addressalign-toparrow-leftarrow-rightbackbellblockcalendarcameraccwcheckchevron-downchevron-leftchevron-rightchevron-small-downchevron-small-leftchevron-small-rightchevron-small-upchevron-upcircle-with-checkcircle-with-crosscircle-with-pluscrossdots-three-verticaleditemptyheartexporteye-with-lineeyefacebookfolderfullheartglobegmailgooglegroupsimageimagesinstagramlinklocation-pinm-swarmSearchmailmessagesminusmoremuplabelShape 3 + Rectangle 1outlookpersonJoin Group on CardStartprice-ribbonShapeShapeShapeImported LayersImported LayersImported Layersshieldstartickettrashtriangle-downtriangle-uptwitteruseryahoo

Touch, Tantra, Massage & Intimacy for Men - SF & Northern California

(formerly Northern California Men's Massage Exchange)

Northern California m4m massage, San Francisco gay massage, East Bay male massage for men

Meet with gay & bisexual men in Northern California (including greater San Francisco, East Bay, Sacramento and San jose, etc.) who enjoy male bodywork for men and man to man massage exchange, male massage and gay massage and caring, sensual touch.

Join us if you are interested in bodywork and m4m massage as methods of relaxation, stress relief and intimacy. We welcome both experienced as well as those new to male bodywork and gay massage who wish to expand their knowledge and enjoyment in bodywork and massage, gay tantra, sacred touch and energy healing..

We’re a diverse group of men who want to connect with other men in meaningful and non-judgmental ways, including through touch, bodywork & socially.

The majority of participants are gay men and bisexual men from Northern California including

• Berkeley
• Chico
• Central Valley
• Clear Lake
• Eureka
• Fresno
• Lake Tahoe
• Mendocino County
• Oakland
• Mount Shasta
• North Coast
• Redding
• Russian River Valley
• Sacramento
• San Francisco
• San Jose
• Santa Rosa
• Sebastopol
• Sonoma County
• Ukiah

Men who live outside northern California are also welcome to join the group, especially if travel brings you to the area.

We do welcome all adult men (18+) who want to explore healthy touch with men regardless of sexual orientation, marital status or other characteristic.

Our group is limited to men 18 years of age and older. Our focus is men who live in northern California especially Oakland, Fremont, San Francisco, Berkeley, East Bay, Santa Cruz, San Jose, and surrounding areas. We also welcome men from other areas to join, especially if travel brings you to the SF bay area.

This is a private group and only members can access other members profiles. See below for how to adjust your privacy settings.

Whether you go for strictly therapeutic massage and platonic bodywork, energy healing, cuddling, gourmet hugs, or a juicier sensual massage, erotic massage, or something more sexual or playful aggressive bodywork such as wrestling or erotic spanking, the group is set up to support you in finding friendly men to exchange with.

Periodically we alert members to events and resources on related topics including male massage, enhancing intimacy, sexual healing and meaningful emotional connection and relationship, and other topics of interest to the group.

You must have a complete profile filled out to be approved to join this group. Please ensure your location on your member profile (next to your name) is correct.

The word massage as used in this group refers to informal, caring bodywork and touch of the kind that friends share together. It does not refer to any form of professional massage therapy.

While those in this group may exchange bodywork and share ideas & techniques, participating in this group will not provide therapeutic massage, massage instruction, diagnosis or medical advice. Consult a licensed massage therapist, massage school, doctor or other health care practitioner for these purposes. Any fees charged for meetings are for the use of meeting space, for supplies, promotional costs, and for the facilitation of meetings, educational personal growth exercises and men's group dynamics. Therapeutic massage and instruction in therapeutic massage is not provided by this group.

Tell your friends about this m4m massage exchange group

Tell your friends about the San Francisco gay massage, East Bay m4m massage and northern California male massage opportunities with us!

Other groups that may interest you

There are similar m4m massage exchange groups in other cities that may interest you.

Consent and Safety

Events offered by this group are led by a variety of different facilitators each of whom is independent. The format of each event varies. Carefully read the event description and ask any questions before deciding an event is for you.  Some events are discussion based and others may be experiential. Some may involve consensual touch and somatic learning activities. Our quality standards include the expectation that facilitators ensure that the event description matches what will actually happen at the event.

All activities are done only with your consent which you may withdraw at any time.  All participants and facilitators are required to respect the boundaries and behavioral guidelines set for the group experience as well as specific choices of individuals they connect with. Some events have more structure than others. To create a safe space for everyone,  our events are not for spectators, and so there may sometimes be specific behavior guidelines for those who choose to not participate in a specific learning activity which could range from sitting in a designated part of the room as a sacred witness up to and including possibly being asked to leave the room. If you have questions, please contact the facilitator of that specific event.

At every point within any event you attend, you need to take care of yourself. Asking for what you want, saying “No” or asking for things to be changed or slowed down is your responsibility if you are not comfortable with what is happening.  Remember that no one can read your mind. They won’t know what you need unless you ask. That said, the facilitator can help you if asked and most often the session will include helpful exercises and guidance to support your being comfortable navigating experiential activities.

Meeting new people can be great fun, but at the same time we encourage you to do it safely.  As would be appropriate with any community group, please exercise caution and due diligence about who you share personal information with and who you meet with privately, which you do entirely at your own risk.

How to update your Meetup privacy settings

Before joining you may wish to update the privacy settings on your Meetup account.

Here's how:

1. If desired, hide the list of Meetup groups you belong to

2. If desired, remove your last name from your Meetup account:

When logged into Meetup, Click "Account Settings" (upper right of screen) Click "General" in the dropdown menu. Click the "edit" link by your nameUpdate and click submit

More detailed directions here

This is a private group. You can review more detailed information about Meetup privacy here

Photo Policy

In the spirit of creating community, we encourage but do not require members to share a headshot (face) photo that shows your eyes on your group profile. If you adjust your privacy settings as above, posting a photo won't cause any problems.

In keeping with Terms of Service, we are unable to allow nude photos ("unclothed persons") whether the image is artistic or not.

Sponsored by the Male Healthy Touch Club which you can visit at

We're 848 Gay & Bisexual Men

Membership is open to everyone

Content of this Meetup Group is only visible to members

Upcoming Meetups

  • Saturday, June 17, 2017 10:00 AM

    Ecstatic Surrender

    26 Gay & Bisexual Men attending
Founded May 29, 2014


Mark E Davian, Mark Davian

Our Sponsors

People in this
Meetup are also in:

Sign up

Meetup members, Log in

By clicking "Sign up" or "Sign up using Facebook", you confirm that you accept our Terms of Service & Privacy Policy