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Bisexual & Bi-Curious Women and the Women Who Love Them

San Francisco, CA

Bisexual & Bi-Curious Women and the Women Who Love Them

We welcome all bisexual women, bi-curious women and all women who love bi women from anywhere in the nation or world. Please join us once a month for this online support group. As everyone starts to get outside we want to be a safe haven for anyone who is still at home during the pandemic. We require that you sign up with your current face photo so we can verify you are a woman. Please have your video on when entering an online meeting or you will be removed from the zoom meeting. We want to build trust and real friendship throughout time and sharing in mutual reciprocation when it comes to photo and video is a way to get closer to one another. There will be some collaboration with other queer groups throughout the world so we hope that you find this support group connective and expansive for our community. Please spread the word about this new meetup group!  December 2021 Update: Any member who has not been active for over 4 months will be removed. If you are interested in getting together in person once the pandemic is over then you can stay an active member of this group by checking this meetup page every few weeks. will update you as an active member each time you click around on this meetup page (even if you cannot make it to the online meeting). If you are removed please re-submit to re-join the group. You must have a photo (further away with body and face or wearing sunglasses facing the camera are okay if you aren't out ) to retain membership. Thank you everyone!

181 members · Private

San Francisco Lipstick Lesbians

San Francisco, CA

San Francisco Lipstick Lesbians

Eyeliner, drawn. Mascara, done. & Lastly, Lipstick added. The San Francisco Lipstick Lesbians meet-up is for the Bay Area lipstick lesbian, femme, and "chapstick" femme community.

This meet-up is for Bay Area/ NorCal femme women identified ONLY looking to make new friends, network, or date other femme identifying women. It's great for femme women new to the Bay Area looking to make friends and get involved in the community.  We are a diverse group of fun, loving femmes ranging from mid-20s to mid-50s that enjoy everything this city offers. Bisexual and Trans-identifying women are welcomed. This space does include single women and women in relationships (committed or open) so please respect that this space is all encompassing for our femme queer women's community. All event's reserved space are strictly for women identified only, this includes guest(s).

For all you femme identifying women interested in joining our group please send a request. To be considered for approval ensure you have these requirements: 1- a clear head-shot photo of yourself (photo should only be of you) so we can recognize you during our events, and 2- your actual first name or nickname; these are required to join and remain in the group. 

The official organizers have a monthly cocktail/ mocktail event in various bar locations in San Francisco, these events are a great way to meet and get to know the amazing ladies of this meetup, so make sure to RSVP and come to those events (usually on Friday or Saturday 6-9 PM); these are especially great for 1st timers. 

Important Information:

MUST BE 21+ AND FEMME-WOMAN-IDENTIFYING AND LOCAL (in Bay Area or Northern California) 

This meetup group is set on private settings; only members can see pictures or other member’s profiles. Profile pictures must be of you and real first name or nickname.

Please do not send unsolicited private messages to members, this platform is created for people to meet in-person at events.

Most events on this meetup allows you to invite one women identified guest*, some events may allow more or none. Please be considerate of this especially given restriction of reserved space. *women identified guests do not need to be femme queer identified, however please respect that this space is created for femme 4 femme connections.

Please RSVP YES if you plan to attend an event to help us keep a true count of the number of attendees (including women identified guests); we normally work with the venue to ensure they have sufficient staff. You will be removed if you show up and do not RSVP as a YES. It is simple - just be courteous.

~~If you have 3 no shows you will be removed, so please update your RSVP to NO if you are not able to attend. A “no show” is when you RSVP YES and not show up or not message the organizer (use comment section or private message) to let them know you can’t make it prior to the event starting. We normally go up to all that attend at each event and introduce ourselves, especially with 1st timers and we do keep track no shows.~~ 

Please let us know if you want to host an event and we can work with you; you can review the message board which has a posting on how to and rules for hosting events; we have a strict rule for only allowing one post per date. Please DO NOT promote your events on this meetup without checking 1st w/ the organizers. 

Keep your membership active by checking out the site periodically, meetup automatically deletes inactive members. You can also be remove at any point at the organizers discretion, we do not tolerate hate or any form of xenophobia in this meetup or drama!

Looking forward to meeting you all!

Sophia A (Organizer)

Cindy K (Co-Organizer)

3070 members · Private

Book Club Dropouts

Palo Alto, CA

Book Club Dropouts

ABOUT US: <br>This is a multifaceted social club. Preferential recruitment is extended to LGBTQ people of any gender, but STR8's may be permitted with a chaperone.¹ Those who are keenly in tune with the humor and cultural milieu of Gay Twitter receive additional consideration. We read voraciously (ask us for great queer YA recommendations),² we love to learn, we play bar trivia and mostly lose, we hang out at the park and other outdoor locations, we like board games, we like meeting new people. And, we're very nice.

ABOUT YOU: <br>LGBTQ-identifying or straight but nice about it. Probably (but not necessarily) in your 20's in the SF peninsula area. Looking for friends and things to do. Likes good, wholesome fun. Could be convinced to go for a hike maybe.

STRICTLY FORBIDDEN: <br>- harassment of any kind <br>- homophobia, transphobia, racism, sexism, derogatory language, or any other behavior that compromises our ability to create a safe and welcoming space for all members <br>

--------------------- <br>The Fine Print

¹You can come if you're straight, you don't actually need a chaperone. It was just a joke. Also, we won't grill anyone about their sexual orientation or gender identity, so you don't have to disclose anything you don't want to share. Let us know your pronouns though. <br>²You may be wondering, "If you love to read so much, why are you Book Club Dropouts?" It's because we actually read way too fast for the pacing of a normal book club, plus we like hanging out more regularly than a normal book club does. It's kinda like an Anti-Book Club-Book Club. Something like that. Plus we do other stuff. And we got really tired of trying to pick a cooler name.

660 members · Public

Conscious Lesbian - Queer Dating and Love San Jose

San Jose, CA

Conscious Lesbian - Queer Dating and Love San Jose

Join growth-oriented women* who love women, or want to, for deep learning, connection and conscious exploration in the worlds of lesbian/queer dating, relationships and sex!

This group is part of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, the leading resource providing education, community and transformation to lesbians and queer women from all over the world. Do you want to find a deeply fulfilling, happy, healthy relationship, or keep your current relationship strong? Do you want more opportunities to connect with like-minded women? Do check out our offerings at the Academy!,

Recent classes include:

  • Sacred Lesbian/Queer Sexuality
  • Five Keys to Finding -- And Being -- the Right Partner
  • Fully Receiving, Appropriately Giving
  • Rewriting Your Relationship Scripts
  • Understanding and Embracing Your Erotic Self
  • Lesbian Dating Deep Dive
  • Find True Love Online
  • Write A Great Online Dating Profile
  • Breakup Recovery: How to Finally Heal and Move On
  • Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love
  • Emotional Self-Awareness
  • Clean Speech, Clean Listening: Lesbian Communication That Really Works
  • Secrets of Great Oral Sex
  • Anatomy of a Lesbian Relationship: Why Heartbreak Happens (and How to Prevent It)
  • Healing Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics

...and much more!

We welcome self-identified women who love women, or want to. Non-binary folx who love women are also welcome. Out for decades, newly exploring your attraction to women, a "gold star" lesbian, or queer, bi or pansexual? You'll meet friends and community here. Many of our members are in their 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond. It's never too late for happy, healthy lesbian love and deeply fulfilling sex! It's also never too early :)

Our classes are based on cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology and relationship research. Our community is warm, welcoming and compassionate. We're here to help you have the love and sex life you truly want.

Sign up at our mailing list and receive a FREE PDF of our book, Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love! (Or purchase a hard copy via your favorite online bookseller.)

29 members · Public

Conscious Girlfriend: For Happy, Healthy Lesbian/Queer Love

San Francisco, CA

Conscious Girlfriend: For Happy, Healthy Lesbian/Queer Love

Conscious Girlfriend: We Help Lesbians & Queer Women Date Wisely and Love Well.

Welcome to our Meetup group! Conscious Girlfriend offers free workshops and teleclasses, many free articles and videos on our website ( plus a variety of other offerings - including in-depth online classes and live weekend retreats - all focused on helping lesbians and queer women find, create and sustain the happy, healthy love we want and deserve.  

Our work is based on neuroscience, psychology, spirituality and other tools of transformation -- and it can help you find the partner of your dreams, and create the relationship you've always wanted.  

I'm Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D., and I co-founded Conscious Girlfriend with Michelle Murrain back in 2013. Here's a bit about the professional background that went into that: I have a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology and have helped individuals and couples grow and heal since 2003. I also trained in relationship coaching with Gay and Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving and many other books, and with the Somatica Institute, which offers a pioneering, experiential approach to sexuality and intimacy coaching. 

But most importantly, I walk my talk and live Conscious Girlfriend principles every day in my own intimate relationship! I'm very transparent, not a "guru," but a real live person on my own growth path. I came out in 1982 and am completely committed to learning more about love, and loving in healthier and more intimate ways, each and every day -- and to learning what I teach, teaching what I learn, and supporting our community!  

About You

If you're a single lesbian or queer woman who's seeking a new relationship sometime soon...

If you're not sure you want another relationship, but you do know for sure you don't want any more heartbreak... 

If you know you're not ready now, but want help gaining skills and tools so that someday you can create the kind of deeply fulfilling, healthy love you've always wanted... 

Or if you're in a relationship now, and want tools and skills to make your love as intimate, joyful, harmonious and satisfying as it can be...

We hope you'll join this Meetup group, and take advantage of some of our offerings!

We are very compassionate and inclusive. If you identify as a woman and are interested in loving a woman, you're welcome (whether you're trans, queer, lesbian, gay, genderqueer, just coming out, bisexual, monogamous, poly, or however else you might identify.)  

For more information, check us out at

In love,


(Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.)

2028 members · Public

LezBayIns: Lesbians Around The Bay Over 50

Oakland, CA

LezBayIns: Lesbians Around The Bay Over 50


Please read our description below carefully before applying and apply only if you are a 50+ Lesbian in the more immediate Bay Area and have a recent/recognizable photo of your full face (no sunglasses) uploaded in your main MU acct. It will accompany your application. This is for security of all and recognizability at events. THANKS!

What do YOU Love to do? This is a MEMBER DRIVEN Meetup...our events/activities come from YOU and ALL are welcome to post/host well organized outings.

We are a community of Lesbians over 50 (sorry, no exceptions) who live in the Bay Area (east, south, north, SF) who want more options to do FUN, interesting, artistic, athletic, intellectual, culinary, outdoor, and indoor activities. The goal is to post a wide variety of interests/locations around the Bay.

***RECENT/CLEAR FORWARD FACING PHOTO OF YOU/YOUR FACE REQUIRED (without sunglasses, mask, hat shade, etc) for security of all and to help identify you at events and avoid voyeurs online. If you have a security issue, write us.


***CHANGE YOUR RSVP IF YOU CAN'T MAKE AN EVENT. If you NO SHOW consistently, you will be removed from the group.



**DISCLAIMER: The organizers and leaders of this group are volunteers, not professional guides. When joining, you agree to attend all events at your own risk. You and your guests agree to hold no one liable in the event of injury or mishap. Hiking, other outdoor activities, and travel to/from events are not risk-free. You are solely responsible for your preparedness and well-being.

188 members · Private