This amazing event is Wednesday nights 7:30 - 9:30 PM Raleigh, NC time zone and Thursday mornings 9:30 - 11:30 AM Melbourne, Australia time zone. ONLINE!

### **RARE Series: Body Image, Belonging, & the Need to Be Wanted**

*A 4-week journey into appearance, connection, and feeling "enough."*
At RARE, we know that how we feel in our bodies is never just about looks — it’s about **lovability, safety, and how this effects access to connection**.
We live in a culture that teaches us to measure our worth by how we look, how desirable we seem, how well we “fit.” Many of us carry **appearancism wounds** — the ache of feeling unwanted, overlooked, judged, or not enough. These wounds cut deep. They shape how we relate, how we show up, and whether we believe we’ll be met.
This 4-week RARE series creates a space to **gently explore and transform** the ways body image and appearance-based pain have affected our ability to connect. Through **Transformational Connection**, **Authentic Relating**, and **attuned group practices**, we’ll create the safety needed to reveal what’s often hidden — and to be held exactly as we are.
This is not a space to fix your body.
It’s a space to come home to it.
To reclaim your presence.
To remember that you are already worth loving.
Together, we’ll begin to untangle shame from connection, and rewire the belief that love must be earned through appearance.
Because **you are already enough to belong**.

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RARE: Radically Attuned Relational Encounters

K.L. Thigpen

Body Image/Appearancism Series: A Radically Attuned Relational Exploration

Online event

\*Have you contacted the organizer by text?
Please text +61 434 528 615 (Australia) or +1 919.247.3999‬. (US)
(1) This will give you a chance to ask questions and feel assured about signing up. (2) We need to make contact with you to confirm your attendance!

\*This event is on May 20th, 6:30 pm - 9:00 pm AEST -- Melbourne, Australia time on Kinross Avenue. We will provide the house number via text.

\*Here is what we will be learning and practicing:
https://www.transformationalconnection.com/

Come learn Transformational Connection by doing simple exercises, guided by 2 certified Transformational Connection facilitators.

SOME BENEFITS OF TRANSFORMATIONAL CONNECTION

Greater Emotional Range

People consistently access more of who they are and feel more themselves after practicing. They learn to flow with their emotions, and become more open.

The practices accelerate emotional intelligence and help people to embody and be present to a much wider range of experience in themselves and with others.

Continuous Feedback

The power of the feedback is that we get to witness numerous peoples' real time experience of us. This has a very palpable quality that many have not experienced before. It's not analytical, it's real time feedback that's empowering even when it's confronting. It leads to an organic and emergent kind of insight and growth that none of us could have predicted beforehand.

Get to the Core of What Really Matters to You

While the practices can be intense and a journey into the unknown, they continuously reveal the deeper layers of what really matters.
It's under-the-radar ways of being and sensitivities that tend to be discovered that are typically the things that make the most difference when it comes to your relationships and deepest aspirations.

Surprising Intimacy with Strangers

Eye contact events have swept the world with articles and research showing the profound connection that can take place with strangers within just a few minutes of eye contact. We utilize this and take it farther. We give tools for deep communication that enable participants to go into each other’s depths and innocence.

A Particle Accelerator for Human Development

We’ve frequently observed our circles working in this way, basically just accelerating our aliveness and awakening through the energy generated within the circle.
Heightened states, deeper life experience, and clearer perspective.
Build self-trust and expand beyond the self
People often get a visceral experience of our interconnectivity and other transpersonal experiences through the practices. There is no attempt to make anything happen; we start from what is present and from there unity and flow states of consciousness are quite common.

Connection as the Cure for Addiction

There’s growing evidence and understanding around the fundamental nature of the importance of human connection and it’s link to resolving addictions. We're specialists in facilitating a greater connection to self and other. We’ve seen numerous addictions be transcended as people begin to experience greater degrees of connection.

Getting our Bodies Back

It’s very common for people to be living disengaged from their bodies and coming more from their "head space." There's such a potential beyond this disconnected mode of expression. These practices help ease us back into our bodies and our beautiful human potentials.

Authenticity

These practices help us develop our willingness to reveal our truth and be direct and open in our communication.

Getting Out of Our Own Way

This is a common experience for people. The sense of accessing something greater than ourselves that is more powerful and beautiful than anything you could make happen. From here, people become more at ease and more in touch with their natural inspiration.

Jonathan

Irene Quintavalle

Practice Human Connection Skills; Level Up Relationally

Jono’s house

## **Personality, Presence, & the Power to Choose: A 6-Week RARE Pod Dedicated to Understanding Ourselves & Others Through Personality Theory**

### **See how you’ve adapted — and how to be connected to the most natural parts of you.**

Join a 6-week online journey, imbued with the core practices of **RARE**, alongside the powerful psychological framework of **Personality Adaptations** — a model developed by Vann Joines and Ian Stewart and grounded in **Transactional Analysis**. K.L. Thigpen is a long-time student of Vann Joines and a Certified Instructor in Personality Focused Treatment through Vann's Southeast Institute for Group and Family Therapy in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

We will compare the 6 personality adaptations with the 5 NARM core survival styles.

**The NARM Core Survival Styles**

* Connection Survival Style. People with this survival style usually feel disconnected from themselves, their bodies, and other people. ...
* Attunement Survival Style. ...
* Trust Survival Style. ...
* Autonomy Survival Style. ...
* Love-Sexuality Survival Style.

In the Personality Pod, you’ll learn how your adaptive strategies — the ones that help you survive and perform — may also be limiting your capacity for presence, connection, and choice. You’ll be gently guided toward something deeper: the truth of who you are beneath the adaptation.

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### 💡 What We’ll Do Together

* Take a **Personality Adaptation questionnaire** to identify your core style of adapting to relational wounding.
* Explore how these adaptations show up in your relationships, your defenses, and your sense of self.
* Study essential pieces of **Transactional Analysis** to understand the internal “scripts” driving your patterns.
* Engage in daily and weekly **States of Awareness Training** and **Transformational Connection.**
* Practice **Authentic Relating Games** that bring insight, intimacy, and aliveness to every session.
* Learn the language of **attuned boundaries, embodied truth, and relational repair.**

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### 🔮 What You’ll Walk Away With

* Insight into your core relational survival strategies.
* Tools to shift from reactivity to presence.
* A deeper ability to feel, express, and connect authentically.
* Relational skills that support safety *and* intimacy.
* New choices. New awareness. A new way of being with others — and yourself.

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### 🌀 Program Details:

**🗓 Dates:** May 6th - June 10th, 2025.
**⏰ Time:** 7:15pm - 9:15pm Raleigh Tuesday nights; 9:15am - 11:15am Melbourne Wednesday mornings.
**📍 Location:** Zoom.
**👥 Group Size:** Limited to 8 participants for intimacy and depth.
**💸 Cost:**

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### 🧠 Who This Is For:

This group is for people who are ready to go deeper — into themselves, their patterns, and their power to transform through connection. Therapists, seekers, feelers, and humans of all kinds are welcome.
No prior experience with RARE, Transactional Analysis, or Personality Adaptations is needed — just a willingness to explore, reveal, and relate.

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Personality & Presence: a Radically Attuned Relational Experience

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