About us
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 (who agrees to follow these rules) are welcome to join.
- 2. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 3. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 4. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 5. Do not direct message members you don't know or haven't met.
- 6. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 7. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 8. Be respectful and kind.
- 9. Be honest and transparent.
- 10. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 11. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 12. Do not show up to events that you're on the waitlist for, or that you haven't RSVP'd for. Only attend events you're on the 'going' list for.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
- 14. Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If you know of someone who has joined our group that has a sexual or violent criminal history please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
>> If a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
Interested in hosting events in the PDX Single 30 & 40 Somethings group? We're pretty much always open to new hosts, and the only real prerequisite is having attended a few events with the group recently. Chat with Kristina W, either via message or in person at an event, if you're interested.
Upcoming events
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Ismo @ Helium Comedy Club (SOLD OUT)
Helium Comedy Club, 1510 SE 9th Ave, Portland, OR, USI can't tell you how many times I've watched this clip of Ismo's stand-up over the years... and I'm psyched to finally see him in person! Anyone want to join me?
If you'd like to go as a group and sit together...
- Buy a reserved ticket for the 7:00 pm show on Thursday, February 12 at https://portland.heliumcomedy.com/shows/346562 before they sell out. They're $49 including fees. (Note: If you get a GA ticket they won't seat you with us and you'll be sitting farther back from the stage.)
- Drop your order number (it should start with 12 and be in the subject line of your purchase confirmation email) in a comment below. Then before the show, I'll let Helium know all the order numbers for our group and they'll seat us together.
The reserved tickets for this show will likely sell out, and Helium will only group up to 20 of us together, so please don't wait to get your ticket if you want to go.
I've set the time to 6:15, since Helium's website says we should show up 30-45 minutes before the show time to be seated. And then we can chat and get dinner or a drink beforehand too. (FYI, Helium does have a two-item minimum once we're seated, but that can be a Sprite and a salad or whatever you want.)
Any questions? Let me know in the comments.
**P.S. If anyone (who's been to a couple of our events recently) would be interested in hosting an event, please reach out to me/Kristina. I'm at maximum capacity for hosting, but I'd love to support more organizers posting more events :-)
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2000s Cupid's Ball dance party @ the Crystal Ballroom
McMenamins Ringlers Pub, 1332 West Burnside Street, Portland, OR, USWant to dance the night (before Valentine's Day) away to 2000s music?! This is a special 2000s Dance Flashback music video dance party in the beautiful and spacious Crystal Ballroom… and the DJ will be sprinkling in some “lovers slow jams” throughout the night.
So come get low and lose yourself in the music with your fellow single music/dance lovers... and if there's anyone in da club you just can't get out of your head, make sure to ask them to dance when a slow song comes on. If they like the way you move, they might just decide you’re irreplaceable. (Sorry y'all. Kind of.)
Here are the key deets:
- Buy your ticket ahead of time, and don't wait long because it will likely sell out. (They're $21.99 after fees.)
- We'll get the party started at 7 at Ringlers Pub right next to/underneath the Crystal Ballroom to socialize for about an hour before heading up to dance.
- We'll give everyone a glow stick bracelet so we can all spot people from our group more easily when we're dancing.
- Inside the Crystal Ballroom we’ll have a few tables reserved for our Meetup group, so we’ll have a little base camp for people to hang out while they’re not dancing — and a place for people to leave their phone/purse/coat if they want to. (The Crystal Ballroom usually has a coat check that is something like $4 and only takes cash.)
- Dress however you like. Some people will probably dress up a bit in general, and there may be some folks wearing their favorite 2000s fashion or a cupid costume or something.
Some ground rules:
- If you ask someone to dance or get asked, please know that ‘yes’ and ‘no’ are totally valid answers that don’t require explanation (and anything that isn’t a yes is a no). But if at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again… by asking someone else to dance.
- All the normal Community Rules for the group apply, such as being respectful and kind, no harassing or overly forward behavior, don't touch anyone without explicit verbal consent, etc. If anyone breaks these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, let Kristina or Cat (or a Crystal Ballroom employee) know as soon as possible.
- Sorry, no womanizers or gold diggers.
Any questions? Comment below or message Kristina.
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Volunteer @ Forest Park 🌳❤️
Forest park, 4040 NW Thurman St, Portland, OR, USDon't have plans for Valentine's Day? Now you do! Come get a little dirty and share your love for nature with like-minded single folks. Join us for an event with Portland Parks & Rec to help improve wildlife habitat, water quality, etc. at the epic Forest Park.
What to expect
- We'll be removing English ivy and other invasive plants. (We might also plant native trees/shrubs, mulch plants, or pick up litter, depending on what they need most this time of year.)
- Tools, training and gloves will be provided, and you don’t need any prior experience or certain level of strength or anything.
- This event will happen rain or shine.
- We'll be volunteering from 9-12. Let's meet at 8:45 so we can all say hello.
- Some of us may grab lunch after volunteering. (This is totally optional.)
RSVP + register
For this event, you need to register (as an individual) here: https://volunteer.portland.gov/need/detail/?need_id=1181209 It may fill up, so don't wait to register if you want to go.Things you may want to bring / wear
- Clothes that will keep you comfortable if it rains (avoid cotton/jeans if you can) and that you don’t mind getting dirty
- Sturdy footwear that can get wet/dirty
- Rain jacket
- Hat
- Water bottle
- Change of clothes/shoes for afterwards, if you’d like
Have to cancel?
If you register and later have to cancel, please update both your RSVP here on Meetup AND in your https://volunteer.portland.gov/user/responses/ account. That way, someone else can take your spot.Housekeeping
- Please keep your RSVP up to date and check in with Kristina when you arrive so you don't get marked as a no-show. We regularly remove people with 2+ no-shows from the group.
- Make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section. These include no harassing or aggressive behavior, no messaging people you haven't met, and being respectful and honest. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to another group organizer (like Brenda, Max, Kevin, Cory or Erin).
- Interested in hosting an event? Please reach out to me/Kristina. I'm at maximum capacity for hosting, but I'd love to support more organizers posting more events :-)
Tips for making a connection at/after the event
- If you meet someone you'd like to get to know more outside of the Meetup (romantically or platonically), give them your phone number, so the ball's in their court to text you later if they're also interested. You can do this in person, or via a Meetup message if their settings allow you to message them.
- Check your privacy/messaging settings to see if they're how you want them. You can set it to only allow group organizers to message you, or to let all members of your groups message you.
Questions? Comment below or message Kristina.
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