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Re: [humanism-174] When will I turn into a pumpkin?

From: Maria
Sent on: Thursday, September 24, 2009 8:45 PM
I had a similar conversation with a friend recently, b/c I had similar worries - if one day I find myself single, will men my age find me too old for them? The friend said absolutely not. She's in her late 40s, recently divorced, and is seeing a great guy her own age. Another friend of mine - same story - recently divorced, seeing someone his age, and happy as can be. So from what I hear, no, there's no cutoff age after which you're too old to date anyone. Just ignore the middle aged men, they're probably bad news anyway, for reasons everybody else has already mentioned.

My parents live in an apt. building for seniors 60 and older, and my mom tells me the single/widowed women in their building have no shortage of men willing to date them...

Hope it won't be rude if I put a little spin on your post and ask the group's opinion  on this - is there an age after which you're too old to look for a new job? Is there an age after which no one will hire you? I've heard people say that in my field (IT), by the time you're 45-50 you've got to settle into a nice, cushy (i.e. boring) fortune 500/gov't job - moderate pay, good benefits, high job security, no growth potential, that type of thing - and try to stay there for the rest of your career... Well I am now in my early 40s and I realize I don't want to "settle" at all and I am not ready for a boring job, not by a long shot! But then, what if I'm out of work when I'm 50, will anyone hire me? When do we turn into a pumpkin, employment-wise?

From: Ginger <[address removed]>
To: [address removed]
Sent: Tuesday, September 22,[masked]:46:06 PM
Subject: [humanism-174] When will I turn into a pumpkin?

So I am an unmarried 34 year old. And I'm looking. I am bombarded by middle-aged men who find me more than enough attractive but whom refuse to date women their own age. I ask them why. They give flimsy excuses. These men are NOT looking to have children, either. They are free to set their own criteria but so am I, and these men who think someone their own age isn't good enough for them but they are good enough for me make me ill. These men are NOT looking to have children, either. Because one day I will be over 45. Will I have no one willing to date me? I refuse to get married out of fear of growing old.

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