Past Meetup

Self-Realization, Actualization, Individuation, through Differentiation

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Rockville Memorial Library, Study Room (2nd Floor)

21 Maryland Avenue · Rockville, MD

How to find us

2nd floor - Collaboration Study Room - Look in comments for specific room #

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Have you ever really explored who you really are? What are you really all about? How much do you really know about yourself? What's left if you drop your main identities (work, likes, childhood, hobbies)? Frustrated with obsessing over boundaries & definitions?

Let's explore the concepts of Self-Differentiation & Emotional Triangles originated from Murray Bowen's Family Systems Theory model of human behavior.

"A person with a well-differentiated “self” recognizes his realistic dependence on others, but he can stay calm and clear headed enough in the face of conflict, criticism, and rejection to distinguish thinking rooted in a careful assessment of the facts from thinking clouded by emotionality. Thoughtfully acquired principles help guide decision-making about important family and social issues, making him less at the mercy of the feelings of the moment. What he decides and what he says matches what he does. He can act selflessly, but his acting in the best interests of the group is a thoughtful choice, not a response to relationship pressures. Confident in his thinking, he can support others’ views without being a disciple or reject others’ views without polarizing the differences. He defines himself without being pushy and deals with pressure to yield without being wishy-washy." excerpt from -

"When you confront yourself, your partner can no longer control you through your shortcomings. You have to do four things: confront yourself and heed your own counsel, soothe your own heart, emotionally unhook from your partner, and stand up and face the music. These are your Four points of Balance." Dr. David Schnarch, Desire and Intimacy, p 149.

Bowenian Therapy 10min overview -
Differentiation approach for Leadership 7min -
Jerry Wise "Basics of Self Differentiation" -

Tentative Agenda:
7:00pm Social, Introductions & Setup
7:20pm facilitated meeting (presentation & materials, interactive discussion, Q&A, feedback)
8:45pm finish

Bring your own bottled water, no food allowed.

2 hour free parking validation scanner ( left side of library lobby entrance for parking garages A, B, & C.
$2.00 flat fee all evening parking available at Montgomery County garage on Monroe St near E. Montgomery Ave intersection. __________________________________________________________
Please RSVP mindfully, as there is Limited Space in the collaboration room.

RSVP responses are used to help prepare materials & structure for the meeting.