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What we're about
Join a community of women with experiences related to sexual violence in order to share resources and perspectives in a casual, hopeful group setting.
• Use conversation as a means of better understanding the effects of
• Create healthy coping mechanisms
• Share as much or as little as you like
• No commitment necessary
• Drop-ins welcome
• No insurance
• Donations welcome
• Open to the public
• All stages of healing welcome
• Community-led. Not a replacement for professional treatment. 18+
Does this cost anything?
No, meetings are free. However, suggested donations of $5-$10 per session are welcome. This money will only go towards the rental fee of our venue and not to any of the co-leaders. Any extra will go towards refreshments for the group meetings.
How often does this group meet?
This group meets every other week. Should meetings need to be cancelled for any reason, notice will be sent via email and posted on social media.
You say this group is only for women. Does this exclude non-binary and gender non-conforming people?
Our overall goal is to be as safe and welcoming as possible. Keeping that in mind, our choice of the word “women” was something we thought about at length. We understand and acknowledge the powerful reality that people of all genders are affected by sexual assault. However, in the interest of promoting our members’ safety and addressing specifically how sexual assault affects non-men, we decided to make this a space in which to discuss this particular intersection of gender and sexual assault. Non-binary, gender non-conforming, and female-identifying people are welcome to join, and are also welcome to voice suggestions on how we can make this space as safe and accepting as possible.
Who are you?
Abby is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapy Associate. Her past work experience includes counseling and crisis hotline with a domestic violence agency, In-Home Therapy for high-risk children and their families, and outpatient community mental health with kids, adults, and couples. She currently works for a Seattle mental health agency in school, clinic, and residential settings. A recent Seattle transplant originally from Connecticut, in her free time Abby enjoys watching her cat look out the window and eating brunch with her partner.
Cate works in editing and has volunteer experience with the King County Sexual Assault Resource Center and the Providence Intervention Center for Assault and Abuse. Her work with these organizations led her to the realization that a community resource for adult survivors of sexual assault wasn’t available in the Seattle area, which she sought to remedy. She also has worked to highlight various institutional malpractices related to sexual violence in the New York City area, where she lived prior to moving to Seattle in 2015. She likes to run and read and legitimately enjoys learning about grammar.
Paige is a tender-hearted artist with a fondness for DIY events and community organization, which is what sparked her interest in co-founding The Club. With a background in sociology and a passion for people, she felt a responsibility to give back to her community. When she’s not struggling to be a person, Paige plays bass in a band, draws portraits, and talks to her plants. She is pursuing a MFA in Arts Leadership at Seattle U.
Is this a closed group?
No, this is an open group. That means that new members can join us at any time rather than being turned away. Depending on the needs of members and subject matter, we may reserve certain meetings for recurring members. Should this happen, we will provide advance notice via email and social media.
I experienced sexual assault as a child or adolescent. Can I come to this group?
When we formed this group, our vision was to create a space for adult survivors of fairly recent sexual trauma. For survivors of child sexual abuse, there may be some topics that don’t directly apply to you (such as confronting victim blaming, dealing with legal aftermath, negative reactions from friends, etc). If you are seeking a group that specifically addresses childhood sexual abuse, there are likely other groups in the area to serve your needs better, and we would be happy to point you in their directions. But if the information in this FAQ sounds suited to your needs, please feel free to drop by and see for yourself whether this is the right place for you.
Are you going to make me talk?
Definitely not. Our philosophy is that every member’s needs are different; some seek a place where they can share their story, while others feel comforted simply by being in the presence of those with whom they share an experience. Most topics in this group will revolve around how our present challenges are affected by our past trauma, such as coping skills and relationship-building. There is no activity that would necessitate you sharing your story with the rest of the group, or even the leaders, if doing so makes you uncomfortable.
What are we going to do in this group?
We have tons of ideas that we plan to present to members in the first couple meetings. A defined curriculum will depend on what you need and what you seek. These are a few of our thoughts that we will flesh out fully with the group:
• Coping skills (sleeping, panic attacks, triggers, mindfulness exercises, etc)
• Building and maintaining relationships after sexual trauma – romance, family, and friends
• Therapy – when do you know it is time to find a therapist, and how do you find a good one?
• Trauma narratives – using this space for independent creative outlets like song, poem, art, writing, etc to bring storyline and order to our stories, since trauma often “scrambles” our brains’ perceptions of events and chronology
• Sharing resources with others to create a community that uplifts, strengthens, and heals