutely, yes. So there&#8217;s a lot of research on that gratitude and well being<\/li><li>I&#8217;ve been keeping a gratitude journal in particular, since the 19th of September 1999. The reason I did that was because Oprah told me to do it. In 2003, the first studies came out by Robert Emmons and Mike McCullough, and others about the value of keeping a gratitude journal, and you look at the happiest people around you, there are people who are grateful.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>What about introverts who don&#8217;t necessarily, enjoy your relationships with others?&nbsp;<ul><li>People enjoy relationships. Period. Just like people enjoy food. We don&#8217;t enjoy all food. Same with relationships. The question is what kind of relationships. The difference between introverts and extroverts matters a lot.\u2029 We all want and can derive a great deal of enjoyment from relationships.\u2029<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>How do you know if you are happy?<ul><li>It&#8217;s not a binary thing. Rather, it&#8217;s a continuum. I&#8217;m a lot happier than I was 30 years ago, still with the ups and downs &#8211; permission to be human &#8211; but I&#8217;m a lot happier than I was 30 years ago. At the same time I certainly hope that I will be happier five years from now than I am today.<br>I called my book <em>Happier<\/em>. I didn&#8217;t call it &#8220;happy,&#8221; because it&#8217;s about becoming happier. It&#8217;s a lifelong journey. It&#8217;s a journey that ends when life ends. The wonderful thing about this journey is that it&#8217;s engaging, it&#8217;s challenging, and it leads us to lead a more full and fulfilling life.\u2029<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Additional resources:<ul><li>Poem: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk\/poem\/guest-house\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">&#8220;The Guest House&#8221; by Jalaluddin Rumi<\/a><\/li><li>Study: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/11346051_On_the_Internet_No_One_Knows_I'm_an_Introvert_Extroversion_Neuroticism_and_Internet_Interaction\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">&#8220;On the Internet No One Knows I&#8217;m an Introvert: Extroversion, Neuroticism, and Internet Interaction&#8221;&nbsp;<\/a><\/li><li>Study: <a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/pdfs\/GratitudePDFs\/6Emmons-BlessingsBurdens.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">&#8220;Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation of Gratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Life<\/a>&#8220;<\/li><li>Check out Dr. Ben-Shahar&#8217;s book:<a href=\"https:\/\/bit.ly\/HappierNoMatterWhat\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> <\/a><em><a href=\"https:\/\/bit.ly\/HappierNoMatterWhat\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Happier, No Matter What<\/a> <\/em><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.happinessstudies.academy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Happiness Studies Academy<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"post-excerpt\"><p>Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar shares tips on how to pursue a happier life along with lessons from the science of happiness.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":45,"featured_media":6008,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[127,1],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - 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