This one is from Denise
Although, there are many things that we judge (artwork, cars, etc.), let's focus only on our judgement of people.
Merriam-Webster defines the word "judge" as: to form an opinion about (something or someone) after careful thought. To regard (someone) as good or bad.
How do you judge a person; physical features, character, gender, abilities, status, talents, intelligence, race, religious beliefs, etc? Or do you rely on your gut feeling or intuition regardless of any other knowledge of them? Maybe it's a combination of both, or maybe you don't judge people at all. Is it possible not to judge?
Does your judgement of someone depend on if they like you? Can you have a high regard for someone that you feel does not even remotely like you, support you, or acknowledge you in any way? Can you dislike someone that thinks highly of you?
Have you ever felt confident about an opinion that you've formed of someone, only later to change your mind entirely? Have you ever rushed to judgement on someone by only one or two things that they've said or done? How accurate is your first impression of someone?
How about people who have judged you? Were they accurate? If you felt they were inaccurate, did this anger you, or was it laughable because of its absurdness? Do you generally feel that you are judge fairly, or unfairly? Does it matter to you?
Do you judge yourself? If so, is it generally positive or negative? Do you judge yourself for your success or failure in your past? If so, is it fair? Is it helpful or hurtful? Do you have no judgement of yourself at all?
Now that we are charging people $5/year, when a new person signs up for the group, they have 30 days in which to decide whether to pay the $5, or to be removed from the group. Given how difficult it can be to get into a Discussion, newcomers may be unable to evaluate the group properly before the 30 day window has expired. So, going forward, I will push new people into the Discussions so that they can get a taste before they are dropped. I hope that this can be done by adding a 13th person on occasion.
DISCUSSION BOARD: There is a Discussion Board on the Meetup Web site. Unfortunately, Meetup is so brain dead that the Discussion Board facility is not available from the phone apps. I post links to the Discussion Board frequently. You can find the Discussion Board here, if you wish to take a look: https://www.meetup.com/philosophy-254/messages/boards/forum/844195
When people are on the waiting list, it is important that you be responsible about either changing your RSVP to "No" early enough so that others may attend, or actually attend. It is frustrating to see 4 empty seats with 3 people on the waiting list.
The venue where we meet is offered to us for free, but there is a jar for contributions. Feel free to drop $1 or so in if you wish to and can afford to.
Please sign up for each Discussion, even if there is a waiting list, so that I can determine whether it makes sense to offer the same topic a second time