It’s Not Your Fault: A Digital Conversation

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It's Not You Fault

Motherhood can quietly teach us to carry everything. Our child’s emotions, their struggles, other people’s judgments, and even the state of the world can start to feel like ours to hold. Over time, we begin to confuse love with responsibility, and responsibility with control.

This Space session invites a gentle unlearning. Together, we’ll explore inherited shame, emotional labor, and the pressure to keep everyone okay, while practicing what it feels like to loosen our grip on what was never ours to carry.

How It Works

• Free and confidential – hosted on Totem’s secure platform
• Guided sharing – everyone gets a turn, no pressure to overshare
• Family-friendly – babies, toddlers, and background noise welcome

Meet Your Host
Hi, I’m Heather, I am an Asheville-based mom of two, full-time Totem team member, and passionate believer in Spaces where moms can be real, seen, and supported.