You’re Not a Bad Parent: Anger as a Healthy Signal

Do you ever hear yourself snap or shout at your child, then sit there thinking, “Why did I do that again?”
Or do you hold everything in to keep the peace, and end up feeling drained, resentful and invisible?
This 90‑minute online workshop looks at anger as a signal, not a character flaw—so you can understand what it’s trying to tell you and use it to ask for support, instead of exploding or shutting down.
Many of us grew up with the idea that anger was “bad”, disrespectful or dangerous, so we learnt to push it down or feel ashamed of it.
The truth is, anger is one of the ways your body says, “Something here isn’t okay for me.” It points to crossed limits, missing support or unspoken needs.
When we don’t have skills for working with anger, it tends to leak out as:

• Sharp comments or shouting
• Slamming cupboards or walking away mid‑conversation
• Going numb and shutting people out
• Turning all of that anger in on ourselves

This webinar is about making room for anger in a safe way—so it becomes useful information, not something you have to fear or fight.

What we’ll cover
In clear, parent‑friendly language, we’ll explore:

Anger as a healthy emotion
Why anger is a normal, protective feeling that shows up when something matters to you, and what happens when it’s shamed or ignored.

From anger to need: a simple script
A three‑step way to move from “I’m furious” to “Here’s what I feel, what I need, and what I’m asking for”:

• Feeling – “I feel overwhelmed / alone / taken for granted…”
• Need – “…and I need more support / a break / a clearer plan…”
• Specific ask – “…could you do X on these two nights / at this time?”

The “hint and hope” pattern
How many of us drop hints (“It’d be nice if you helped more…”) and hope others will read our minds, instead of naming what we actually need—and why that keeps anger simmering.

Holding ‘two things are true’
Learning to hold mixed feelings, like:

• “I adore my child and sometimes miss my old life.”
• “I love my family and I am completely worn out.”

How this both‑and stance softens the internal “I’m a terrible parent” story and lowers shame.

How anger links to boundaries and repair
Using anger as a cue that a boundary or system needs adjusting, rather than a cue to punish or disappear—and what repair can sound like when you have shouted or shut down.
You’ll leave with one or two real‑life “feeling → need → specific ask” sentences written for your own situation, plus a small experiment to try during the week.

Who this is for
This session is for you if:

• You find yourself shouting, slamming doors or going very quiet—and then sitting in a puddle of guilt afterwards.
• You tend to push your own needs to the bottom of the list until something small tips you over the edge.
• You’d like to handle your own anger more calmly so your child or teen learns it’s okay to feel angry and express it in safe, respectful ways.

You don’t need to have attended the earlier webinars to come to this one, though it builds naturally on meltdowns & co‑regulation and boundaries that don’t break connection.

What to expect on the night

• A warm, shame‑free space where anger is treated as information, not a verdict on your worth
• Short teaching blocks (no long lectures)
• Guided reflections to notice your own anger patterns and triggers
• Time to practise the “feeling → need → specific ask” script using a real situation from your life
• Q&A at the end so you can bring your specific examples into the conversation

You’re welcome to keep your camera off if that feels safer. Come as you are—messy house, tired brain, big feelings and all.

About this series
This is Webinar 4 in the series, You’re Not a Bad Parent: The Emotional Skills Most of Us Were Never Taught.

• Webinar 1: Parenting Struggling Teens
• Webinar 2: From Meltdowns to Co‑Regulation
• Webinar 3: Boundaries That Don’t Break Connection
• Webinar 4 (this session): Anger as a Healthy Signal – using anger to identify needs and ask for support, instead of exploding or shutting down.

You can join this as a standalone session, and there’ll be an option at the end to access recordings or further support if you’d like.

About your host
“I’m Angelique, a transformational coach and mum who has been exactly where you are. My son went through a crisis period where every day felt like a battle, and I was sure I was failing him. That season pushed me to find a very different way to parent—one centred on connection, nervous system regulation and trauma‑informed support, instead of punishment and control.
Now I work with parents of strong‑willed and struggling kids and teens, helping them move from constant crisis into calmer, more connected leadership at home. I’m trained through the International Coaching Institute and hold an Advanced Diploma in Drug and Alcohol, but what usually matters most to parents is this: I know how frightening and isolating this season can feel—and I know there’s a way through it.”

Practical details

• When: Thurs 22 Jan 2026, , 6pm - 7:30pm AEST
• Where: Online via Zoom
• Cost: Free

Call to action
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If you know another parent who feels ashamed of how angry they get, or worries they’re the only one who “loses it,” you’re warmly invited to share this event with them—sometimes the biggest shift comes from realising anger can be a guide, not a life sentence.