KC Deep Connections (30s–40s): Movement, Play, Conversation

Very small, slow-growing circle in the KC / Overland Park area for "deep connectors" who:

• run on many channels at once – head, heart, body, meaning; pick things up quickly, connect ideas across very different areas
• always had a big inner world, strong conscience and feelings, and a sense that you’re “a lot” for most rooms – and would love to be around similar folks who don't need it dialed down
• feel most at home in one-on-one or tiny groups
• keep their presence with others steady, kind, and clear
• enjoy fairly frequent connection if you click with others (a couple touchpoints most weeks) and have room in their life for that rhythm

Many of us will have some kind of Christian or spiritually reflective background and quietly cherish traditional family setups: thriving relationships and marriages, and loving, resilient children. Core values: integrity, responsibility, warmth, and treating people well. We all keep the tone kind and grounded - clean language, low-drama, no such things as explicit content.

This will feel like “home” if most of this is already true for you:

• You’ve been “the intense one” – strong mind, strong heart, strong sense of what’s right.
• You prefer deep connection with a few people over general socializing.
• You enjoy being in your body and staying active – racquet sports, walks, runs, hikes, lifting, yoga, kid play, or similar. You either have a steady rhythm with that or you’re easing back in and know doing it with a few like-minded people would help.
• You care about how you show up in your body, your energy, and your character.
• Status, ego, and image matter little to you compared to being solid, kind, and trustworthy.

You might resonate with things like:

> “Deep one-on-one relating is key for me. I keep my circle small and tight because time, energy, and attention are limited resources.”

> “One of the few ways I reach a flow state is through deep and clear connection. Clear channels, mutual attunement, and self-containment feel like true mirroring.”

> “Finding my correct partner and a few mutually orienting peers would be game changing. I wasn’t built to be alone; deep co-regulation makes life feel worth living.”

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What we’ll do
Offer a few similarly wired people repeated exposure to one another, helping create safety and allowing connection and trust to grow at a natural pace through things like:

• Tiny active + connection meetups (pickleball or tennis with built-in time to chat before/after, walk-and-talks, gentle hikes where the pace leaves room for conversation)
• Simple hangs like coffee, shared meals, park time (sometimes with kids), or music/creative nights where the point is to linger, talk, and actually get to know each other
• Combo evenings for those who like both – a short game or walk followed by coffee, a snack, or a sit-down conversation
• Optional chances, for those who want it, to explore gentle spiritual spaces or practices together

If this reads less like a goal and more like “that’s just how I already am” — if this feels close to your natural shape — you’re probably the right kind of person for this space, and are welcome to join and feel it out. ✌🏻 We’ll keep the circle small and very attuned, and see how it wants to grow.

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About your host
I’m Rob, a KC/Overland Park local who’s spent years raising kids, coaching their sports, and — when not married — hosting tennis/pickleball/soccer teams for those finding ourselves in the same boat, and moving through churches, small groups and onlinr communities across the metro and wider. In my current season, I am starting this as a tiny circle for people who are pretty reflective, values-serious, active, kindhearted, fun-loving, and looking for a potentially steady “home base” of depth and connection. If you try and no one in the mix is for you at that time, absolutely bounce with zero hard feelings and you are always welcome back. I am fine with rotation or a few staple attendees, as these things go. ✌🏻

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More optional reading below
For the few who really resonate with this...
The group description is the short version of what this space is about.
This is the longer, inside-language version — for the people who read it and feel like it’s describing their nervous system.
If most of this feels familiar, you’re probably extra in the right place.

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How some of us are wired
You might resonate with things like:

> “I enjoy diving deeply into relationship with one person at a time, exploring each other’s internal universe in as many ways as possible and agreeable.”

> “I enjoy cultivating interdependence and shared meaning from a place of joy and mutual attunement; it is play for me.”

> “I have found I can bond deeply with literally one person at a time in an interaction. If another person joins, my whole system contracts in confusion and I reflexively start masking.”

> “Deep one-on-one relating is key for me. I keep my circle small and tight because time, energy, and attention are limited resources.”

> “Finding other people who are integrated and mutually oriented for relational attunement would be game changing for me.”

> “There appear to be different types of presence and connection. I thrive in relational differentiation and connection through orientation. Both people are tracking the relationship; the attunement labor is shared.”

> “Finding people who are naturally mutually orienting has been a strange breath of fresh air — relating feels rich, dense, immediate, alive, and full of reflection.”

> “One of the few ways I reach a flow state is through deep and clear connection. We keep ‘clear channels’ with ourselves by being present, attuned, regulated as a baseline, aware, self-contained, and then we can offer that presence to someone else. It’s effortful, but so rewarding. This is true mirroring.”

> “I am looking for peers who enjoy high-bandwidth, compassionate, nonlinear dialogue — one-on-one chats or very small groups are my sweet spot.”

> “Finding my correct partner would change everything for me. In a non-codependent way, I feel I wasn’t built to be alone. I’d genuinely thrive into the person I am to become with a right partnership and the growth and support that comes with it. Deep coregulation makes life feel worth living.”

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What this space is really trying to hold
Underneath the activities (pickleball, walks, coffee, games), the hope is to find a few people who:

• are one-one-one or tiny-group primary
• enjoy high-bandwidth, emotionally aware connection
• like life side by side and in motion as a primary feature, and also enjoy the slow parts – sitting, talking, debriefing, and quietly sharing space
• value clear channels, shared attunement, and steady presence
• care about faith, family, and living well in very practical ways

If this reads like how you’re already built (rather than an ideal you’re reaching for), then you’re exactly the kind of person this experiment is for.

Feel free to react, comment with which lines land most for you, or add a line of your own that describes your wiring. That helps us find each other more clearly. ✌🏻