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Divorce: Healing and Moving On
My online group, Divorce: Healing and Moving On, focuses on envisioning what members want their lives to be like so they can move forward and create the life and relationships they want. This group will become a safe place for you to share these feelings without fear of judgment, as most group members are in a phase of trying to recreate their lives.
It can take 2-3 years to recover from divorce. You need to create a new identity, discover who you are as a single person, find a sense of belonging within your social circle and your community, and sometimes adjust to single parenthood. Change takes many forms: moving on, living separately from their partners, going through a legal process, starting to date, re-establishing a social life, or getting used to being alone.
In this online support group, you will gain strategies, learn to cope and begin to heal by relating to others in similar situations. Facilitated discussion and sharing of experiences within the group will help you gain insight, acceptance and self-awareness. The group focuses on examining all relationships. Members observe when they take similar roles in their relationships, choose the same types of people, and recreate similar situations. One of the stages of healing is working on the harm that was done in the relationship as well as being accountable for one’s part in the dynamic. Once the trauma of the separation has been worked through, the deeper work begins. The focus is placed on the individual and their relationship with themselves.
Remember- the disorientation of divorce can last a long time, and the process of finding your footing is not linear. There are days when you feel grounded and secure. Then a trigger can lead to a fresh wave of grief, anger and confusion.
If you have kids, you have to re-learn how to deal with your ex, shift communication styles, and become more formal and distant. It may be hard to create new boundaries with your ex. The fighting may continue, or one of you may need more distance while the other does not.
While the emotional upheaval is at its worst, you may be dealing with lawyers and court appearances. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear and vulnerability. Having group support makes a huge difference because it helps you transform those negative feelings into strength.
Divorce is the starting point and our goal for the group is to transform who members will become. You will meet people who want the right kind of support so you can get through this part of your separation together.
-ONLINE Group: 12 pm - 1:15 pm PST Wednesdays
-Intake therapy session required to join
*Group starts on July 11*