Olympia Discussion: The Boundary Wake-Up Call: From Resentment to Respect

Welcome to this week’s women’s circle! Tonight, we’ll focus on connection and self-discovery. We’ll begin with a fun icebreaker to set the tone and get to know one another better. From there, we’ll explore the evening’s topic, 'The Boundary Wake-Up Call: From Resentment to Respect,' through open discussion, sharing our thoughts, and reflecting on personal experiences. This gathering is a space to connect, grow, and be inspired by one another’s journeys. We’ll close with a moment to set intentions, leaving with fresh perspectives and a sense of support. Let’s dive in and make this time meaningful together!

Below is the "Mindful Musing" for the week which includes our Main Topic and some questions for us to explore together!

You say yes… but your gut clenches. You smile… but your chest feels heavy. You show up… but you’re secretly hoping they cancel. That’s not kindness. That’s self-abandonment.

Most of us weren’t taught boundaries—we were taught control, compliance, or collapse. We learned to keep the peace, not honor the truth. We were rewarded for being agreeable, accommodating, available. And we wondered why we felt resentful.

Here’s the truth: resentment is often the smoke signal for a violated boundary. And boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re sacred. They’re the way you tell the world, “This is where I end, and where you begin.” They’re not about pushing people away. They’re about staying rooted in yourself while staying in connection with others.

This session is about the shift from silent seething to sovereign self-respect. We’ll explore where you’re leaking energy, where you’re still trying to control outcomes, and what it feels like to build boundaries that actually protect your peace.

No is not a rejection. It’s a declaration: I matter too.

### Discussion Questions

1. Where in your life do you feel the most resentment—and what boundary might be missing there?
2. What situations leave you feeling drained, overextended, or obligated?
3. What’s one area where you say yes when you really mean no?
4. How do you feel when others set boundaries with you?
5. What’s the difference between setting a boundary and trying to control someone else’s behavior?
6. What were you taught about boundaries growing up?
7. How do you typically respond when someone crosses a line with you?
8. What would it feel like to trust that you don’t have to over-explain your “no”?
9. What’s one “leak” in your energy or attention that you’re ready to seal up?
10. What does self-respect look like in action—in your calendar, your conversations, your commitments?