Three Key Steps in Building Emotional Intelligence

Building Emotional Intelligence skills has a big impact. It allows greater calmness, happiness and connection with others.
This session will look at and practice three key skills that when practiced regularly, opens the path to the development of greater emotional intelligence.

The three skills are simple in concept.

Using Observations for events around us - this is learning to remove judgements from our interpretations of what is happening around us. Judgements create division and separation from others. They also make us anxious and angry. They allow us to create a view of the world that we then convince ourselves is real and also defines us. In actuality they separate us from the reality of what is happening in the present.

Building Emotional Awareness. Our emotions are an expression of needs we are experiencing. By understanding the link between sentences we are using and the emotions that are making us chose those words, we can become more connected to our emotions as they arise. This gives us greater ability to identify the needs we are not aware of, yet we are expressing about.

Understanding the role our needs - we are always communicating in terms of our needs. Unmet needs are expressed by emotions. By looking at the language used and the identified emotions, we can uncover our needs. Once we identify our needs, we can communicate directly in terms of them and free ourselves from language that causes pain and division.

These three steps form the core of changing how we communicate. It changes how we relate to ourselves and how we relate to others. They give us greater clarity and understanding.

We will be doing some exercises to practice these three skills.