What we’re about
ALL RSVPs by EMAIL or TEXT ONLY. BE SURE TO READ FIRST, and to the end. Being in this MeetUp group does NOT mean one is a club member of xYMC. It means you are approved to attend at least ONE event, and after attending you can apply for membership. AFTER attending and approved, you are moved to a different Meetup.
PRIVACY RULE
All membership candidates and Members commit to maintain the privacy of all participants, including hosts, and any and all attendees of any and all Club or related activities, to not disclose their identities, their personal activities, actions, statements, or expressed opinions, to anyone outside the Club, or to disclose the location or any identifying details of any Club activity or event, except as required by law, by accessing our page here, or proceeding with any communications, or in any activity connected to this club. Failure to follow this rule is cause for immediate expulsion and permanent banning from the Club. Merely discussing the existence of the Club, its general nature or type of activities, or YOUR membership or participation as a candidate in it, is permissible, and not a violation of our privacy rule.
GENERAL DESCRIPTION
Our private men's social pool club provides a space where its dues-paying male members can freely socialize, discuss ideas, or freely enjoy an open space, without concern for disturbing or offending the sensibilities of the opposite sex, one’s own heterosexual modesty, or the ever-changing rules of political correctness and sexual norms. Eventually, we plan to support initiatives that assist in male-affirming development of young boys and men. Since Covid, we suspended 'club hours' and monthly dues, and are only doing 'open' events - but we are going to re-start very soon. Club hours are each week where guys can hang out, do what they want, talk about anything they want (if opposing opinions upset you, not the place for you), with a small clothing optional area for sunning and outdoor TV for watching games, and skinny dipping in pool/spa, and other special events (we do our best to allow as much freedom as possible and organize events as requested by members). Open events are generally open to any paid member for free and also open to approved attendee members for a per-event fee (currently, monthly and annual memberships are suspended). There are no age restrictions above age 21, but we do try to keep a balance. Member ages currently range from mid 20's to early 60's, with an average and median age of mid-to-late 30's. Occasional special events and group outings may take place outside the usual club space. This is not a naturist or nudist club. We do allow nudity whenever the space makes it possible in male-only spaces as part of our male freedom ethos. Events held in public spaces may prohibit nudity if it violates local laws or may disturb others. Members ARE EXPECTED to meet a minimum (reasonable) level of PHYSICAL FITNESS and mental fitness and social civility, and there is a membership fee if approved as a member. xymc@yahoo.com for details.
In answer to a question we get a lot: This is not a sex or hookup club. Some of our members are straight or bi. Our club's approach is to focus on camaraderie, comfort with each other (physically and mentally), and liberty to hang out, and speak out, as freely as you want as a man. Whether that means you end up talking about quantum physics for two hours, ranting on feminism or praising it; or enjoying your own body or the physical company of other guys - it's all fine, as long as no one is being 'in your face', rude, obnoxious, or ignores another guy's limits. Just be considerate, chill, clear, and cut every guy some slack.
MEMBERSHIP APPROVAL
Candidates for membership must be men who: 1) are comfortable in their sex* as men and in their sexuality; 2) are educated or seek education, are intellectually curious, and like discussions; 3) are very tolerant of different points of view and are not easily offended by words or non-violent actions; 4) VALUE PHYSICAL FITNESS AND ACTIVELY WORK TO STAY FIT (please do not ignore this requirement, because we won't. You will be expected to be within the healthy/normal range of BMI for men (18.5 - 24.9 : https://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/assessing/bmi/adult_bmi/english_bmi_calculator/bmi_calculator.html); and 5) are well-socialized to follow basic rules and directions; can accept and appreciate the parameters of this club (i.e. it’s masculine nature, its exclusive affirmation of freedom of speech and association). Applicants are confidentially vetted by current members. You will need to provide a face pic and torso (can be with form-fitting shirt). Can be in separate photos. If photos are not accurate when you show up to your first event, you will not be allowed in, and you will be banned from joining for one year.
To join the meetup group, please send a face pic that includes at least your upper body to show us you do take care of your body, and age. If you are not sure, use a BMI calculator to see if you are in range. Joining the meetup group does not get you into the club, but it does get you a view into our activities, some club pics (that do NOT identify members), and let you consider joining the club. Please take advantage. Once approved to enter the MeetUp space, it is expected that you will manage to get approved to attend, and do attend, an event to meet prospective members within 9 weeks. After that, YOU MAY BE REMOVED from the MeetUp group until you are ready to proceed. If you do get approved to attend an event, and do not show up without notice, you will be removed from the group. Members-Only events are not always listed here.
We ask that non-paid members EMAIL the info requested before being able to come to a prospective members Open event (email photo including at least upper body, age, and some details about yourself, to xymc@yahoo.com or via message here). RSVPs here are not recognized except for members. Members and others can RSVP via email. Please be sure to inquire at least a couple of days before an event you would like to attend, or we may not be able to consider it in time. We treat all inquiries with respect and discretion, and will protect your privacy. If you have ANY questions, do not hesitate to ask.
*We retain the right to define the nature of our freedom of association with others. There are currently two ways of thinking of men vs. women: 1) Sex - a biological and anatomical characteristic; or, 2) Gender - a preferred identification and pronoun use. Our group is based on the first.