For couples who haven’t “cleaned-up, grown-up, and woken-up” the quality of showing-up suffers providing impetus for married individuals to look elsewhere to fulfill vital needs. This is especially a possibility within the intimate relationship where unrealized issues eventually “all come out in the wash”.
The extra marital affair is an apocalyptic developmental transformation for a couple who has failed to heed the signs to evolve. When guided along this traumatic developmental path by an integrally informed therapist, the crisis of the affair is utilized to alter vital interactional patterns, challenge erroneously held beliefs, and heightens gratitude and contentment; and finally, re-enchanting the relationship. The apocalyptic transformation begins at the nauseating discovery of infidelity. Via an all quadrant analysis the loss attraction is strategically reignited for the disengaging spouse by tapping primitive impulses. After ample trauma and reflection, we finally arrive at a deeper re-connection than the couple previously experienced. Their embrace now reflects how close they came to loosing what they now cherish… that later is transformed into daily feelings of gratitude. Tom will bring clarity and simplicity to illuminate what has to be understood in intimate interaction to achieve the foundation from which intimacy thrives.
Dr. Tom Habib is a clinical psychologist in San Juan Capistrano, CA specializing in couple’s therapy. Tom has published papers on a Couple’s Line of Development (Integral Leadership Review, Aug-Nov, 2016, revised 2018) and on the role of Regression and LR Supporting Structures (Journal of Integral Theory & Practice, Dec. 2014).
He has presented at the Integral Theory Conference, at the Integral European Conference (IEC) 2018 and 2016 where he was recognized for the Best Practitioner Paper, Honorable Mention. Tom is currently serving as the chair for the newly emerging International Consortium of Integral Scholars for IEC.
In Dec., 2017 Tom was designated as a top 5% researcher by Academia.edu and was notified November, 2018 that he had achieved the top 1% researcher in recognition how often his work is viewed by researchers all over the world. The Wisdom Factory was the first to introduce Tom to the larger integral community and to make his ideas available throughout the world. Since then, he has presented his work on several pod/video cast including The Daily Evolver, Evolve Radio, Something You Should Know among others.
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